Zeng Guofan's "Letter to the Brothers" says:
The winner is temporary, and the self-winner is eternal
Defeating others is only a temporary victory, and defeating oneself is the eternal winner.
In this life, the biggest enemy of a person has always been himself.
Your own emotions are the biggest stumbling block in life.
When it comes to emotions, if you can't control yourself, you will eventually act impulsively.
People should be masters of emotions, not slaves of emotions.
Defeating others is not considered ability, but defeating oneself is called ability.
Therefore, a truly powerful person can do it: not promising when he is happy, not arguing when he is annoyed, not saying anything when he is sad, and not giving up when he is tired.
Happy time
The Tao Te Ching says:
Those who make light promises believe in widows;Much easier is more difficult
Don't make promises lightly, and once you do, keep your promises.
Easy promises are often difficult to deliver on and can lead to damage to credibility.
When you are happy, don't make promises, and when you are happy, don't say too much, for if you say too much, you will lose.
If you don't make a thoughtful promise, you will break your promisesThe act of making easy promises will eventually lead to joy and sorrow.
When dealing with people, no matter when, don't make promises easily, especially when you are excited, not only will it not be helpful, but it will also invite trouble.
Li Bai said in "Chivalrous Journey":
Three cups of Turannuo, Wuyue is light
When drinking, don't take it lightly, because when you are in ecstasy, even the weight of Wuyue will feel as light as a feather.
In other words, when we are happy and excited, the promises we make are often divorced from reality and difficult to fulfill.
When emotions are up, you will be dizzy, and if you make a promise, you will inevitably lose your trust and let yourself fall into injustice.
As the saying goes: a promise of gold, words must be believed, and deeds must be fruitful.
If you can't do it, don't make promises lightly, let alone take them lightly, and once you make a promise, keep your promises.
When you are happy, when you are happy, don't say much, don't make promises at will, because once you say it, it's hard to chase the horse.
Annoyance is indisputable
Tao Te Ching says:
The good is like water, and the water is good for all things
True goodness is to nourish all things without fighting, and to nurture all things without occupying them.
Indisputable, it is a realm, but also a kind of advanced wisdom.
Not arguing when you are annoyed, and not moving when you are angry, is the highest state of being a human being.
After all, if you become angry, you will fall into the calculations of others, and you will let others succeed in their schemes.
Only when anger is invisible, others cannot see through it, and can safely get through the current predicament.
When you are annoyed, you can let go of your sense of shame;Forgive the time, it is to look down on the reputation, and it is not as good as others.
Ercheng Quanshu Zhou Yi Preface:
Don't compete with others for gains and losses, but seek your own knowledge
Not to fight for temporary gains and losses is to fulfill oneself, but also to achieve lofty ambitions.
Instead of fighting for a temporary victory, it is better to polish your own strength in order to achieve great things.
People who have achieved great things, even if they are angry, can pay attention to the overall situation and will not lose their minds.
A person who forgives the time is one who understands priorities, knows how to weigh the pros and cons, and will not be easy to be strong.
If you are a person, you will be compared, and you will only be taken advantage of by others, and sooner or later you will fall into the abyss.
When you are indignant, no matter what you fight for, the person who loses in the end and loses the most will only be yourself.
When you are annoyed, the harder you fight, the worse you lose, you win for a while, you lose a lifetime, and if you don't fight for a moment, you win a lifetime.
Sadness does not speak
As the old saying goes: ".Sadness is dissipated, and thinking is angry
Sadness is negative, and blindly complaining will only cause excessive sadness and affect physical health.
When you are sad, complain less, calm your emotions slowly, and reduce your mood swings, so that your heart will be calm and you will not lose your senses.
It is indeed not easy to be born as a human being, there are always ups and downs, occasional stumbles, there will be many problems, and there are too many difficulties;
If someone is willing to listen, it is a great blessing in life, but knowing how to hide the suffering in the heart is the cultivation that people should have.
In this world, no one can fully empathize with you, full of sadness, and how much can you really express?
The Analects of the Eight Hundred says:
Sadness but not sadness, sadness but not relatives
When you are sad, control your emotions and don't dwell on it, so that you can stay calm and have reason.
On the contrary, if the emotions are out of control, they will complain, they will talk a lot, and they will lose if they talk too much.
To be quiet, we can talk less, complain less, and then make fewer mistakes.
Especially when you are sad, you must learn to keep your mouth shut and know how to be sad and silent.
Unsatisfactory things in life often happen, if you spend energy on complaining and complaining, it will be difficult to improve and grow.
True grief is indescribable, and not complaining when you are sad is a wise approach, and not saying anything is a wise choice.
Don't give up when you're tired
Xunzi Persuasion said:
The rotten wood of perseverance is not broken;Perseverance can be carved with gold and stone
If you are tired and tired, and cannot persevere to the end, even if it is a rotten wood, it cannot be broken;
As long as you persevere and keep moving, even jade can be carved into floral ornaments.
Obviously, to be a person and do things, you must have perseverance and don't give up easily, otherwise you will achieve nothing.
Many people can't do things from the beginning, always give up due to burnout when they are about to succeed, and finally give up halfway, making it difficult to achieve things.
Don't you know that people who can achieve things, no matter when, can do it, never give up when they are tired, and start from the beginning, this is the key to success.
Mozi Slim Body" said:
Those who are not strong will will not reach wisdom, and those who do not believe in words will not be able to achieve results
Not giving up when you are tired refers to a firm will, but also a constant belief.
There are actually many people who act with brain fever and start impulsively, but there are very few people who can reach the end.
People who are difficult to persevere, or give up because of burnout, or give up because of **.
Therefore, a truly strong person can withstand the best, can turn burnout into motivation, never give up, even if it stops and goes, but can always go to the end, do things well, and finally realize self-worth and win a better future.
For the rest of my life, I hope you and I will have: the steadiness of not making promises, the openness of not striving for heights, the wisdom of not complaining, and the persistence of not giving up.