My name is Ah Ting, I am 42 years old, I have been married to my husband for more than ten years, and I have two lovely children. In the eyes of outsiders, our lives are happy and happy, but who knows what kind of undercurrents are hidden behind this seemingly peaceful marriage.
Last year, the old house where my mother's house was demolished, and my parents felt sorry for my daughter and decided to give me all the 700,000 yuan for the demolition. My husband and I discussed that the money could be used to improve our lives or save for the future of our children. However, none of us could have imagined that this money would become the trigger for the breakdown of our marriage.
Out of deep trust in my husband, I told him the password of the bank card without reservation, and asked him to help deal with the 700,000 yuan obtained from the demolition of my mother's house. After all, in my heart, he is not only my husband, but also the most important partner in my life. I naively thought that he would use the money to bring more happiness and warmth to our family.
However, by chance, I unexpectedly found that my husband secretly transferred 400,000 yuan to my mother-in-law behind my back. This huge amount of money turned out to be to buy a wedding house for his brother-in-law. When I discovered this secret, it was like five thunderbolts, and shock and anger filled my whole body in an instant.
I asked my husband, why did he do such a thing? Why would he carry me behind my back and use our joint property to help his family? He looked at me with a flash of panic and guilt in his eyes, but more helplessness and silence. He said that he just didn't want his mother-in-law to worry about his brother-in-law's marriage, he just wanted to do something for the family.
I angrily demanded that he return the money immediately. It's not just my money, it's our family's joint property. I can't accept him making decisions like this, let alone disrespecting my opinions and feelings.
When my mother-in-law found out, her attitude towards me changed drastically. She is no longer as kind and kind as before, but has become cold and detached. She thought I was vexatious and disrespectful to her and her family. She thinks that everyone is a relative, why should you mind the 400,000? The brother-in-law is ready to get married, and now buying a wedding house is a big deal.
The disputes and conflicts between me and my mother-in-law and husband intensified. The mother-in-law insisted that she was not wrong in what she did, and the husband was caught in the middle, torn between a rock and a hard place. The family atmosphere became oppressive and tense, as if an irreconcilable storm was coming.
I felt more isolated than ever. I used to think that we were a united and harmonious family, but now I find myself isolated on the margins of this family. I began to wonder if this seemingly happy marriage could really stand the test of money and profit.
In the process, I saw my husband's calculations and selfishness. He did such a thing behind my back for the sake of his own family. My trust in him collapsed in an instant, and I was disappointed in the marriage. I realized that the relationship between us had long since ceased to be pure, eroded by money and profit.
So, I decided not to put up with it anymore, and I wanted to get justice for myself and for our family. I took out the transfer record, looked at my husband firmly, and said word by word: "This money is our common property, and you have no right to decide what it is used for." Now, I ask you to return the 400,000 immediately, or I will call the police. ”
My mother-in-law and husband were stunned, they obviously didn't expect me to be so resolute and decisive. The mother-in-law spoke first, her voice full of dissatisfaction and accusation: "How can you do this? We are all family, how can you call the police because of this money? You've let us down so much. ”
I looked at her coldly and retorted, "It's not a question of 'this money', it's a question of trust and respect." You are doing such a thing behind my back, which has seriously hurt the trust between us as a couple. And I asked for the money to be returned, which is also to protect my own rights and interests. ”
The husband tried to interject, but his voice seemed a little trembling and weak: "Ting, I know I was wrong, but the little uncle really needs this money." Can you ......”
No! I interrupted him, "I can understand how you feel about helping your family, but you can't ignore my feelings because of that." This money is our common property, and it is your responsibility to consult with me. Now, you only have two options: either return the money right away, or I call the police. ”
My mother-in-law and husband looked at each other, they were obviously unwilling to compromise, but they couldn't change my determination. In the end, the husband sighed and said, "The money has already bought the house, and the wedding date is ready again, how can I repay the money all at once?" ”
I looked at him calmly and said, "I understand your thoughts, but I also need you to understand my position." Moreover, even if the uncle borrows money, he should make a written note. This is for everyone's good, but also to avoid unnecessary disputes in the future. ”
The mother-in-law and the brother-in-law looked at each other speechlessly, they were obviously reluctant to accept this request, but they had no other choice. In the end, they could only nod helplessly and accept my request.
However, my relationship with my mother-in-law has broken down ever since. She thinks that I have no respect for her and do not care about the harmony of the family; And I think she's too selfish and doesn't respect my rights. The contradictions between us cannot be reconciled, and it has become a chasm that cannot be crossed in this marriage.
This experience gave me a whole new perspective on marriage. I realized that marriage is not something that can be maintained simply by loving each other, it requires trust, respect, and understanding from both parties. When one of the spouses deviates from these principles, the balance of the marriage becomes unbalanced, leading to irreparable consequences.
Now, my relationship with my husband is still strained, and my mother-in-law no longer interacts with me. But I don't think I've done anything wrong myself!