In the work "Parental Love", Jiang Defu is described as the most ideal image of all male characters.
He was born in the countryside, and with his personal diligence and hard work, he was like a fish in water in officialdom, and by the time he was in his thirties, he had climbed to the top of his life and married a white Fumei. He is a successful man, he has his own unique way of thinking and philosophy, he has a happy family of his own, and his life is full of warmth and romance. He has gone through a lifetime of adversity, growing from an uneducated rural youth to a local leader, and he has shown more than just determination.
On the issue of love, he did not hesitate to move forward bravely and protect An Jie's entire life.
When he first met An Jie, he was attracted by the unique temperament that this woman exuded. For a man who has experienced many wars, it is almost irresistible to face An Jie, and only he can be compared to An Jie at that time.
He launched a fierce attack on Anjie, which ended up being more of a decisive battle, and his goal was to capture the fortified fortress of Anjie. In An Jie's hometown, An Jie's family has a child named An Jie, his father is a doctor, and his mother is a **. With the assistance of An Jie's brother and sister, he managed to win An Jie's heart.
Although Angel showed obvious dissatisfaction and disgust for his married life, he still used his mind as a man to endure these disliked emotions and used his own strength to protect An Jie. Eventually, the personalities of the two subconsciously transformed, which is the so-called love between parents.
In terms of friendship, he never cares about gains and losses, and always gives unreservedly.
Although the affection between Jiang Defu and Lao Ding is not deliberately described, we can feel their deep emotions from the subtleties between them. Jiang Defu and Lao Ding's relationship is relatively deep. Jiang Defu and Lao Ding knew each other before An Jie appeared, they studied together, lived in the same dormitory, and were not only friends who often hurt each other, but also good friends who helped each other when they encountered problems.
Jiang Defu had the opportunity to stay in school, and he also agreed to An Jie, but suddenly changed his mind and chose to go to the island. Jiang Defu asked An Jie to stay there for a while before he could go back. Faced with this situation, An Jie reprimanded him for being a **, but he didn't reveal any information, and actually gave up the quota to Lao Ding.
In the work "Parental Love", such a male character full of emotion and righteousness is undoubtedly the most outstanding male.
At the peak of his life, he always remembered his family and touched his heart deeply.
When Jiang Dehua entered the palace of marriage, Jiang Dehua Fu had a trace of embarrassing tears, which was a tearful moment. This uneducated sister bothered him, but her love was deep and sincere.
When he triumphantly married Bai Fumei and gave birth to a child, he did not forget Jiang Dehua. He used the excuse of raising children to get her out of the countryside, in Jiang Defu's words, to let her live a happy life in the city.
Although the relationship between Jiang Dehua and An Jie was tense and his heart was full of dissatisfaction, he never considered expelling Jiang Dehua. Because he knows that Jiang Dehua is a conscientious person, he has a good attitude towards Jiang Dehua, but this is not his nature. In his heart, Jiang Dehua is regarded as a natural weakling, so in the relationship between An Jie and Jiang Dehua, he is more inclined to support Dehua, which is his duty and responsibility as a brother.
In the TV series "Parents' Love", Jiang Defu played a perfect role and became the perfect partner in the hearts of many women. However, no one is perfect, and everyone has a unique personality shortcoming deep down.
Jiang Defu's advantages are indeed desirable, but deep in everyone's heart, there are some imperfections. We acknowledge these goodness, but we must also be brave enough to confront these imperfections.
It is only by acknowledging the imperfections that exist that we can truly begin to strive for perfection.
Jiang Defu has both hatred and regret for Zhang Guilan.
For Jiang Defu, Zhang Guilan is the deepest pain in his life. Zhang Guilan is going to divorce Jiang Defu. Because of this woman's presence, he lost his male dignity and love, and even chose to remarry in his thirties. As Jiang Defu's spouse, Zhang Guilan's behavior is wrong, and this fact is beyond doubt.
When he was young, Jiang Defu's attitude towards Zhang Guilan was not widely recognized. Because in her eyes, Jiang Defu is a "good man" and "good husband".However, he did not believe this. In Jiang Defu's mind, the marriage between Zhang Guilan and him was the decision of his parents, and it was also the words of the matchmaker that he had to accept.
If you can't convince your parents and fate, then you should take responsibility for coping.
He married Zhang Guilan, but did not regard her as his real wife. After Zhang Guilan died on the front line, Jiang Defu knew that his wife was staying well on the battlefield. Not long after she got married, she rushed to the battlefield and did not receive any news for three to five years, not even a single letter. Delving into the deep-seated reasons, Jiang Defu didn't really cherish this wife he called in his heart.
The person with a similar fate to Zhang Guilan is Jiang Dehua, who chose to stay at home and live the life of a widow because her husband did not have any news. Zhang Guilan and Jiang Decheng are cousins. However, the difference is that Jiang Dehua is accompanied by his mother-in-law, while Zhang Guilan is the caretaker of the eldest brother who lives in the same courtyard.
For rural women, she longs more for her husband's care and endless companionship, but she can't even give her a sense of security with a letter, which makes it difficult for her to hold her line of defense after Jiang Defu has been away for several years.
In this marital relationship, Zhang Guilan's unruly behavior was a mistake. Perhaps because he was too focused on his career, Jiang Defu ignored the needs of his family and let the marriage drift apart. However, Jiang Defu's view of marriage is actually not very appropriate.
Not long ago, it was reported that the lovers from many years ago lost contact because of the war, and met again many years later, when the old lady was already in her seventies, and the old man she missed deeply had a full family of children and grandchildren.
