A male friend asked me to give him advice before, because he had the intention of continuing to understand a girl on a blind date, but he had several failed blind dates before, and sometimes he used too much force, and he was afraid that he would scare the other party again this time, so I asked him to give him ideas. Then he pursued each other at my suggestion, and recently told me the good news that the two are about to get married, and today I will talk about how to improve the success rate of the pursuit in the face of the girl he likes from a woman's perspective.
One. Find out how the girl thinks about herself. When many boys find out that they have a crush on girls, they don't care what the other party thinks, and they chase and beat them first, which often backfires. In ancient times, wars were all about knowing oneself and knowing that the other side would win all battles, so in the pursuit of girls, you also need to understand the other party's impression of yourself, if the impression is positive, then the boy can increase his strength and take the initiative;If the other party's impression of themselves is not very good, then it is not advisable to use too much force, which will make the other party disgusted, and you can pursue it in a gentle and gradual way.
Two. The specific mode of dating is mostly arranged according to the preferences of the girl. Many guys will think that their arrangement is unique in the process of pursuing girls, and they will definitely surprise girls. In fact, at the beginning, when the two people did not confirm the relationship, both parties did not know each other very well, and at this time, the surprise you thought might become self-talk in the eyes of the other party. Therefore, at the beginning, ask more opinions from the girl, and arrange the date place and time according to her preferences, so that on the one hand, the girl will think that you respect her and have a good impression of you;On the other hand, it can also allow you to learn more about the other person's preferences.
Three. The frequency of dating depends on how much the relationship between the two people warms up. When you first start dating, it is recommended that the frequency should not be too high, and it is advisable to do it twice or three times a week. Because if the frequency is too high at the beginning, it will make the other party feel too strong. The relationship is best carried out in a step-by-step rhythm, and the relationship that is too strong at the beginning often occurs when two people are hot-headed and flash marriage, and there will still be some problems in flash marriage, so the rational and step-by-step way is more mature. When the two people get to know each other and are about to confirm the relationship or have already confirmed the relationship, the two can increase the frequency of their dates to get to know each other better.
Four. After confirming the relationship, you can give a small surprise from time to time according to what you know about the other person. If you want to increase the heat of love, adding small surprises from time to time is the icing on the cake. In order to prevent the surprise from turning into a fright, let the guy first arrange the date according to the girl's preferences and wishes, and wait until the boy understands the girl's personality and preferences for a period of time, and then arrange some small surprises from time to time according to the other party's preferences, which will make your relationship warm up instantly.
Five. To go in the direction of marriage, you also need to observe each other's three views and family. It is not smooth sailing from falling in love to entering marriage smoothly, and the most important thing to complete this leap is to "be the right person". I think the so-called "family match" not only refers to the family background and growth environment of the two parties, but more importantly, whether the three views of the two people are similar. Many couples break up in the end, the most fundamental thing is that the three views of the two people do not match, and they finally part ways. Therefore, when the relationship reaches a certain stage, both parties should calmly observe and think about each other's views on some news and things around them, which is very reflective of a person's three views. Only when the three views are compatible, can two people go far.
The above are some suggestions that I can take in the process of a relationship, of course, everyone's personality and situation are different, I hope everyone can find a suitable other half.