In this seemingly calm family, undercurrents are surging. My husband and I used to be college sweethearts, but after graduation, we walked into the palace of marriage hand in hand, looking forward to a bright future. However, as life deepens, the contradictions between us gradually surface.
The husband was a rational and almost indifferent person, and he firmly believed that absolute equality should be practiced in marriage, so he proposed the AA system of life. In his opinion, whether it is housework, finances or other aspects, we should divide equally and not interfere with each other. I tried to understand his thoughts, but I always found it difficult to accept them. In my opinion, marriage should be a journey for two people to support each other and advance and retreat together, rather than simply dividing the territory and calculating the gains and losses.
Our contradictions have reached their peak on the issue of fertility. I have always been cautious about childbearing, and I feel that it is not advisable to rush into childbirth until my career and economic conditions have stabilized. However, the husband has a very different view on this. He believes that childbearing is an integral part of marriage and is our responsibility and obligation as husband and wife. He kept pushing me and even began to doubt my decisions and attitudes.
Faced with my husband's stress and breakdown, I was deeply troubled and struggling. I understand his thoughts and expectations, but I also have my own insistence and reasons. I don't want to sacrifice my principles and quality of life for catering to his expectations. At the same time, I don't want our marriage to get bogged down in endless fights and conflicts because of these issues.
So, I decided to sit down and have a good talk with my husband. I expressed my thoughts and concerns to him, telling him that it wasn't that I didn't want to have children, but that I just wanted to make a decision at the right time. I hope that we can consult together, understand each other, and find a solution that meets his expectations without violating my principles.
After a long period of communication and exchange, my husband gradually understood my thoughts and concerns. He also began to reflect on his own behavior and attitude, realizing that being too tough and indifferent would only make our relationship more strained. So, we decided to put the issue of fertility aside for a while, work together to create better living conditions, and then consider the issue when the time comes.
In the process, we also had an in-depth discussion on the AA lifestyle. I told my husband that I was not against equality and independence, but I believed that equality in marriage should be based on mutual respect and understanding. Instead of simply dividing everything into two halves, we should divide household chores and finances according to their respective abilities and needs. Only in this way can we truly achieve equality and harmony.
Over time, our relationship gradually regained its former harmony and intimacy. Instead of arguing over AA and fertility issues, we have learned to tolerate and understand each other. Together, we plan our future lives and look forward to a better future.
Looking back on this experience, I feel the importance of communication and understanding in marriage. Only when we are truly willing to listen to each other's voices and respect each other's choices can we create a happy family together. And in this process, we will also harvest growth and progress, and become a better version of ourselves.