You have enough to ask for”。Everyone is a collection of their own life, and what kind of life you want to have, the carving knife is in your own hands.
Tomorrow (March 8) is International Women's Day, and I would like to share with you a letter from Zheng Ying, a special teacher of Hangzhou Tianhang Experimental School, to female teachers.
Happy Women's Day! I hope that every one of her knows her preciousness and loveliness.
Dear teachers, mortals, like you and me, do not live in the worldly world, but always have their own grand or small wishes. But there are always endless trivial things in real work and life, and there are some sudden and difficult things that may make us unkempt, sad, and far away from good wishes.
You might as well take this day that belongs to us women to take a serious look at it and see if the person in front of you has become what you want, and if not, where do you want to go.
I'm also asking myself, want to go**, I hope it is:Live a life of spiritual relaxation, elegant and bright, and consciously noble. For this reason, I have sorted out the following as a visual and feasible path for my own reference.
Be yourself
When I graduated from university, my family thought that my fast speech speed would mislead people's children, and strongly wanted me to apply for the civil service examination. In order not to disobey my family, I applied for the exam and successfully passed it, but I have always been afraid and entangled, because I have serious social fears.
Later, in a quiet moment, I took out a piece of paper and listed my strengths and weaknesses with great sincerity. In contrast, I clearly saw that I was not necessarily qualified to be a teacher, but I was certainly not qualified to be a civil servant, so I resolutely chose to become a teacher. Looking back now, I made the right choice, and I have come to understand one thing - major decisions in life, especially choosing a career and choosing a mate, must listen to your heart.
On the road of education, I have walked for 23 years, along the way, I have experienced a lot of dark moments, and I have also picked up some beautiful shells, such as being a senior teacher, a special teacher, and a national excellent teacher in the year of not being confused.
But I am also soberly aware that these are just accessories after self-improvement, and there are a lot of accidental luck, what I want to do is to continue to maintain a growth posture and move forward steadfastly. For this reason, I still listened to my heart, politely refused the opportunity of administrative management, refused the high-paying employment in some places, and always adhered to the background of an ordinary teacher
Professions, which have never changed, have always been education;
The position has never changed, and has always been on the front line;
The unit, which has never changed, has always been here.
If you ask, why is it so firm?
One is that I know what I can accomplish and what I can't do; The second is that I know what I want and what I don't want; The third is that I am not afraid to be the same as others, nor am I afraid to be different from others. That is, I have a clear understanding of myself, and I am true to my heart and determined to be myself.
Only by being firm in being yourself can you clearly know who you are, at the moment, think of it, and achieve self-improvement in the tension of "who I am" and "who I want to be". At this point, you will understand what Chernyshevsky said: "I am willing to live my life as I see fit: I gladly accept what I need, and I will never want what I don't need."
Of course, being yourself is not about doing what you want and doing your own thing, but about being honest with yourself, facing your own reality with a truly independent "me", opening up your own life path with your own hands and going on with determination.
Dear teachers, may you have the freedom to be yourself, and the courage to be yourself, so that you can have true maturity, enjoy loneliness, and overcome joys and sorrows.
Love life
A young teacher sent a message, she said: "Teacher Zheng, you advocate being born to beauty, and advocate living an aesthetic life with an aesthetic attitude, but we are in the poor countryside and remote areas, and it feels a bit like that. ”
I asked if I thought it was a bit hypocritical?
The other party replied with a "bared teeth" expression.
So let me talk about my mother-in-law, who has lived in a small mountain village called "Bingfeng Village" all her life, and is illiterate, but through her hands, everything has become beautiful
The fermented bean curd she made was as silky as cream; The dried pods she dried were tied in small bundles and used as they pleased; Her salted bacon is salty and fragrant, and the taste is delicious ......It's all in shape.
Her firewood room, those firewood sticks are stacked neatly like guards; Her kitchen, with all the utensils and cooking utensils clean; Her vegetable garden has a year-round harvest.
