In fact, interpersonal communication is not complicated, talk about interests when it is time to talk about interests, and talk about feelings when it is time to talk about feelings. Try to avoid letting the two intersect, and your life will not be too bad.
So just be friends with your friends, and don't have any interests. The simpler the way we get along, the more comfortable we will feel with each other.
If you can do these three things, you can maintain a long-lasting friendship.
1.Good listener
Be a good listener and offer support and encouragement to your friends at the right time.
Everyone is afraid of loneliness, no one likes the feeling of helplessness, and no matter how strong they are on the surface, there will be times when they are vulnerable.
In many cases, a person does not need much help from others, but only needs a pair of ears to listen to what is on his mind.
As long as there is someone around you who is willing to listen to his grievances and vent his negative emotions, he can be liberated.
The other party didn't have to say anything, just sat there quietly and listened, and then gave a comforting look.
Moreover, such people are generally delicate, able to find problems from the other party's complaints, and give a rational way to deal with them.
In fact, in interpersonal communication, listening is an important skill, so that we can see through the essence of phenomena and make correct judgments.
Learn to listen before you can speak, so that you don't talk nonsense, and listening is much more important than speaking.
2.Be cautious when speaking
Saying the wrong thing is just as much as doing the wrong thing, and you will get yourself in trouble and have to bear the consequences.
Sometimes, even if you say the wrong thing, you will get more trouble because it may affect more than one thing.
Sickness comes from the mouth, and disaster comes out of the mouth, so beware of the trouble your mouth brings to yourself.
Be cautious when you speak, think before you express your opinion, and don't say anything.
Especially when a person is angry, what he says is not under his control, and there is a high chance that he will offend people.
In addition, don't show off casually in front of others, your superiority will cause others to resent it, not to resonate and bless others.
And when you don't know the whole truth of the matter, don't speak lightly, so as not to wronged the good people.
In short, there are many things to pay attention to when speaking, take care of your mouth, and don't look for trouble.
3.Silence is golden
In some cases, it is better to be able to speak than to be silent, and silent language is more powerful.
No matter how well you can speak, if you talk too much, there will inevitably be inappropriate expressions, and no one can guarantee that there will be no loopholes.
If you don't get to the point, or even go in the opposite direction entirely, the more you talk about it, the bigger the contradictions, and the more difficult it will be to solve the problem.
At this time, it is better to choose silence, although it will not solve the problem on the spot, but at least it will not expand and worsen the problem.
In this way, when everyone calms down, the problem will no longer be so thorny, and even the big thing will be turned into a small thing.
And there is a tacit understanding between people, that is, they can understand each other's meaning without talking to each other.
If your relationship with your friends reaches a certain level, you don't need to express yourself too much at all.
Silence is golden, silence is better than sound, and learning to be silent at the right time is also a great wisdom.