Wen Ning's mother is enlightened
There are often incidents of stressful and psychological imbalance of children in society, which makes us worry when raising children. It's too rolly, I'm afraid that the child will go to extremes! It's too loose, I'm afraid that the child will not be able to eat old in the future! It's a dilemma and I don't know how to educate my children.
Is there a way for children to grow up physically and mentally and academically?
I have accompanied my children through 12 years of elementary school, junior high school, and high school, and have seen many children's successes and failures, and found that those far-sighted parents will teach their children to do three things in primary school. Their children have the stamina to learn, and they are happy and excellent.
Many parents believe that when their children go to primary school, there will be competitive pressure, and it is time to roll up and play less and learn more. The idea seems logical and fine, but it's problematic.
If the child learns all day at school and goes home with a full schedule, it will be difficult for the child to devote himself to learning, and will try his best to procrastinate and buy time for himself to empty his brain, but will develop the habit of not focusing on learning and treat learning negatively.
Many parents have complained that their children study quietly in the room alone, thinking that their children are studying very hard and want to treat them with fruit. When I opened the door and quietly walked to the child, I found that the child had spread out a book and the mobile phone was sandwiched in the book. When he saw his parents coming, he hurriedly hid his mobile phone under the book, and his hands trembled in a panic.
There are many children who have been good students from elementary school to high school, but when they get to college, they start to squander their time with games, and it is precisely in revenge that they consume the freedom they did not get in the past.
Children need to be relaxed, not to study endlessly, but to play well and learn moderately.
According to "What Grades 1-6 Really Need to Teach Children", many successful people have played freely as children. When children indulge in hobbies that seem like a waste of time, it is often the best time to develop concentration, perseverance, autonomy, and thinking skills.The experience of free play will help your child develop a sense of well-being and creativity, and will become a valuable life experience for him. Cultivate interests and abilities that cannot be reflected in the game.
When my son was in elementary school, he had enough time to make hands-on bricks, play with Lego bricks, play with electronic blocks, do small experiments in physics and chemistry, make various electronic products, etc., when learning physics and chemistry, it was very easy, and he himself was very goal-oriented.
Hu Zhipeng, who traveled with Hui, liked to do experiments since he was a child, was particularly smart, had excellent academic performance, and was directly sent to Shanghai Jiaotong University in high school. When doing live broadcasts, I always use some intuitive experiments to explain the difficult mathematics, physics and chemistry knowledge in simple terms, which is very popular.
A growing body of research and evidence has proven that children's learning ability and reading habits are highly correlated.
Chinese literacy, hyphenation, and reading comprehension need to rely on reading. For other subjects such as mathematics, you need to read the text description and understand the meaning of the question in order to answer accurately. Without good reading skills, it is difficult to get good grades in all subjects.
Especially in the senior grades, the learning content increases, the difficulty increases, and without good comprehension ability, learning will become more and more difficult, which is what we call no stamina.
Many parents find that when their children are in the first and second grades, their grades are very good, and they can still score 100 points, why can't they keep up after the third or fourth grade? And some children do not do well in the first and second grades, just spend a lot of time reading, and the third and fourth grades begin to emerge. The difference between these two types of children lies in the amount of reading.
"What Grades 1-6 Really Need to Teach Children" mentions that language ability is the foundation of learning ability, and whether you can use your mother tongue to carry out in-depth thinking is the essence of thinking ability. Language proficiency is not so much developed through the acquisition of knowledge, but rather through extensive reading and repeated reflection and analysis of texts.
Nowadays, reading is becoming more and more widely recognized by the society, and parents have begun to urge their children to read, but many children do not like to read, and they are worried about their parents.
Then you can learn the methods mentioned in "What You Really Need to Teach Children in Primary School Grades 1-6", which is particularly operable.
1. Read to your child, alternate reading, and interact with your child.
2. Let the child only read 1 page, and then increase the number of pages to reduce the difficulty of the child's reading.
3. Achieve a combination of intensive reading and extensive reading.
4. Choose the right books for your child, not limited to the teacher's designated reading materials, including literature and expository books. Books that children are interested in and positive are suitable for children.
If you only rely on school learning, your child's learning ability may be limited, and there may be a large gap in academic performance.
Because the school's teaching and homework are aimed at an average level, so that most children can accept and complete, it is the most basic knowledge learning.
If the child is very receptive, he will feel that the knowledge in school is too simple, there is not enough to eat, and he is prone to slack in learning and develop the habit of not concentrating on learning.
If the child's receptivity is weak, he will not be able to keep up with the teacher's teaching progress, and his learning will be very difficult, his self-confidence will be frustrated, and he will easily become bored with learning.
Each child's situation is different, and while eating a big pot of rice, they also need to eat a small stove to achieve balanced nutrition.
Of course, it is not to advocate that children go to cram schools, but to develop the habit of independent learning at home, and develop some personalized learning plans according to the child's situation. For example, those who study well can develop a wider range of interests, and those who study poorly can spend more time practicing and consolidating the basics.
According to the book "What Really Lessons to Be Taught to Children in Grades 1-6 of Primary School", students who still excel in their studies after becoming junior high school or high school students are good at home-based learning.For a child who is really good at learning, self-directed learning at home after school according to his own learning situation is the staple food, and completing the homework assigned by school is just a side dish.
It is not difficult for parents to do this, and they can do the following:
1. Teach children how to read, so that children feel that reading is interesting, so as to achieve independent reading.
2. Help dictate the words you have learned to further consolidate the knowledge you have learned.
3. Accompany your child to insist on daily calculation and improve your computing ability.
4. Arrange some practice questions in a focused way to help children check and fill in the gaps.
Write at the end:Accompany the child through 12 years of primary and secondary school learning career, combined with many real cases, I especially want to tell you: if you want to reduce pressure on your child, but also maintain excellence, become a sunny and positive child who loves learning, you must be a visionary parent, in the primary school stage, teach your child to do 3 things.
I'm @Ning Ma Wuyu.Mother of two boys, more than 10 years of parenting experience.
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