I have read such a sentence: "Where there are people, there are rivers and lakes." ”
When I was a child, I was in school and got along with my classmates; When I grow up, I go into the workplace and get along with my colleagues; When you get older, you leave the workplace and get along with society.
Since it is inseparable from the "rivers and lakes", it is necessary to take the initiative to adapt to the "rivers and lakes", learn to observe words and feelings, associate with people with good character, and break off relations with people with poor character.
The unit is a special group, as long as you have not resigned or retired, you have to meet with colleagues. As the saying goes, you don't see you when you look down.
Therefore, when you meet someone with a very bad character, you should see through it quietly, and then keep your distance and don't make deep friends.
First, overdraft kindness: if you are good to him, he will "beat him upside down".
Someone said, "Help people watch people, don't feed kindness to dogs." ”The words are hard to hear, but very instructive. If you can't identify a person accurately, be a good bystander, don't be nice to him, and don't be bad to him. You have to understand that kindness is expensive, and once you lose it, you lose your priceless treasure.
During the Northern Song Dynasty, Kou Zhun appreciated Ding Wei's talent and recommended him in front of the emperor. For a long time, Kou Zhun served as the prime minister, and Ding Wei served as the subordinate.
One day, the two of them attended a banquet together, Kou Zhun accidentally got the soup on his beard, and Ding Wei hurriedly came over and helped wipe it off.
Kou Zhun said: "What kind of system does it become to give your boss a beard?" ”
It means that as an official, you should do it yourself, and don't praise each other. But this sentence made Ding Wei very uncomfortable, and from then on, he and Kou Zhun raised each other's bars.
Under the pretext of Kou Zhun's proposal to Song Zhenzong to establish a prince, Ding Wei spread rumors, saying that Kou Zhun was plotting rebellion. Since then, Kou Zhun's future has been ruined.
In the workplace, it is understandable to help each other. When you encounter something difficult, you can talk to a colleague and you can get good advice and provide some resources.
It is a good thing for a boss to promote a subordinate, a person at the same level recommends you, and a subordinate praises the boss, but a person with poor character, once he climbs up, will show off his might, and will not be soft-hearted to those who once supported him.
Second, unscrupulous means: like to fight in the dark, and take the interests on yourself.
As the saying goes, "It's easy to dodge with an open gun, but it's hard to defend against a hidden arrow." ”
In the unit, intrigue is inevitable, but there must be a scale. We must not let the unit become a miasma, causing the unit to go downhill and everyone has nothing to eat.
However, some people regard their own selfish interests as higher than the sky, and would rather the unit collapse than reap the benefits.
For example, during the Warring States Period, Guo Kai, the minister of Zhao, received gold and silver treasures from the King of Qin when Zhao and Qin were fighting, and actively proposed to replace the loyal general Li Mu.
When Li Mu was dismissed, the Zhao State was defeated, but Guo Kai changed his body and went to the Qin State.
Betraying the lord to seek glory, ** seeking glory, and framing Zhongliang, such a move is hateful. At that time, we did not know the actual situation before the operation. Therefore, it is necessary to judge the character according to the direction of interests.
Whoever is willing to do things that harm the unit and obtain benefits is a person with a very bad character. For example, people who are lazy and lazy will compete for bonuses at the end of the month; People who don't contribute are always recording the bad things of others behind their backs, and they also use this to blackmail others.
Unjust enrichment, hiding calamity, be cautious.
Third, hypocrisy in the heart: listen to lies, do fake things, and use strong words.
The Northern Song Dynasty poet Lin Kui said: "Those who hurt people with words are conducive to knives and axes; Those who harm others with magic are poisoned by tigers and wolves. ”Words are an invisible sword, and once used by people with poor character, the end will be terrible. If the number one leader in the unit is accustomed to listening to hypocritical words and doing false things, the unit will fall into a crisis.
The New Book records: In ancient times,The king of the kingdom of Yu is very arbitrary, and he is very kind to those who flatter
When the Kingdom of Qiu was attacked by the Jin Kingdom, the monarch fled by himself, regardless of everyone's safety.
In the middle of nowhere,The coachman said, "You like to listen to hypocrisy, and you end up today." ”
The monarch was furious, and his face changed suddenly.
When the coachman saw this, he changed his words and said, "You are too wise, so the other kings are jealous of you and force you to flee." ”
The monarch was immediately happy, and went to seclusion in the mountains with the coachman.
The coachman took advantage of the king's sleep, drove away, and the king starved to death.
Hypocritical people like to be touted and touted, some illusory good things make his heart bloom, and in the end, life is empty.
In a unit, there are many hypocritical people, and those who dare to tell the truth have no place to stay. Over time, sincere people will leave.
Everyone wants to be praised, but if you praise you, you must have something to say and be reasonable, rather than taking things that don't exist as achievements, not as written grades. Otherwise, there is a problem with the character and the soul is polluted.
Fourth, form gangs: win over villains and isolate gentlemen.
Prime Minister Liu Luoguo has such a plot in "Prime Minister Liu Luoguo".
When the civil and military officials gathered, He Shen waved his hand, and most of the people stood behind him to express their support.
He Shen smiled and said, "Lord Liu, you are alone." ”
Liu Luoguo continued: "I am the mainstay. ”
It turns out that the ending of Heshen is not very good. It's just that when he was in power, he was a smash hit, attracted a lot of villains, and turned a part of a unit into his own small circle.
As the saying goes, "Like gathers like, and people divide into groups." ”
People of the same kind are always together, but villains are always better at winning over relationships, deliberately alienating gentlemen, and trying to exclude the circle of gentlemen.
In many cases, we like to follow the crowd and think that where there are many people, there is a circle of good people. In fact, to jump out of the circle and look at the circle, maybe those who are lonely and self-appreciative are good people.
When you meet someone who is desperately trying to win you over, don't rush to agree, maybe he is a villain with poor character.
How do people know people in the workplace?
The ancients said: "Respect for what is close to you, look at what you are rich about, look at what you do, look down on what you do, and look down on what you don't take, five are enough to determine what you do." ”
Judging from the people around a person, the way they behave, when they are rich, poor, and powerful, it is clear what people's hearts are like.
It is also necessary to understand that the human heart is fickle and cannot be determined by the performance of a certain period of time, but must be dynamically managed.
There is a way, the hearts of the people are united, and Mount Tai moves.
I hope that people in the workplace will focus on the overall situation and don't harm others and themselves.