Dinner, in addition to eating, can also be planned;Gift-giving, in addition to spending money, can also be affectionate.
Just like the narration in "A Bite of China"."It may seem like less than two minutes for a bowl of noodles to be cooked and served, but there is a deep doorway behind it. ”
People are mixed in society, and "relationship" is like a bowl of noodles, which looks simple, contains a lot of truths, and also needs to be tasted with heart. If the taste is just right, it means that you have a good relationship with others, and the cooperation will be smooth in the future, and you will be happy to eat and drink at the moment, and the exchange of gifts will be frequent.
Although everyone has food and income, it is not the same who you eat with and who you spend money with.
As an adult, in front of the following types of people, you take the initiative to invite guests to dinner and give gifts, which shows that you are quite far-sighted.
When you meet a bosom friend, you can have a meal or give a gift, and the "relationship" is the icing on the cake.
The poem says: "There are fewer than a thousand cups of wine for a confidant, and there is no conversation with a bosom friend." ”Eating with your bosom friend is a kind of enjoyment, although it costs money, and it takes a little time and energy, but you can talk to everyone and appreciate each other, and the depression in your heart will quickly dissipate.
Su Shi of the Song Dynasty went to Yingzhou to be an official, and invited "Zhao Lingqi" as soon as possible, and specially asked for a jar of "Dongting Spring" wine.
Back then, Zhao Lingzhen was a fan of Su Shi, and he must have agreed to Su Shi's request, and he also specially brought wine and invited Su Shi to dinner.
Su Shi borrowed the strength of wine and wrote"This year's Dongting Spring, the jade color is suspected to be not wine. The virtuous king drinks the text, and the drunken pen snake walks. ”
Zhao Lingzhen's uncle made a living by selling "Dongting Chunse" wine, and after getting Su Shi's praise, the reputation of the wine became greater, and for a while, the wine was out of stock and made a fortune.
Later, Su Shi and Zhao Lingzhen studied together how to resist the snow and drought in Yingzhou, and formed a deep friendship. Su Shi also recommended Zhao Lingqi and taught Zhao Lingzhen how to write poems and articles.
Eating, drinking and giving gifts with people who appreciate and understand you is actually the icing on the cake, deep feelings, promoting the development of careers and promoting people's progress.
It's rare to meet a confidant in life, if you do, but you are stingy and reluctant to eat, then you are destined to lose your feelings.
If you are very poor, invite the other party to eat a bowl of noodles and make a pot of tea by yourself, which does not cost much, but it is also a courtesy.
When you meet the poor, you will be treated to dinner, give gifts, and help quietly.
Many people habitually scorn the rich and sneer at the poor.
But the life of a rich man is very lively, and if you invite him to dinner, people may not appreciate his face; When you give a gift to a rich person, people dislike the gift so bad that they don't bother to take a look.
Your enthusiasm, in the eyes of the rich, is worthless.
When you meet a poor person, you invite him to eat a bowl of rice and give him dozens of yuan, then you will leave a great kindness.
As the saying goes: "When clothes are torn, there are few guests, and there are many people who know right and wrong." ”
Making friends with popular people, this is to provoke right and wrong, and with people from poor families, you are a VIP in the other party's family.
Wang Xifeng in "Dream of Red Mansions" is the big housekeeper of Jiafu.
She was helpful to Jia Lian, Jia Yun, etc. in Jiafu. Jia Yun made a fortune by contracting the planting of flowers and plants in Jiafu, and the family became rich.
However, it was the poor old woman who really fed Wang Xifeng - Grandma Liu.
Grandma Liu's family was so poor that she had no rice to cook, so she had to go to Jiafu with a thick face to fight the autumn breeze, claiming to be Wang Xifeng's relative.
Wang Xifeng was also generous and gave Grandma Liu twenty taels of silver.
When Jiafu was down, Wang Xifeng couldn't even keep his daughter, and Grandma Liu acted in time to help Wang Xifeng settle her daughter and help start a family.
Perhaps, not all poor people know how to be grateful, but the probability of gratitude is higher for the poor. It is also in line with the social method of "burning incense in cold temples".
Helping the poor is that in the future, once the poor turn over, they will be able to get dozens of times more help from the other party. Human nature is inherently good, and the most important thing is to "shh
When you meet your parents, you can treat them to dinner and give gifts to create a better family atmosphere.
There is a saying: "The best relationship between parents and children is to maintain a distance of 'a bowl of soup'." ”In other words, a stewed chicken soup can be drunk just enough to drink when it is served from one family to another, and it is too hot when it is close and too cold when it is far away.
With a certain distance, the two families will not quarrel, but they can take care of each other.
When parents are old, as children, if they can often serve a bowl of soup to their parents, it is daily filial piety.
What's even better is that the middle-aged people send the children at home and bring a bowl of soup to their grandparents, and this filial piety is passed on.During the Han Dynasty, Liu Heng, Liu Bang's fourth son, was very anxious when he knew that his mother was sick.
My mother's illness was three years, and I was bedridden a lot.
Liu Heng decocted the medicine every day, then tasted the taste of the medicinal soup, and then served it to his mother.
The taste is bitter or not, hot or not, whether it is hot or not, it can make the mother more comfortable.
Later, everyone in the world praised Liu Heng:"Benevolence and filial piety are heard in the world, and they are crowned by a hundred kings; After three years of illness after the mother, the decoction must be tasted first. ”
Naturally, Liu Heng also became the emperor, bringing the beginning of the rule of Wenjing.
In the family of the Ming Dynasty thinker Yuan Lifan, his father died early and his mother lived alone. The daughter-in-law gave fish soup to the Li family to drink, thus bringing a good family style.
Yuan Lifan wrote in the book: "There are three qualities of a scholar, those who are determined to be moral are the first, those who are committed to fame are secondary, and those who are determined to be rich and noble are the lower." ”If a family wants to prosper, it must have a good family style. And the embodiment of family style is in the usual eating and drinking, serving water and food for elderly parents, and giving gifts during the holidays.
Those who only care about eating and drinking well, wearing gold and silver, and ignoring their parents, will have unfilial piety for their offspring, and thus will not have a good life in their old age.
One writer said, "Whether they are immersed in the fields or eat with their heads down, they never forget to look up at the sky." ”Yes, we have to obey the will of God in order to achieve life.
Parents are our heavens, sheltering us from the wind and rain; Kindness is the heaven in the heart, and the self that achieves compassion; Bosom friend is the day of socialization, bringing resonance to the soul.
It makes no sense for a few fox friends to be together, eat and drink, and give each other big gifts.
People who are truly visionary will be selective in socializing and will pay attention to their families.
When there are more like-minded people, internal friction will come; When there is more grace in a meal, there is true love.