She cooks a good dish, arranges it carefully, and puts it in front of her as people like; She was planted in front of the house with all kinds of small flowers, and a tall loquat tree; She would even pick a few sprigs and put them in my study when the osmanthus flowers were in full bloom, even if I didn't come home.
In a purely rural environment, she was illiterate and did not understand the sense of ritual, and she was stunned to live a poetic life. Because of her, this home seems to have a stable magnetic field, which makes people have a down-to-earth sense of security and happiness.
See, a life with a sense of beauty has little to do with knowledge, and it has little to do with material conditions, but is closely related to "love" and "sincerity". With a sincere heart for life and a heart of love for loved ones, you can live a life so orderly and warm.
Three meals a day, reflecting a kind of attitude to life, but also hidden a family's happiness code, in the three meals a day to live a sense of ritual and beauty, is a happy family high match.
What people want in their lives is to live happily. What is a happy life? With the heart of the long flow of fine water, in the years of morning and twilight, the days of firewood, rice, oil and salt, the family sits around, the lights are amiable, and the rhythm and temperature are lived, which is a happy life.
No internal friction
In life, do we often experience such situations?
I want to do a lot, but I often procrastinate, and in the end I do very little, and I blame myself for it; can't let go of the past, but also anxious about the future, always in uneasiness; Always worrying about bad results and spending a lot of time worrying; Always worry that others don't like you; Many things want to give up but are unwilling; ......All of these are fighting with oneself in one's heart, not finding a harbor to dock at, and exhausting oneself, which we call internal friction. Internal friction is the self-torture of the soul, trapping one's heart in a cage, "if the heart is a cage, it is a cage everywhere".
Things often go against people, but things are always man-made, don't run away, don't get entangled, don't complain, don't fear, you have the initiative in life. You must know that the essence of life is to see and dismantle.
When you fall into a trough, you might as well calm yourself down, listen to your inner voice, and repair your mind in peace; When you are anxious and hesitant, you might as well do something concrete, and you are busy expanding your territory to the outside world, so you don't have time to fight with yourself; When you face loss, leave the grief of loss in its place, stride forward yourself, and those grief will withdraw from your territory.
The ability to love and calm at all times is inspiring. Whoever grinds you can save you, this is not to glorify the ordeal, but to remind yourself not to fall into adversity or negative emotions. If a person can not be concerned with the past, do not learn from the future, love sunny days and love rain when it is sunny, the sky of life will be free of wind and rain and sunny.
I have a little tip for keeping a good mindset, and that isWhen you encounter something, you imply that "everything is good for me"., so even if you meet gray tones, you will become a romantic Morandi tone because of the addition of pink. Some people may think that this is very Ah Q, but it has a great positive suggestive effect on me, so that I know how to be self-consistent, put my body and mind at ease, like a needle in the vast sea, no matter how turbulent the waves outside, the heart is always calm.
In life, some losses are made to make room for new gains; Some regrets are a foreshadowing for future surprises. Therefore, go all out for what you have identified, but allow everything to happen, accept loss and regret, and walk calmly in the red dust with a normal heart. “Don't be greedy, we can't have everything; Don't be discouraged, we can't have nothing
Worry less
The year before last, I lived in a new house, and I originally chose this community because I felt that it was close to the East Railway Station, with a straight line distance of one kilometer, and I could walk back and forth. However, when I really arrived, I found that walking was unreliable, especially in cold and summer, rain and snow, so I still had to take a taxi.
When I came back from the taxi for the first time, the driver asked, "I said" xxx", and the driver was very unhappy when he heard it, "What kind of taxi is so close". I sensed his displeasure and tentatively asked, "Have you been waiting for a long time?" "It's an hour faster." Oh, that's bad luck for me. I hurriedly said, "When it's time to give you a red envelope, I hope to have a good mood, and I wish you good luck at the beginning of your next order."
