Have you heard? Now there is a "new type of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship" that is quietly popular!
The daughter-in-law is very comfortable, but the mother-in-law has a hard time!
After giving birth to a baby, do you plan to take care of the baby full-time at home, or ask the elderly to help?
You see, it seems that it has become the norm for the elderly to help with the baby, and in the army with the baby, the grandmothers are the main force.
Let's talk about the mother in our community, the mother-in-law came to take care of her during the confinement, probably because of the incompatible personality, the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law quarreled during the confinement.
After the confinement, the mother-in-law went home directly.
In fact, Bao's mother's own mother can come over to help bring the baby, but Bao's mother muttered in her heart: This is the child of the mother-in-law's family, and the child's grandmother doesn't bring it, why should I let my own mother take it?
So, Bao's mother rejected her mother's kindness and took the baby herself.
I have always felt that this situation is quite rare, after all, for most mothers, it is much easier for them to have the elderly to help take care of the baby, and they don't have to be full-time mothers, and they can go to work after maternity leave.
However, a few days ago, I saw a news, and many young mothers have expressed their positions:
I'd rather take care of the child by myself than let my mother-in-law help take care of the baby.
It took three years of hard work to bring the baby by yourself, and I gritted my teeth and survived.
And I have worked hard for three years to take care of the baby, and I don't have to support my mother-in-law in the future!
This point of view is quite sought after by netizens, and they all say: This mother lives too clearly!
But if you think about it, this point of view confuses bringing a baby with a pension.
In fact, in the law, grandma and grandma are not obliged to bring grandchildren or grandchildren.
Similarly, daughters-in-law and sons-in-law have no obligation to support their mother-in-law and mother-in-law. The law only stipulates that the lover should be assisted to support the elderly.
Therefore, this view is actually based on a folk phenomenon.
In the general social situation of the elderly with babies, it seems that the elderly with babies has become an "obligation".
If the old man helps to take care of the baby, then the daughter-in-law may treat the old man well in the future.
On the contrary, the opinion of many daughters-in-law now is: You don't care if I'm young, I won't support you when you're old!
I didn't help with the baby, don't think about me when I'm old! "You think it's just for fun?
In fact, many people have already put it into practice!
There is a neighbor in my hometown, and the old lady is in her eighties.
The old lady's daughter worked as a teacher at school, and after giving birth to the baby, the old lady helped take care of the child.
The next year, the little daughter-in-law also gave birth to a baby.
Because the little daughter-in-law has no formal job and does not go to work, the old lady takes her daughter's son home, which can not only help her daughter take the baby, but also give the little daughter-in-law a hand by the way.
However, this incident has kept the little daughter-in-law haunted.
Every time I talked about the issue of providing for the elderly, my daughter-in-law said: I didn't care if I didn't bring a child at that time, so I would send the old man to her daughter.
The old lady's wife has been gone for almost 20 years, and now the old lady is old, and her four sons take turns to support the elderly.
Every time it was her son's turn, the daughter-in-law hid in her daughter's house and never cooked.
The youngest son is busy with work on weekdays, and the old lady can't even get three meals.
Now, many mothers have taken the initiative to ask themselves to bring the baby, directly cut off the idea of their mother-in-law with the baby, and blocked the opportunity to get along with their mother-in-law with "You don't care if I'm young, I won't support you old".
Between people, we still have to be considerate of each other, in addition to interests, there is also family affection.
In order to avoid the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, everyone tried their best. For example, papi sauce, when you fall in love, you will tell your husband that you will not see the old people on both sides in the future.
In addition to discussing the wedding before marriage, both parents will have their own lives in the future.
However, we also have to think that most of us are ordinary people, but we don't have the ability to do the same as papi sauce.
If everyone only thinks about themselves, then there will be no warmth in the house.
The daughter-in-law asked to take care of the baby herself, and her husband's salary had to be paid, and she didn't care about her in-laws.
On the other hand, can men also make requests: You don't care about my parents, I will learn from you in the future!
After all, in this society, evil mothers-in-law are still a minority, and most people are kind.
Moreover, the family is the basic unit of society, and a harmonious and happy family can provide a stable growth environment for children.
What do you think of today's hot spots