Liang Shiqiu wrote in "Life is Just Like This": "The fun of middle age lies in knowing yourself better, understanding life, so as to enjoy the life you can enjoy and do what you can do." ”
Looking back on the first half of our lives, stumbling, running around for life, busy with work, maybe never asked our hearts, what kind of life do we want?
Now that I am retired, I have time and free time, and I have found that I know myself, know what I want, do what I want to do, enjoy solitude, do not complain, do not compare, do not envy, and live my life seriously behind closed doors, so as to be worthy of the rest of my life.
Schopenhauer said, "Whoever does not love solitude does not love himself, and when he is alone, he is his true self." Learning to be alone and enjoying solitude is the only way for a person to mature.
After retirement, I prefer to be alone more and more. When you are alone, you don't have to bother to take care of other people's emotions, you don't need to deliberately judge the thoughts of others, you just use yourself to accompany yourself, and you are quiet and comfortable.
When you are alone, you can read a book, write something, water the flowers, or go out for a walk alone, enjoy the beauty of nature, stay away from the hustle and bustle, practice your calm mind, and be your true self.
When you encounter a little pain or trouble when you are young, you want the whole world to know about it.
The older I get, the more I understand that there is no point in complaining to others.
Because the various tastes of life experience can only be deeply experienced by oneself, and others cannot truly empathize with them.
Perhaps, when you first confide in you, others will give you sympathy and comfort, but if you talk too much, you will only be laughed at and feel that you are a very failed person.
is just like Ji Xianlin's sentence in "Joy and Sorrow": There are thousands of scenes in the world, joys and sorrows, ups and downs, except for yourself, others can't help.
Therefore, after retirement, no matter how big the matter is, no matter how big it is, it will no longer complain to others, but learn to face and solve it alone.
When you are young, you may pay too much attention to other people's opinions and care too much about other people's opinions, which makes your life so tiring.
As I grew older, I found that 99% of other people's lives have nothing to do with me, and my own lives have no connection with 99% of people.
When I understand this truth, after retirement, I no longer care about other people's eyes and opinions, but put my own happiness and my own needs first.
In life, we seem to be used to comparisons.
More than work, more than income, more than family, more than children...
But it is often because of comparison that we live more anxiously.
As the writer Marshall Luxemburg wrote in "Nonviolent Communication": "Comparing yourself with others is the beginning of a miserable life." ”
After retirement, I found that if you want to live a happy life, you should not compare, cherish what you have, and live with gratitude.
For the rest of your life, you should turn your life into silent mode, live a peaceful life, float in the world without panic, enjoy solitude, do not complain, do not compare, and do not need to be appreciated and recognized by others, and only close the door to live your own life, which is the wisest way to live.
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