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What is the time when a girl is a girl and sassy?
It's when you love yourself enough!
Friends who have read my article know that some time ago, my daughter was bullied by her "best friend", although my lungs were almost blown up, but more of it was heartache.
I feel sorry that I didn't teach my children in advance, this world still has its dark side after all, treat each other with sincerity, treat each other with courtesy, and treat others with courtesy, that is for a gentleman, and you don't have to be a villain.
In fact, most girls don't love themselves enough, including myself, of course.
Before the age of 35, in fact, I was not very good at loving myself, in a relationship, I was easily emotionally impulsive, and even sometimes in order to get a good popularity, I would hide my true feelings in my heart and try to cater to the other party.
After the age of 35, my experience made me see the warmth and coldness of the world, and reading made me transparent, and I gradually understood that loving myself is the most important thing to do at the moment.
For many girls, loving themselves is really not their innate ability, but an ability that they Xi after experiencing setbacks and hardships. Girls, at any age, only if you love yourself enough can you have a sassy life.
Today I say love yourself, refers to any relationship, can be a friendship, can also be a love, can also be a marriage, how to love yourself, this is actually applicable to both men and women, because boys also have to love themselves, boys should not love a girl, chase a girl, put themselves very low.
Therefore, this is the experience of people who have come over, and it is also the pit I have fallen into and the lessons I have learned along the way, if you have read it, I guarantee that you will have a completely different quality in the future, whether it is in friendship or love or marriage.
So how can a girl mature and love herself?
I remember when I first went to work, I met a superb colleague, she should be the person I know, the person who will make the most good use of her mouth, and she has to be unforgiving, offending her, and she has the ability to jump you off the building when it is serious.
At that time, colleagues in the same office intentionally or unintentionally avoided her, which also indirectly created her arrogance, and she was more presumptuous in the office, and her best colleague was not so lucky, because her mood was good and bad, when she was in a good mood, she was arrogant, and when she was in a bad mood, she would suffer from the pond fish, and finally, of course, this colleague couldn't stand it anymore and completely broke up with her, but this girl was not so lucky, it is said that she was depressed later, and it took her a whole year to get out of this long-suppressed relationship。
I would like to say that the relationship between people is one of mutual equality and mutual fulfillment, which is the most comfortable state. No one has to settle for anyone, no one has to get used to anyone, we are equal, and our relationship is also equal. Whoever tries to weaken you, submit to her, and submit to her, run away immediately.
Because I love myself, I only accept a relationship as equals.
All my efforts are willing, and I will be very grateful if you return the favor, and I will not be discouraged if you are indifferent, but I will not complain to anyone after I have been taught.
Because in any relationship, excessive sacrifice is often a big killer in this relationship, and it may not be in exchange for equivalent returns, but will make the other party gain an inch and bully you, and these are all manifestations of not loving yourself enough, unless you are willing.
Because I love myself, I only do what I want to do.
What you want, what you don't want, that's the principle. The principles are never fixed and unchanging, and no one is so precise.
When the other party tries to trample on the red line, we should stick to it for the first time, step on her to prevent trespassing, never allow her to step on the line, and have zero tolerance for breaking things.
Don't think that your compromises and compromises can be exchanged for a place in the worldno！No!
When you "have no principles", people will naturally "have no bottom line" for you.
So love yourself, no matter how good and intimate I am with you, no matter how close I am, and I have invested a lot of time and effort, I will not let you step on my bottom line.
Because I love myself, I have my own bottom line and principles.
Only accept friendships with similar values, never get entangled in bad people and bad things, and don't consume yourself or compromise for perfection.
I won't maintain any relationship that makes me tired, first, it's unnecessary, second, I don't have time, and don't convince each other if my thoughts are not at the same level.
Although everyone's definition of loving themselves is somewhat different, in general, loving yourself is not about wronging yourself, catering to others, or forcing the other party to cooperate, but the confidence and charm you exude, so that the other party will respect you.
Because I love myself, I will never compromise or force myself.
There are boundaries that need to be set in relationships, and strong personal boundaries can protect us from those who waste our time and attract those who respect and care about us.
Because boundaries will help us experience the expectations and needs of safety and comfort in getting along with others, and we must guard our own boundaries, and we cannot expect others to be self-aware and measured.
Because I love myself, I set good boundaries between people and emotions.
A good relationship must be based on your own needs and feelings, and find people with the same frequency.
It's not about finding someone and trying to follow their rules and regulations, just putting yourself in a mold and being the person she wants me to be, those are not loving yourself. If the other person likes you, they must also like the real you.
Because I love myself, I only start from my own needs.
Loving yourself is what we often say, investing in yourself, liking yourself, being a complete and mature person, and then finding each other, that is the icing on the cake.
Don't be a good girlfriend and lover in the eyes of others in order to please others, always put the needs of others first, and become a close friend in the mouth of others.
Because you love yourself, you're not good enough for me to give up on myself.
So you see, whether it's love or friendship, or in any relationship, it must be equal, a girl who makes me feel the most beautiful side is enough to love herself, she will always be the leader, the queen.
Finally, I would like to say that loving yourself is not selfishness, but an attitude!
Life is not long, I hope you will no longer consume yourself for unworthy people, may the people you meet are kind and good people understand you, accompany you through the ups and downs, and accompany you through the bottom of life. ”
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