We learned a lot about maintaining a family.
Home and everything is prosperous;Diligence and thrift;Loyalty and filial piety;Academic family ......”
When we take this adage to heart, the question arises: how can we do it?
Obviously, the key to any family prosperity is the link between theory and practice.
I read a Greek mythology.
The woman Pandora gets a mysterious box with a terrible curse inside. But no one knows what the curse is.
Out of curiosity, and in order to add some new element to her life, she opened the box, and the illness and disaster continued.
This is known as the forbidden fruit effect, also known as the "Pandora effect". Its main meaning is to make people curious and rebellious, and the more mysterious it is, the more attractive it is, prompting people to acquire and act.
When the forbidden fruit effect is applied to home practice, it is easy for magical changes to occur.
Give positive cues and your family will be filled with good expectations.
During the Northern Song Dynasty, Su Xun liked to play since he was a child, and his family background did not improve.
After Su Xun got married, his wife, Mrs. Cheng, often sighed at him. He suddenly realizes that he is ignorant, which disappoints his wife, so he studies hard.
In order to educate his sons Su Shi and Su Zhe, Su Xun and his wife deliberately hid the books, as if they were "**."
Su Shi and Su Zhe saw their parents' mysterious actions, and borrowed that when their parents were not at home, they "stole the book" and read it carefully.
A few years later, both Su Shi and Su Zhe read a lot and became scholars in high school.
After Su Shi became an official, he spent a long time in prison because he was involved in the Wutai poetry case. He and his family agreed that if they didn't worry about their lives, when they were sent to prison, they would send pork and mutton, among other things. If they want to be killed, they will send fish.
One day, Su Shi's family was very busy and sent a relative to deliver food. The relatives did not know the "secret" of delivering food, so they sent a fish to the cell.
When Su Shi saw this, he wrote: "Take the king of the world as a brother, and get married in the future." ”
Fortunately, this poem was so touching that Shenzong was deeply moved and decided to spare Su Shi.
From Su Shi's family, we can see the positive effects of the forbidden fruit, and we can also learn from it.
First, stimulate children's curiosity and strive to acquire knowledge.
The world of children is very innocent, and often "curiosity kills cats".
Parents give their children some hints, and the children will think in a certain direction and then do what the parents have arranged.
For example, it is suggested that a child who scores 90 or above on a final exam will be rewarded. What the remuneration will be is still a mystery. To find out, children study hard.
Then, give more hope to the suffering people and stabilize the situation.
When life is tough, if a family comes together and sets a wonderful goal, then everyone strives to achieve it.
For example, at the end of the year, if you have a deposit of 100,000, buy a house in the city. In order to dream of buying a house, everyone will restrain their luxury and develop simple living habits. No matter how poor a family is, it will become richer.
For example, before starting a business, the brothers and sisters said that they could help, so when they started a business, they were very confident, and the probability of success increased.
In any case, the love of loved ones is the greatest confidence.
Finally, always be positive, influence those around you, and get help.
An honest family, which does not hide from each other, forms a bond. Outsiders who know the family are most likely to help.
For those who are too mysterious, others are intimidating, as terrifying as encountering an abyss.
Finding a balance between mystery and transparency, and being able to transform into each other, makes it easy for families to thrive, to unite internally, and to cooperate externally.
Savagely forbid everything, and man's rebellious mood will come.
Many parents, when they see what their child wants to do, open their mouth and say, "No, no, this is not going to work." ”
Due to the condescending attitude of their parents, children have to restrain themselves, but their hearts are not enough to restrain their desires.
Song Renzong ascended the throne at the age of 13, and Empress Dowager Liu ruled behind the scenes.
From the perspective of young people, they all like to talk about vigorous love, and Song Renzong is no exception.
He fell in love with Wang, but Empress Dowager Liu thought that Wang was too beautiful and that he would "love people who are more beautiful", so he married Wang to the Empress Dowager's nephew.
Under the arrangement of Empress Dowager Liu, Song Renzong married Empress Dowager Guo.
After the death of Empress Dowager Liu, Song Renzong completely liberated himself, looked for beauties everywhere, and soon became infatuated with Shang Meiren, Yang Meiren, etc., and deposed Empress Guo.
Fortunately, Song Renzong had many ministers around him, all of whom were persuading him, otherwise the Song Dynasty would be unthinkable.
In a family, the education "forbidden", it is certainly impossible, on the one hand, it will stifle the nature of people, and on the other hand, it will cause a speech, the parents will be condescending, and the children will tremble.
Children are very rebellious, which is a headache for many parents, but they don't know that this is a cognitive bias brought about by parents who cannot stand in the perspective of their children.
When we put pressure on the people around us, other unavoidable things will appear, making it impossible to prevent them.
For example, a son needs five dollars for a small toy. The parents refused. A few days later, the son secretly sold the family's shoes and bought toys. The son unknowingly developed the habit of stealing.
Follow the topic of toys, guide your son to correctly understand toys, and study toys, the effect is very different.
Understand that the more restraint you have, the more useless it is, so let it be.