Once a woman is enlightened, how open will her life be?

Hi everyone! I'm Luna, a self-disciplined mom who believes in the power of perseverance as her life creed!

The sun arches a pawn, and the merit is not donated! Let's talk to you today".Stay-at-home mom counterattacksThis topic.

Stay-at-home mom is a high-risk profession, and if it is not a last resort, I advise you not to try it lightly!

I've seen a lot of mothers who got married at the so-called most suitable age, and had children at the right age...Then they were given the surname of their husbands, or they were called so-and-so mothers, in the past few years of life, they have no skills, they are middle-aged, their connections are lost, their dreams are far away, they have no skills, and the road to return to the workplace is difficult and dangerous, and they stay at home, and they are even more chicken feathers.

Day after day, they gradually lost themselves, broke away from their original life circle, and moved towards an unpredictable future, everyone may have forgotten that they were also a group of awesome people in the workplace!

When life hit them hard, they suddenly woke up, took off their aprons, put on their robes, returned to the workplace, and found the value of life.

So there are some stay-at-home mothers, at an embarrassing age, who choose to grit their teeth and face it, like a primary school student, desperately start to learn Xi new knowledge, and then there are many stories of mothers counterattacking around me.

And many of their mothers are like me, because of awakening, unwilling to be just full-time mothers, they all ushered in a new peak in their careers after giving birth and realized a counterattack in life.

Little B's classmate's mother, Lina, was a school figure in college, and in her senior year, she was directly hired by the school to a Fortune 500 company that even many people in the industry admire. When she was 8 months pregnant, she was diagnosed with placenta previa, resigned from her job to protect the fetus at home, and then took care of the baby full-time at home, but she was not willing to live a life with her palms upward, using fragmented time, with the progress of 300 books a year, she practiced a strong skill for herself, and returned to the workplace after the child went to kindergarten.

Best friend Miss J, a former colleague, was in the same company with me before marriage, beautiful and outstanding, level 8 of the British college, full-time at home with a baby after marriage, encountered the malicious difficulties of her mother-in-law and sister-in-law, which made her feel disappointed in such a family, a chance dinner, let her know Miss V, who was doing Douyin, the two hit it off, and shared how to teach the former child to Xi learn English through Douyin, so as to find huge business opportunities, and now the fans of the whole network have exceeded 1 million, so far, her mother-in-law does not dare to speak louder to her.

Friend vivi, the university is a very ordinary normal college (although now her alma mater is already one of the province's top two normal undergraduate colleges), after graduating from college, into a very small family company, contact with some people with a very limited thinking pattern, and then at the right age to get married and have children, and then willing to sacrifice their own career, the achievement of the great cause of Mr., she thought I sacrificed such a sacrifice, the man should be grateful to Dade, but then was slapped in the face by reality, Zhenzhen confirmed the sentence "When a man is rich, he becomes bad", and in the end she took her children and pain away from home and started over.

At that time, she had a strong belief that she wanted to get out of this life and live the life she wanted to live. After that, she worked hard to improve her ability to match her target position through after-work time, and after 9 months, she successfully switched to a large-scale foreign company, and her life began to change significantly.

Because they suddenly woke up and saw through that marriage is not a woman's backer!

Then begin to condense the energy of the full grid, do what you want to do, become the person you want to be, once enlightened, life is like installing an acceleration motor, invincible, so that ordinary her shines in the crowd, dazzling.

Why can such a group of ordinary women be beautiful in the sky after awakening? I think there are the following:

Shift from focusing on others to focusing on yourself.

Because she found that only being a light chaser will be forgotten sooner or later, and if she becomes the sun, others will come to find the light!

In the early days, I had a weakness engraved in my bones, living in the evaluation of others, especially caring about how others perceive themselves, usually a word from others can stir up a thousand waves in my heart, in a group of people, I am also a small transparent, chat is ignored, I will blush when I speak, I dare not look into other people's eyes, only promise, even if I am malicious PUA, I can only swallow this bad breath, no opinion, dinner order, others will skip asking my preferences, dare not order what they like to eat, I don't dare to take the initiative to ask others for help, and I feel that I am very small and not outstanding.

But now, I don't care about these unworthy relationships anymore, I only focus on myself, I know very well what I want, what I love, and I will never be led to a random rhythm again.

I firmly believe that quantitative change produces qualitative change, and start to do things with compound interest effect.

Because they find that they no longer have the capital to "intermittently be complacent, continue to eat and wait for death", which is no less than waiting for death for themselves.

So they know better than anyone else that they must do things with long-term compound interest.

They understand that all things that can be done continuously, all things that can be accumulated, through compound interest, will eventually change quantitatively and qualitatively.

For example, I wake up early every day, study Xi every day, and insist on putting out 1,000 words a day, and continue to hone my skills, although I can't see results for the time being, but I firmly believe that one day it will have a huge effect like an atomic bomb.

I have a growth mindset of "casting a long line to catch big fish".

The biggest takeaway from the past few years is that I have a growth mindset.

Spring planting and autumn harvest is the law of nature, no longer by the small interests in front of the **, but open the horizon and pattern, focus on the long-term interests, just like fitness, you see a person full of abdominal muscles, then he must have persisted for a period of time, there is such a harvest, there should be no one fitness for three days full of muscles.

I didn't understand it before, but I always felt that it was silly to sow today and reap tomorrow.

Maintain lifelong learning Xi and enrich your thinking.

If you want to be an extraordinary person and achieve an extraordinary career, you must maintain a lifelong learning Xi.

Actually, I really want to give some advice to girls in their 20s, learn more Xi when they are young, and improve their cognition.

Because when you are in your 20s, you may not really have a high level of cognition, and you may not have noble people to help you, but reading can improve your cognition, and the books of those powerful people are your best nobles, if you can understand, I think you will definitely take a lot of detours.

Kazuo Inamori said: A person's awakening, 1% depends on others to remind, and 99% depends on a thousand cuts.

There is a saying on Zhihu:

Either work hard to be outstanding, or you are too lazy to be happy and know your fate, I am most afraid that you will open up your knowledge, but you can't keep up with your efforts, your bones are extremely high, and your character is extremely weak.

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