When he was a teenager, he was supposed to play with his classmates and friends, but Xiao Qin was always alone and unwilling to communicate with others. Xiao Qin's father is a good person, but he has a bad problem - alcoholism. Every night, Dad was always drunk, yelling at Mom and sometimes smashing things.
Xiao Qin was very afraid of his father's appearance when he was drunk, so he hid in the room every time and covered his ears, hoping to keep his father's noise out. But even so, he heard his father's roar and the sound of things shattering, and his heart felt as if he had been stabbed by a sharp knife.
Gradually, Xiao Qin began to become more and more silent, unwilling to communicate with others or play with friends. He always sat alone in the corner silently, his eyes full of worry and fear. When her mother found out about Xiao Qin's changes, she asked Xiao Qin very distressed what happened. Xiao Qin lowered his head and whispered to his mother that he was afraid of what his father would look like when he was drunk, and that the atmosphere in the house would become worse and worse.
Although he was comforted by his mother, Xiao Qin was still worried every day and showed great fear at home. So, Xiao Qin's mother decided to bring Xiao Qin to ask for my help.
Accompanied by his mother, Xiao Qin let down his guard against me, and he explained the reason for his fear. I worked with her mother to help him feel safe, to support him, to show him that we can help him, to make him feel understood and cared for. At the same time, I stressed to his mother that we must talk to the child's father when we go back, and we must stop drinking.
When the next follow-up visit, the child's father also came, and said that the reason for his alcoholism was also because of the failure of the business in the front-end time, and his heart was hit. This time, Xiao Qin's eyes were obviously bolder than last time, and he dared to make eye contact with the outside world, but he was still a little scared and didn't dare to speak. Xiao Qin's symptoms are slowly getting better, which is inseparable from his mother's support and his father's abstinence from drinking, and more importantly, he has let down his guard.
When the child is afraid, as a parent, you should communicate with the child patiently, and you can't scold the child as soon as you come up, which will have a greater impact on the child's psychology. Parents should listen to their children's feelings, let them feel full trust and security, not because the child is unwilling to speak and angry, by observing the child's behavior, to determine the reason for the child's fear.
Parents are an important spiritual support for children, when children encounter psychological problems, parents should help children with psychological adjustment, if they cannot self-adjust, it is recommended to take children to seek professional help in time. If you encounter psychological problems and don't know how to adjust, you can also comment and leave a message.