In chemistry, there is a phenomenon called "half-life".
The nuclei of radioactive elements decay slowly over time, and half of the decay time is the half-life.
In fact, people are the same, many people retire and enter a state of semi-recession.
Obviously, life is very good and the society is very positive, but retired people feel very painful, and they always feel that they are not cared about by society, relatives and friends, and even children.
Indeed, the greatest sorrow of retirees is not the lack of money, but the fact that they have entered the following state.
First, it enters the half-life of knowledge, which is incompatible with society.
Retired, don't mix in the workplace, no matter what knowledge, you can learn, don't learn.
People are accustomed to thinking that learning is useless.
Times are changing rapidly, and so is knowledge. If you habitually eat the old experience, it can only be quietly eliminated by the times.
There is a message on the "Northeast Net" that reflects the problem of the elderly being disconnected from society.
In Jixi City, Heilongjiang Province, 67-year-old Grandpa Xie walked into the supermarket, holding a bunch of grapes, ready to pay.
The cashier told Grandpa that cash was not accepted and that payment could only be made online. The big man got angry, picked up the grapes, and rushed out. The security guard stopped the big man.
Finally, with the assistance of the security guard, the uncle paid in cash.
A transaction, a misunderstanding, and a long time.
With the rise of the Internet, supermarkets are becoming more and more intelligent, and the channels for purchasing and checking out are also divided into several types. The old man didn't understand, he walked into the smart settlement channel, so he couldn't do it after waiting in line for a long time;Some vending machines, if you don't use them, look at the contents of the contents, and you are also in a hurry.
Similarly, the intelligence of travel also makes the elderly very uncomfortable in the process of traveling. I was supposed to see the scenery, but I got stuck at the entrance of the scenic spot, or I got on the bus halfway, and there was a problem of "not busy".
What's even more terrifying is that there are many learning channels, but the content is ever-changing, and it is easy to fall into a "low-level learning state". For example, watching boring jokes and listening to meaningless courseware.
Even though society has been calling for waiting for the elderly, society will not stop progressing, too many aspects, can not wait.
Second, enter the mental half-life and live with anger.
With the idea of relying on old age, you will be unhappy no matter how you go. After all, it is love for you to let you, and it is your responsibility not to let you.
For example, on the bus, when an old man meets a young man who does not give up his seat, he growls. Even if the argument is won, the old man is unhappy all day.
Ask yourself, how many retired people have actually made a huge contribution?Retirement itself, because the society is getting better and better, and the conditions for old-age care are gradually improving, we need to be grateful.
In addition to relying on the spiritual internal friction of old age, there is also the internal friction of living habits.
I once met an old neighbor who had to drink the boiled water left over from yesterday every day because he didn't want to throw it away. Yesterday's rice, even if it was a little bad, I had to eat it.
Eating too much spoiled food, there are always one or two times, and the body can't bear it, so the cost of medicine is half a month's living expenses.
Compare the money saved with the cost of medicine, and you will know that the elderly do not save money at all, but reduce the quality of life.
Whether to change his living habits or not, the old man thought about it for a long time and tried, but then returned to his original habits. As a result, the internal friction of indecision also came.
As the saying goes, "Every family has a hard book to read." ”
For the development of the family, the elderly will not be satisfied.
Expect the stars and the moon, children to have jobs, and get married. But the work is not very good, and the daughter-in-law is a little difficult to serve the elderly.
My grandson is always a little poor when he reads, and he feels that there is no hope for the future.
The old man's siblings also had contradictions and couldn't say half a word.
Some relatives, slowly separated, began to despise the old man.
Every day is more than 20 hours, there is more time for discomfort and less time for happiness;The more noisy the house, the less harmony there is.
A smart retiree who refuses to be a semi-senile long-termist.
Yes, refusal to enter the half-life is a long-term process, as long as you improve a little bit every day, that's fine.
First, make a long-term study plan.
When you have nothing to do, make it a habit to read well. Choose valuable books.
In the world of books, people naturally become quiet.
A lot of things that you can't see through, under the guidance of the book, let you learn.
I can see everything without getting grumpy or frustrated.
Second, active integration into society, rather than exclusion from society.
Actively reject the negative energy of society and approach positive energy.
There is an overwhelming amount of news every day, and there are stories happening around us. But know how to choose.
Don't deny society because it has a dirty side.
No one is perfect, and so is society, which cannot satisfy everyone.
Third, break the "big data" in life.
If you look closely at the recommendation logic of mobile phone software, you will find a pattern - what content you click on will recommend next. What you see is very one-sided.
It's the same in society, what you're interested in, you'll find more and more similar things, and you'll be blind to other things.
Look at the world from multiple angles and strive for comprehensiveness.
The fairer the judgment of the world, the higher the happiness index of life, and the less you will reach a dead end.
Money does not directly equate to happiness.
Money can only ensure that we have no worries about food and clothing, and live a happy life, and we need to constantly upgrade our spiritual world and update our wisdom.
To surpass yesterday's self every day, to have a rich spiritual world, and to be happy every day is to live a long life.