Since then, I have experience, as soon as I get in the car, I immediately say, "Master, I'm going to xxx, it's very close, and I'll give you a red envelope when the time comes, just treat you to a cup of coffee, I hope you have a good mood." The other party generally responds with "it's okay, it doesn't matter if you're far away or closer". So they were in a good mood with each other along the way.
In fact, what the other party cares about is not this red envelope, but the grievance and annoyance of encountering a "garbage list" after waiting for a long time, and when he finds that his suffering is "seen", he is relieved. And I, too, relaxed all the way because I didn't have "embarrassment" in my heart.
There is no right or wrong in this kind of problem, and when we are obsessed with right and wrong, it is easy to quarrel, disagree with each other, and even hurt each other. Take a step back, don't care, stand in the other side's position, and the problem will be solved.
I like the poem "Life and Death" (translated by Yang Jiang) written by the English poet Rand, the content is: "I don't fight with anyone, I don't care about anyone, I love nature, followed by art, I bake the fire of life with my hands to keep warm, the fire is withered, and I am ready to go." "How free! Freedom and freedom is a kind of atmosphere, a kind of open-mindedness, a kind of wisdom, a kind of realm, a kind of life and style based on bearing, demeanor and proportion.
All the energy is borrowed, and sooner or later it will have to be returned".As a human being, you might as well be free and easy, do the cause of entering the WTO with the spirit of being born, live in harmony with time, let your heart be peaceful and orderly, live a comfortable life, and live a comfortable life.
Read more books
The development of the human body is inseparable from material nutrition, and if the material nutrition cannot keep up, it will be weak and sick. In the same way, people's spiritual development is also inseparable from spiritual nutrition, and if spiritual nutrition cannot keep up, it will be ignorant and vulgar.
Reading is to sow the need for "knowledge" and the seeds of "knowledge" in the depths of the heart, and when the seeds germinate, they become knowledge, and then turn into spiritual nourishment. You know,".Knowledge, even if it is an illusion of knowledge, will become your armor, protecting you from ignorance.
Some people may wonder if they have read a lot of books since they were young, but they have forgotten most of them, so what is the point of reading? In fact, they do not disappear, but are decomposed and digested into small molecules under the action of various enzymes, and then enter the bloodstream to transfuse the whole body, and then enter the cells, and then under the action of enzymes, they are assembled into macromolecules needed by the body in a certain order, and become a part of our flesh and blood.
Sanmao has a classic saying, she said, "Reading more, the appearance naturally changes, many times, I may think that many of the books I have read have become a passing cloud, no longer remember, in fact, they are still potential." In temperament, in conversation, in the boundlessness of the mind, of course, it may also be revealed in life and words", I think so!
When I read aesthetic classics such as "Aesthetic Walk", I learned to look at things with an aesthetic eye; When I read Reed's "Things on the Earth", I will consciously get close to the land and remind myself to be rooted in the "earth" from time to time. When I read historical works such as "Ten Thousand Ancient Rivers", I will take the initiative to explore a little bit of historical secrets ......
Reading does not necessarily bring success in the worldly definition, but it can certainly bring about the improvement of thoughts, minds, insights, temperament, and realms, and these are a person's hidden capital and a person's long-term recommendation letter.
Reading, like any other cultivation, is gradual. Only with accumulated efforts can we have the strength to accumulate steadily, not to become unattainable in the eyes of others, but to quietly become a better version of ourselves.
Everyone is a collection of their own life, and what kind of life you want to have, the carving knife is in your own hands. You have enough to ask for”。May you live a life of spiritual relaxation, the sky of the soul is fragrant with birds and flowers, elegant and bright, and consciously noble.
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Happy Women's Day!
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The author of this article is Zheng Ying, a special teacher of Hangzhou Tianhang Experimental School, and the editor of this article is Jia Wenyi.
Editor-in-charge: Jia Wenyi.