The philosopher Carlisle once said, "Money can do many things, but it can't do everything." We should know its domain. ”Many people think that with money, all problems are not problems; If you run into an unsolvable problem, you don't have enough money.
When you are young, you work hard to earn money, support your family, prepare for retirement, savings, house, etc. I always like to say: "I have money, and I don't rely on anyone to support my retirement." ”
As time went on, we retired as we wished, and we lived a life of freedom, eating and drinking, and seeing the scenery.
Later, when a person reaches the age of surviving, he will find that money is not the only hole card, and he needs to partner with "true love, health, and family".
Therefore, the biggest misfortune of the elderly is not that they have no money, but that they lose the following three hole cards.
First, if you lose your health, you can't spend your money.
My old neighbor Uncle Zhang, after retirement, the husband and wife were sick for a long time.
Uncle Zhang needs to go out in a wheelchair, and his wife needs to be on crutches. Therefore, the two of them had to rely on their neighbors for their lives. Although there is a nanny at home, it is impossible to keep an eye on it twenty-four hours a day.
Uncle Zhang often said, "If it weren't for the help of my neighbors, I wouldn't be able to live this day." ”
Grocery shopping, going up and down the stairs, repairing faucets, paying cable fees, etc., are all done by neighbors. I have to say that Uncle Zhang handed over the matter of spending money to others.
In fact, many elderly people, once they get sick, can't control their bodies anymore, and can only let "others" toss. The body moves between the room and the various instruments, and you want to do what you want, but you can't.
The last thing I want to see is that the old man himself is sick, but the family is in a hurry, and the children are delayed in their work, and the grandchildren are delayed in their studies. My wife's hair turned gray because of this.
Wearing gorgeous clothes and driving a luxury car can show off your wealth, reading can reflect your taste, but health is intangible, and only those who are sick know how valuable it is.We always value tangible wealth and ignore intangible wealth.
As long as you are healthy and alive, it doesn't matter how much your pension is, it always has to gush out like a spring.
Second, filial piety is lost, and money can't buy a decent family.
Many people think that "raising children to prevent old age" is fake. If you have money, a nanny can replace your children; You can also live in a high-end nursing home and enjoy star-rated services.
Grandma Cai Xiuqin, who lives in Xi'an, is over 90 years old.
For a while, the family's house was demolished, and she didn't know that it was good to live in **, so she simply lived in a hotel.
The hotel has waiters, three meals a day are delivered, and the health is taken care of. Grandma Cai lived very comfortably, which also triggered a new concept of elderly care - hotel elderly care.
Just when everyone envied Grandma Cai, many people noticed a key factor - her two sons are very filial, always call ** to inquire about the situation, and when they are free, they will also come to accompany them.
What's more important is that Grandma Cai's house has been demolished, and it won't be long before a new house can be distributed, and the children can benefit from it.
Having said so much, you should understand: no matter what way you use to support the elderly, it is inseparable from the filial piety of your children.Mencius said, "Only filial piety to one's parents can relieve one's worries." ”When people are old, having a decent family is more real than having money. Children are making money, the elderly are helping, wealth is endless, and what is even more expensive is that the picture of a family being together and reuniting is the top wealth.
"Alive" wrote: "As long as the family is together, I don't care about any blessings." ”
With the help of his children, the old man will have the confidence to live, and it is obvious whether the days are sweet or not.
Third, I lost my wife, and I was not happy to spend more money.
As the saying goes, "Young couples are old companions." ”When we are old, we have a wife by our side, we can support each other to walk, although the days are difficult, but it is still much better than being alone.
If one day, you lose your wife and spend money again, but it is difficult to be happy. They will even see things and think about people, and have sad feelings.
There are also some retired elderly people, for various reasons, resulting in the breakdown of the relationship between husband and wife. It's really chilling to make a fuss when you're old.
On the surging news platform, there is a message.
Qian, an old lady in Minhang District, Shanghai, has been fraudulently receiving the pension of her late husband Mr. Wang, amounting to 270,000 yuan.
As early as 2009, Mr. Wang was hospitalized with a cerebral infarction.
When Mr. Wang's condition deteriorated, Qian did not actively care about her husband, but had an awkward relationship with the hospital, and then refused to accompany her husband and refused various expenses. When her husband dies of illness, she doesn't deal with the aftermath. At the same time, Qian firmly grasped her husband's pension.
Finally, the Minhang District People's Procuratorate filed a lawsuit, and Qian was sentenced for the crimes of abandonment and fraud.
Suddenly I remembered a very unfriendly sentence"The most poisonous woman's heart." ”
When the person next to the pillow becomes a person who needs to be guarded against and becomes an enemy, then there is no way to live in his later life.
If the wife passes away, the living person will be very lonely; If you have a grudge with your wife, you should try to take care of your wallet for the rest of the days; If the wife becomes a wicked person, the family is meaningless.
There is a good saying: "It is not the couples who are in their prime who are envious, but the couples who support them until they are old." ”The old husband and wife live a life, two people in one room, three meals and four seasons, plain, bitter and sweet. This is the last hole card in life.
The ancients said: "The father is the father, the brother is harmonious, the husband and wife are harmonious, and the family is fat." ”
When you retire, you will find that every family member is important. When the children are doing well, the old people can feel at ease; If your wife is doing well, she can also get her own light; If you live well, your family can rest assured.Don't still have money worship thoughts in your old age. Money is really not everything, it is just a material in life.
If you want to be happy in your old age, keep your hole cards firmly guarded.
Exercise and stay healthy.
Inherit the family style and family harmony.
Be kind to your wife and be romantic until you get old.
Life is like a game of cards, hold your hole cards to win to the end.