Someone said: "Marriage is not a lottery, even if you lose, you can't tear it up." ”
Yes, when love turns into marriage and two people build a family, it is difficult to separate even if the relationship goes bad.
But there is always a gap between husband and wife.
Maybe one day, you come home and see the people you get along with day and night, and suddenly you are strange, as if you have never really known each other.
No matter how good fate is, it can't stop the destruction of time, and more enemies are just human nature.
The famous female writer Zhang Ailing once fell in love, but love is like fireworks, fleeting.
When later generations thought of her, they all said: "Only ** is the meaning of Zhang Ailing." ”
Indeed, Zhang Ailing's love is like a **, it is a script, and the protagonist is himself.
The parents quarreled, but they were still scared.
Zhang Ailing was born in Shanghai, her grandfather was the Qing Dynasty**, and her grandmother Li Rou was the eldest daughter of Li Hongzhang.
Although his father was not well-known, he was also a civil servant who worked as a secretary at the Gimpo Railway Board. My mother was also a scholar who pursued intellectual progress.
According to common sense, her upbringing was happy.
But unexpectedly, the father was very unfaithful to the marriage and would not only go to the brothel, but also bring the brothel girl home.
Angry, my mother left home to study in Europe.
When her parents divorced, Erin lived with her father and faced a stepmother from a brothel.
The father's casual marriage, the mother's disappointment in the family, and the stepmother's harshness to the child, all kinds of feelings are intertwined, and it is inevitable that people will be frightened.
Life is a beautiful robe crawling with lice," Eileen Chang wrote in one of her early works.
If you don't teach, it's your father's fault", reading since childhood, but not getting the education of your parents, makes a person's three views inevitably become distorted.
In her opinion, her mother left the house as a sigh of relief, but "the other party will go to a terrible hell".
In this world, some people use their childhood to ** life, and some people use life to ** childhood. Eileen Chang is the latter.
If we look at many divorced young couples, we will understand that their view of marriage is not quite right. Since childhood, I have seen the quarrels of my parents, all kinds of unfortunate factors, bubbling up in the family.
If the relationship between husband and wife is not good, then there will always be someone who thinks of all kinds of bad parents, so "there is something to learn".
Marriage, from the very beginning, we must pay attention to the "right family". The hardships of the original family will only be looked down upon.
Humble giving, no return.
Loving someone will humble you to the dust and then blossom and bear fruit. Zhang Ailing's words look beautiful, but they are actually wrong.
The best love is "half a catty for eight taels", never exchanged for humility.
Beloved, fearless;Giving to the one who loves, shuddering, this is destined to go far.
At the age of 24, Zhang Ailing became famous in the literary world and met Hu Lancheng, who was more than ten years older than her.
At that time, Hu Lancheng had a wife and was divorced several times. But Eileen Chang still likes it.
In order to curry favor with Hu Lancheng, Zhang Ailing thought of many ways. Among them, she collected the cigarette butts that Hu Lancheng had smoked.
After many currying favor, Hu Lancheng accepted Zhang Ailing and entered into marriage.
It's a pity that the good times didn't last long, and eight months after getting married, Hu Lancheng turned around and fell in love with a younger and more beautiful hospital**Xiao Zhou.
Facing a third party, Hu Lancheng did not feel guilty, but said: "If you let me choose, no matter how I choose, I am sorry for you and for her." ”
During the war years, Hu Lancheng began to flee, Zhang Ailing searched all the way, and finally reunited in Wenzhou.
There was no joy in the reunion, but I saw that there were other women beside Hu Lancheng. Zhang Ailing was very disappointed and said, "I don't like you anymore." You don't like me anymore. ”
When they broke up, Zhang Ailing also left Hu Lancheng a sum of money.
A woman's tenderness is directly proportional to a man's duplicity", all love goes both ways, and if it doesn't work, it will be separated.
No matter how much money you have, no matter how many things you have, in the eyes of someone who doesn't love you, they are all superfluous and taken for granted.
Too many couples are living a life that is supported by one person. To make money, to support a family, to raise children, to take care of the elderly, but in doing so, it contributes to the depravity of another.
In the beginning, the payer is willing to do anything, but then, it wakes up and then it doesn't.
Even if they don't get divorced, lowly people will wake up and become selfish, and in the end, they will leave a way for themselves.
Desperately cherish, you can't escape life and death.
Without Hu Lancheng, Zhang Ailing concentrated on writing and met a person named Sang Arc.
But Zhang Ailing is Hu Lancheng's ex-wife, which led to a second love affair with no ending.
After a rebirth, Zhang Ailing married the American writer Rhea.
I thought, happiness comes a little later, it's okay. Unfortunately, Raya suffered a stroke, which left her without literary success, financial difficulties, and broke a leg.
Although the love is still there, the traces of separation are becoming more and more obvious.
In the end, Zhang Ailing was alone, and she didn't even have a loved one by her side.
Zhang Ailing said: "When love is going to end, it should end, and when you don't want to end it, you can't." ”
A turn is a year, a turn is a lifetime. What you cherish so much, you will eventually lose.
The old husband and wife are certainly enviable, but the sunset is infinitely better, and it is almost dusk. In the end, it was helpless.
Time makes people grow old, and it will also urge a relationship to fade slowly. Love can become affection, or it can become "silence".
The people who are left after death rely on memories to support the rest of their lives, with a faint happiness and pain in it.
The people you meet in life will always teach you something, and the people you meet are unavoidable.
But you will finally understand that the person who has been with you the most in this life is not someone else, it is "you".
A good couple will go a long way, holding hands, hugging, gazing affectionately, and going through all the hardships together.
When you are very old, you slowly separate, yin and yang separate.
Unsatisfactory couples, let go halfway, and if you don't have time to wave, the other party will leave you with a cold eye.
Turn a corner, and it's gone. There may be a reunion, but even greetings are superfluous.