When facing the marriage problem of Jiang Defu and Zhang Guilan, we need to hold an objective view. I think Jiang Defu was at fault for Zhang Guilan, so even though he was not his biological child until Jiang Changyi, he still planned a better future for Zhang Guilan than his own children.
Because of the fear in his heart, he beat his eldest son to the point that he lost his hearing.
The father owes the son, and the wisdom of antiquity never deceives others. The regret and dissatisfaction in the hearts of every parent will be reflected in their children to a greater or lesser extent, and the influence of this so-called family of origin is largely triggered by this emotion.
Jiang Defu was always generous to his children, especially his care and love for his daughter. My father was a secondary school teacher, and he was very strict with his son since he was a child, and he often used strictness to educate him. But in those days, violence against children was normal, and I myself was no exception, and I was at the hands of my parents when I was young.
In the plot, Jiang Defu had a physical altercation with his son because of his bullying of Zhonglie, which was the only time he committed violence against his son, and this scene was extremely intense. Jiang Defu, who is usually mild-tempered, was actually really angry.
From the performance of the screenwriter, we can clearly feel that he tried his best to depict the plot, but could not achieve it. After reading the original book, I deeply understood the core idea that the screenwriter wanted to convey. At this time, I will think of the story of the martyrs, that is, the martyrs in the martyrs' shrine. Due to his son's bullying of Zhonglie, the cause of the death of that Zhonglie was Jiang Defu's misjudgment. So his expression before he died was very sad. This kind of plot has already been mentioned in previous articles, and it is recommended that you re-read it and dig deeper.
Jiang Defu has lived most of his life without deserving, but for such a person, once he encounters an unfair situation, his heart will be deeply hurt and it will be difficult to extricate himself.
At that time, compared with today's parents, Jiang Defu's parents obviously lacked reason and compassion, so Jiang Defu's two sons became the scapegoats for Jiang Defu's psychological trauma. Under pressure from his father, he began to mentally torture and physically destroy himself. In the original work, Jiang Defu's psychological state is described as follows:
Subsequently, I realized that in fact my father had been paying close attention and anticipating a possible dispute between my brothers and Xu Mengmeng. A father is the kind of person who likes to use words to describe his attitude towards his daughter and what is required of me. However, even at a time when I have a deep sense of life and am gradually approaching literature, I still can't figure out this state of mind that my father holds. I knew my father was so distrustful of me, but I wanted to figure out why he did what he did and not that. Frankly, I'm really scared to get to the bottom of things, and I'm really scared of having an explanation that's even more difficult to understand than "refreshing" and "pleasure".
Jiang Defu's eldest child's eardrum was injured by Jiang Defu's strong palm, and it was not until this moment that Jiang Defu found a little peace in his heart.
Jiang Defu owes a debt to the martyrs in his heart, and he hopes to do his best to repay it, which is not only a common sentiment of the people, but also in line with common sense. Deep down in each of us, we always crave to be able to make amends for those we have inadvertently hurt, because we don't want to upset our hearts.
Therefore, Jiang Defu's eldest son unfortunately became a scapegoat, and he could hardly hear any sound in his right ear.
Jiang Defu regretted his daughter who had ended his life.
In the plot of the movie "Parents' Love", the plot of Jiang Yafei pretending to take sleeping pills seems a little unexpected, although we can't fully understand Jiang Yafei's true intentions, but in the original work, the development of this plot is indeed very clear.
The daughter started a relationship with Wang Haiyang, the "gentleman" mentioned by Jiang Defu next door, and Jiang Defu and An Jie supported or even opposed this relationship. Because Wang Haiyang's parents are illiterate, neither Jiang Defu nor An Jie can explain to him. After learning about Jiang Defu and An Jie's opinions, Wang Haiyang's father next door expressed this opinion: There are a few nasty girls who confuse them, they look down on us, and we are not interested in them!
In this marriage, despite the displeasure of both parents, the real victim is their daughter. On that difficult night, she slowly woke up from the fog by the company of An Jie. Isolated and helpless, she decided to take sleeping pills, but luckily, Anjie discovered the situation in time, thus avoiding tragedy and ending the marriage.
Despite this, Jiang Defu was opposed to this marriage, and he did not give up his prejudice against Wang Haiyang, as can be seen from the fact that Wang Haiyang really married his daughter later.
This incident made Jiang Defu feel very embarrassed. From some subtleties, we can observe that Jiang Defu is an extreme machismo. In the face of his daughter's suicide, he did not start from his daughter's point of view, but showed some dissatisfaction and complaints.
As a noble leader who can't even control his daughter's mind, how can he convince an educational institution to accommodate so many people of all ages in the future? ”
He is angry at his daughter's gaffe because she has made him lose face and expresses his displeasure with Anjie's continued oppression. But in Jiang Defu's heart, what he can't tolerate the most is Wang Haiyang, this kind of resistance, even if An Jie accepts Wang Haiyang, has not changed.
This is not only a pity, but also a result of character.
Obviously, his attitude towards Jiang Defu is still positive.
However, an objective dissection of a character can not only help us understand the storyline more deeply, but also make it more realistic.
The quest for perfection doesn't mean hiding flaws.
Only Jiang Defu's imperfections seem more real. It's the same with life, everyone has their own shortcomings, but only by constantly making up for them can we find inner peace.
As The Kite Runner explains, true goodness is not the absence of human blemishes, but the fact that we can compensate for future good deeds after we inadvertently make mistakes.