Hundred Families Help Plan My mother, who eloped for 40 years, came back to let me support the elderly, and I finally had a ruthless idea Forty years ago, my mother left Hubei to elope with others, leaving our four children in the world to survive.
Now, we have finally made it through the difficult years, but my mother has suddenly returned and wants us to take care of her in her old age. How can there be such an easy way to solve this kind of thing in this world?
My mother kept knocking on the door outside, confiding in me in a pleading tone, trying to get me to let her in.
I sat at the table, holding my head and covering my ears, deep in my inner torment. My wife, Xiaomei, stood beside me, helplessly persuading:
Jiabao, just let her in. After all, she is your mother, and it is so cold outside, what should I do if she freezes to death?"
Xiaomei, a woman, is always so kind, considerate, and gentle. However, how could she truly understand the pain in my heart?
At the beginning, as a 15-year-old boy, how much suffering and humiliation did I endure because of my mother's escape?
The painful memories that had been forgotten resurfaced in the sound of the door, and I was reminded of that heartbreaking past. My heart was filled with anger and hatred for my mother.
Deep down, I really want to rush out and scold her and drive her away immediately. However, I finally held back.
For such a person, ignoring her and not facing her may be the best response to her.
The father is still the same, unhurried and indifferent.
The sound of the door stopped, and suddenly the voice of the old uncle came:
Jiabao, please open the door, I am your uncle, I have something to tell you. "
In the first 20 years since my mother left, my uncle helped me a lot, and he seemed to be the only one who really cared about me.
I stood up and went to open the door.
As soon as the door opened, the cold wind quickly poured in, and the white-haired uncle slowly entered.
The old woman wanted to come in with her, but without hesitation, I pushed her away and slammed the door shut.
I already saw her as a thing of the past, and even though she was alive, I just regarded her as a stranger. Why did I let a stranger break into my home for no reason?
Between me and her, there really wasn't much more to say. The humiliation and hatred of the past have become a thing of the past, and now only a cold strangeness remains.
My uncle looked at my actions, shook his head helplessly, and sighed.
After he sat down, I made him a cup of hot tea.
After her mother eloped with the Hubei Yankees, she welcomed a pair of twin sons in the third year.
Coupled with a son and a daughter left by the Hubei man's ex-wife, the family members reached a total of six.
The Hubei man came from a poor background, and his eldest son was 20 years old at the time, and he was in the year of marriage.
Her mother was hardworking and tenacious, and in order to help her stepson complete the wedding, she worked tirelessly, working odd jobs day and night to earn a living.
After hard work, she succeeded in building a family for her stepson, and at the same time, her stepdaughter also got married and left, and her mother finally breathed a sigh of relief.
She thought that a happy life was coming, but she did not expect that disaster was coming.
From the age of one, twin sons appear different from other children.
Usually a child learns to walk at the age of one, but both of my mother's children are destined to be disabled by polio.
Faced with this cruel reality, the couple wanted to cry without tears, and sought medical advice for the health of their children.
Two years of travel only brought disappointment, and the two children could only lie in bed every day, and life became extremely difficult.
All this made the already poor family even worse, and they also took on a large amount of debt.
The Hubei man has an old mother who was initially kind to the new daughter-in-law.
But after seeing her two grandsons become disabled, she was furious and viciously blamed her mother:
You broom star is really shameless. Did you come to my house just to harm my family?
Our family was doing well, but since you came and gave birth to this pair of scourges, we haven't had a good day.
Look what you've done to my sonIs there still a bit of a human?"
The old grandmother scolded her and hit her mother on the head with a stick.
The mother was speechless and could not resist, so she could only bear it silently.
For the sake of his two disabled sons, the Hubei man worked hard day and night in order to support the family, and his life tortured him so much that he only had one breath left, and he still had the strength to take care of his mother
What was once sweet love has now been torn to shreds by the cruel reality and turned into dirt.
Poor couples mourn everything, especially when they are not real couples, and they are even more detached in the face of difficulties.
In order to get rid of the burden, the Hubei man separated from his mother at the instigation of his old mother.
He handed over three acres of land and two dilapidated houses to his mother, as well as two disabled sons, and since then they have been cut in two, and the mother and son have no longer interacted.
My mother was lonely in a foreign land, unable to return to her hometown for help, so she had to bear it alone.
In order to make ends meet, she worked hard to cultivate the land.
During the busy farming season, she spreads a rag on the field and gently places her two children on it.
When the work was over, she carried them home with a burden.
As her children grew up and were able to take care of themselves, she was able to work hard in the fields.
