Whether we should continue or not, we must have a mentality that "it should be tempered".
As long as you are facing feelings, everyone can encounter them, even Taylor Swift, who once wrote a song.
To quote a lyric from it:
don't call me kids don't call me good boy don't call me baby.
look at this idiotic fool that you made me.
You taught me a secret language.
i can't speak with anyone else I can't communicate with.
and you know d**n well.
for you, I would ruin myself, for you, I will ruin myself a million little times countless times".
I hope that when we face these difficulties, we must encourage ourselves, do not deny ourselves, and get through this hurdle in life!
Lack of respect: When you feel that your feelings, needs, and opinions are not respected by the other person, you feel consumed. This disrespect can manifest itself in the fact that the other person often belittles you, ignores your needs, has a negative attitude towards your ideas, etc.
Continued efforts without getting anything in return: When you feel like you're giving consistently in a relationship, but you're not getting something in return, you feel consumed. This could be because the other person is unwilling to take responsibility, is unwilling to devote time or energy to you, or is blind to your efforts.
Emotional abuse or neglect: If you are constantly emotionally abused, neglected, or treated indifferently by the other person, you will feel consumed. This abuse may manifest itself in the form of the other person often getting angry with you, belittling you, threatening you, or ignoring your emotional needs.
Inability to communicate or resolve conflicts: When you feel unable to communicate effectively with the other person, or when you are unable to resolve conflicts, you feel consumed. This could be because the other person is unwilling to listen to your point of view, is unwilling to compromise, or seeks a solution, causing your relationship to stalemate.
Lack of support and understanding: When you feel like you're lacking support and understanding in your relationship, you feel consumed. This could be because the other person doesn't understand your feelings, doesn't support your dreams and goals, or is indifferent to your life.
Constant quarrels and conflicts: If you find yourself constantly having quarrels and conflicts with the other person, and these issues seem to be unsolvable, you will feel consumed. Such quarrels and conflicts can stem from differences in values, lifestyles, or personalities between the parties.
The feelings that make you feel consumed are usually the ones that make you feelNot respected, not understood, not supported, or a relationship that allows you to continue to give without getting anything in return. Such feelings can have a negative impact on your mental health and emotional stability, so it's important to identify and respond to these issues in a timely manner.
Sometimes, when we truly love someone, we may not necessarily get the same response from the other person. But that doesn't mean our love isn't worth anything. Love itself is a beautiful emotion, and its value is not whether the other person is worth it, but whether we have really given it.
To truly forget about a person or a relationship, we need to reconcile with ourselves and forgive ourselves for hurting and reacting emotionally in the relationship. This includes forgiving oneself for emotions such as weakness, fear, sadness, etc. It is only when we accept and forgive our past that we can truly free ourselves and move towards the future. And forgiving yourself is not an overnight process, it takes time. We need to give ourselves enough time to heal, to reflect, to grow. We may go through a lot of pain and struggle along the way, but these are the necessary paths to growth.
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