The poem says: "When you are old, you have no intention of listening to the orchestra, and it is not convenient to have a glass of wine when you are sick." ”People are old, sick, and have no interest in anything, and they can't do anything about eating and drinking.
It seems that when the old man reaches the end of his life, he can only sit and wait for the end of his life to come.
In fact, when we enter our sixties, we should think of the truth that "the sunset is infinitely good, but it is just near dusk". Different ages have different joys, as well as different sorrows and troubles.
Since illness is unavoidable, take the initiative to deal with it and use the sunshine in your heart to drive away the tribulations of life.
First, look down on life and death and adjust your mentality.
Around us, especially in hospitals, we often encounter such old people: as soon as they open their mouths, they say things like "I can't do it, no one cares about me, and my children are raised in vain".
When the elderly are sick, they really need social care and sympathy from their families. But the elderly should be "self-reliant and self-reliant". If you overcome the fear in your heart, you will be half cured of the pain, and there will be a smile on your haggard face.
Sima Qian said: "If the servant is punished, if nine oxen die a dime, how can it be different from ants?" ”In life, life and death are the biggest things. But compared to the vast sea of people, a person's life and death are as humble as a drop in the bucket, just like a wave in the sea, and not many people can see it clearly.
Think like this: "If the elderly are sick and can live and take care of themselves, it is the greatest help to their children." The younger generations will continue to live well, and they will always be busy. ”
The philosopher Zhuangzi was on his deathbed, ** they prepared a luxurious coffin for him, he felt that there was no need, heaven and earth were coffins, and everything would be sent off.
He said: "Those who take care of their own hearts, it is not easy to grieve and be happy, and they know that they are helpless and peaceful, and they are also virtuous." ”Grasp your own mentality, joy, anger and sorrow can not affect yourself, and you can live naturally in adversity, which is the highest state. From the wisdom of the ancients, we can find the way to live in old age.
No matter what the pain is, don't let yourself break. If you are sunny, the future can be expected.
Second, teach people tirelessly and inherit the family style.
It is recorded in the Analects that when Confucius was old, he fell seriously ill, and Zilu organized everyone to set up a funeral team.
After a while, Confucius's illness was cured. He said, "Zilu, you are cheating. Who are you fooling? Deceive God? My life and death are in the hands of the mourners. Besides, I can't be buried at a high level.
Obviously, Confucius told everyone a truth - thick cultivation and thin burial.
took advantage of one of his illnesses to educate **, which really let us see the character of Confucius "tirelessly".
As an ordinary old man, there is not a large group of ** around him, but he can educate his children well.There is a way to be,Respectable。The older a person gets, the more weight they have to talk at home. If you pay attention to moral cultivation and tell everyone how to care for the elderly and children, it will have a good effect on the inheritance of family style.
When the younger generation comes to visit the patient, the old man takes the initiative to say some kind words and talk about the lessons of life, and everyone will be very happy. If the old man keeps complaining and sighing, the atmosphere will be very oppressive and completely unnecessary.
Third, pay attention to frugality and keep money.
Zeng Tzu said: "After death, isn't it far away?" ”In life, as long as there is a breath left, we must think about the long term and have a hard attitude. You can't bring pessimism and misanthropy to life.
When Zengzi was in pain, Meng Jingzi came to visit. Zengzi said"The bird is dying, and its song is mourning; When a man is about to die, his words are good. ”
Man is wise and cannot die wailing like a bird.
When a person is sick, he will definitely spend money, but he must pay attention to frugality and not spend money indiscriminately. Some elderly people often "rush to the doctor" and treat health care products as medicine, spending a lot of money and further harming the body. You should respect the doctor's advice, use the medicine rationally, and pay attention to the diet and daily life.
To live a simple life is to be kind to your body, but also to leave money and be kind to your younger generations. If the wife is still there, money is the back road for the wife.
When my grandfather was old, he used to say, "Seventy is not a garment." Everyone should keep this in mind. "As the name suggests, everyone should not help him buy clothes, and when he buys it back, it is also the bottom of the box and it is wasted.
On weekdays, when my grandfather had a minor illness, he spent his own money to reduce the burden on his children. His approach is worth emulating.
Man, if there is no foresight, there will be near-term worries.
Fourth, care for your wife and protect your true love.
Young couples and old companions. In the twilight of life, my wife is the most heart-warming person. But you have to face a dilemma of going first and going last.
When you are not in good health, you should think about how your wife will live in the future? Although you can't control tomorrow, you can grasp today, keep a true feeling, and let the living people have no ideological baggage and economic pressure.
My aunt and uncle have been in love for more than 40 years. When my aunt was in her sixties, she fell ill and was hospitalized. My uncle was always teary-eyed.
Aunt said"What are you crying about?" Those who go first are blessed people. Think about it, get the best care and enjoy the love of the family. It's the people who go back, alone, sad. ”
A few words made the uncle's mood improve instantly.
Getting along with my wife, it hurts in you and in my heart. Sympathizing with each other is the most beautiful love experience. Don't lose it.Usually, communicate more with your wife and encourage each other, and your life will be more sunny. And, about those who go later, how to live, will also have a good idea in mind.
The ancients said: "Between heaven and earth, if a white horse passes through a gap, it will be all of a sudden." ”Every day should be cherished and not wasted.
When people reach their old age, life is as precious as gold, but you are always in a bad mood, which is to turn the days upside down, and you must adjust them immediately.
A person's real pain is not illness, but inner obsession, there is always too much to let go, too much greed, too much fear. If you can let go, you will be light.
There is a saying that death is like a lamp going out.Since you are alive, you are a beacon that illuminates the path ahead of you and guides others.
Finally, I wish the elderly in the world to be healthy, disease-free, and prosperous.