When people reach a certain age, they will find that they have inexplicably understood a lot of truths, and they have become tolerant and no longer compete in dealing with others.
The more you go through it, the more you will find that many things are really who to say, who to say, how to say it, how to say it; In the end, it is said in vain, needless to say, don't say it.
On the road of life, there will always be a lot of hardships and ups and downs, who can enlighten you, who can help you, who can guide you, and who can keep your privacy for you.
In the end, I found that you are the only one who can do this.
Everyone has times of adversity, grievances and pain, but no matter what you encounter, you have to learn to be strong and cultivate yourself.
Whether it is friendship, family affection or love, if you want to maintain a relationship, you must learn to pretend to be "dumb" in many cases, especially in these 3 times.
1. When you have different opinions, learn to pretend to be stupid and don't try to change others
Faced with the same thing, everyone has their own thoughts.
But some people, when others can't recognize themselves, when they encounter different opinions, they always want to persuade others and change their minds.
Even, debating with the other party and fighting for red faces, he also wants the other party to "obey" himself.
The most difficult thing to do in this life is to change other people's minds.
Regardless of right or wrong, the world, or the perception of things, everyone has their own values, and they don't have to be "same".
Whether it's a lover, a friend, or a colleague, you can't impose your ideas on others.
A colleague is a colleague, and if you can't afford to argue, you can't afford it; A friend is a friend, keep their ideas; To love is to love and respect his ideas.
In the selection of friends and soul communication, one principle is followed: no training, only screening.
2. When you meet a villain, learn to be calm and respect the fate of others
In this life, there are really too many things and people who meet people who are not ladylike and do not know how to distinguish between truth and falsehood.
Some people, who show that they are very good friends with you, take a knife behind their backs, and tell other friends all your secrets.
You treat him as a bosom friend, and he uses you as a joke.
Because these people are annoying, annoying, and blocking themselves for no reason.
When someone attacks you, ridicules you, or slanders you with words, you don't have to be angry with them, let alone debunk them.
For this kind of person who has no moral character, pretend to be calm on the surface, do not conflict with it, stay away silently, and draw a clear line.
There are also some people who have talked about the object with their friends, and find that the other party's object has a bad character, so it is good to remind them politely and tactfully, and there is no need to talk bitterly.
Others have other people's paths to follow, even if they are very good friends, when they like someone, they trust the person they like much more than they do to you.
What you have to do is to respect the choices of others and not take the fate of others into your own.
3. When encountering contradictions, learn to be generous and leave a glimmer of life in everything
In any relationship, including couples and lovers, there will always be times of conflict.
When encountering contradictions, don't talk too much, and don't tear your face, just to vent the dissatisfaction in your heart.
As long as it is not a matter of principle, there is no need, there is no need to be more truthful about everything, and there is no need to ask a reason for everything.
To be generous in everything is to let go of others and yourself.
In everything, you must leave a little leeway for yourself, don't wait until you wake up, regret your original behavior, and let yourself have no room to maneuver.
Everyone you meet is what you should meet, whether the other party hurts you or loves you, it is a mutual fulfillment.
It is because of them that you realize a better version of yourself.
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