In the dead of night, watching her two disabled sons sleep peacefully, she reflected on her past, deeply felt the selfish desire and shamelessness at the beginning, and had to accept that this was God's severe punishment for her selfish behavior.
If she hadn't eloped and abandoned her four children, how could she have suffered such a difficult fate?
On a cold winter night, two disabled children wept bitterly in bed, and the mother was anxious. She decides to turn to the Hubei Yankees for help, even though the Hubei Yankees have always been indifferent to their mother and son.
The Hubei Yankees have already asked for a wife, and they have no time to take care of themselves. In the middle of the night, his mother hurriedly knocked on the door of the Hubei Yankee, but it caused his dissatisfaction. Hubei Yankee was disturbed because of his good dreams, and angrily scolded his mother for whether he was crazy and came to the door in the middle of the night to disturb his peace.
The mother hurriedly explained, telling the Hubei children that they were sick and needed to be rushed to the hospital. However, the newlywed wife of the Hubei Yankee snorted behind her back and accused her mother of being shameless. She claimed that the Hubei Yankees were her husband, threatened her mother to beat her to death, and ordered her to stay away from the Hubei Yankees.
Unmoved, the mother clung to the Hubei Yankee and begged him to take the child to the hospital with him. But the Hubei guy ruthlessly shook off his mother, reprimanded her for being an inauspicious woman, and regretted that he should not have brought her back. He made it clear that he had nothing to do with her and asked her to go away.
Rejected by the Hubei Yankees, the mother returned to the two dilapidated houses with a swollen face, and cried sadly with her two paralyzed children. Luckily, the kids just had a bad stomach and were ** two days later.
Ten years later, Hubei Yan died, and his mother was still working hard to make a living in a foreign land, with two disabled children. Even though the people around her are living happily ever after, she still lives in the leaky and dilapidated house, living like a beggar.
The disabled twins finally passed away last winter, bringing relief to their mothers. The mother looked back with a heartache and began to miss her family frantically. Fleeing illness and lonely death in a foreign land, she returned to her hometown to seek refuge.
Before looking for me, she went to look for her uncle, but when my uncle dared to come back after seeing her sister, whom she hadn't seen for 40 years, she was furious and beat her up. Although the uncle was angry, he could not solve this thorny problem. He learned that I had an odd temper and might not easily forgive this shameless woman.
After this series of events, I felt a lot of emotion in my heart: I really did it myself, and it can be regarded as the response I deserved.
After my uncle said this, he turned to me and said:
Jiabao, I know that you have a grudge against her, and your mother did handle things too much at the beginning, and it is reasonable that you can't accept her, I don't blame you at all. The rest is up to you. "
The uncle said goodbye and left.
I hurriedly grabbed him and said to him:
Bring her back to your house first, and let me think about what to do next. "
The uncle nodded, opened the door, and led the woman away.
In fact, I understand that my uncle hopes that I can keep my mother, but I can't convince myself no matter what, and I can't forget the harm she caused us.
I summoned a few of my sisters back and asked them about their attitudes.
The sisters said in unison"I don't want to see her for the rest of my life!Let her!"
I didn't ask my father's opinion, because it was a vain question, and he didn't have an attitude at all.
When it was time to finally solve the problem, my three younger sisters and I contributed money to send my mother to a local senior apartment, which cost 1,000 yuan a month.
At first, my mother was reluctant to go and insisted on living with me.
She said she was going to live in a building and enjoy her family.
I'm outraged, is she qualified?How could she still have the face to make such an unreasonable demand?It's really old and confused.
Why doesn't she want to think about it, do I want to see her?
Why doesn't she want to think about how much I've been hurt because of her?
If I live with her, let me face her all the time, let my inner wound always be torn, sooner or later it will make me miserable or crazy.
I just want the past to be buried in the dust so that I never think about it again.
Staying away from her is the safest way I can take for peace of mind.
I asked my uncle to tell her: if she makes any more unreasonable demands, she will be kicked out and left to fend for herself, and no one will care about her life or death.
Only then did she fall silent.
From then on, our lives were like two parallel lines, never to intersect again.
I think it will continue until the day she dies.
Please don't denounce me for being cold, and don't call me ruthless. When these afflictions befall you, you will deeply understand what I have done.
Not all faults can be forgiven, and not all injuries will really be forgotten over the years.
Many unbearable memories are just buried, but never forgotten.
I would like to conclude by saying:
For those irresponsible parents, the children cannot be blamed for not being willing to support.
All the bitter fruits are the cause and effect of what they planted in the first place!