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Everyone will grow old one day, and they will be sad, they will be afraid, and they will be overwhelmed.
For their children and grandchildren, we should give them love and comfort as much as possible, so that they can receive warmth and care in their old age.
However, many young people do not always have the best time when they are given companionship, because they are not doing what they want to do with older people.
When your parents are old, please don't take it for granted that you are good to them, but start from their thoughts, especially stop doing the following 3 things to them.
01: Stop reasoning coldly
When communicating with their parents, many young people will habitually use an extremely arrogant attitude to preach, thinking that they cannot keep up with the trend of the times and do not know what changes have taken place in the world, so they stand on the commanding heights and reason with their parents.
As everyone knows, this kind of behavior does not allow parents to receive good information, but instead gets a feeling of disgust and contempt, which will deeply hurt them, make them feel useless, and thus lose their enthusiasm for life.
Whether it is for children or the elderly, people in society will always be exposed to changes in the world and the renewal of knowledge, which stems from the different circles of life, and there is nothing to be proud of.
If you show your depth and vision in front of your family, it is equivalent to showing off to your closest people, and no one can accept this feeling.
What we need to do is to understand the different cognitions of people in different circles, and even examine our own actions and thoughts with a more humble attitude, whether they will cause great harm to each other, so that we can be a person with a broad mind, rather than sticking to who is the more knowledgeable leader in a family.
We can express different opinions and explain our reasons, but this needs to be based on mutual respect and love, and speak in an attitude and tone that is acceptable to each other, so that others can be more acceptable and make ourselves feel more at peace.
02: Stop mourning and saying hard work
Many middle-aged people are faced with the situation of being old, young, and working hard, which is very difficult and bears too much pressure.
At this time, if you talk about your hard work in front of your elderly parents, it will bring them huge psychological pressure.
This kind of pressure is difficult for young people to bear, not to mention their own parents, and the helplessness and worry is a huge emotional burden, which envelops the whole family in frustration.
As a middle-aged person, we understand the hardships of life, but we must also bear the pressure and keep moving forward, which is the mission entrusted to us by this family, and we must move forward despite difficulties.
Sometimes, we do need comfort and encouragement, but our elderly parents can't, they only exacerbate our negative emotions and don't help solve the problem.
What we have to do is to report good news and not bad news, let them feel our warm companionship and care, let them feel at ease and rest assured, and then let them be happy in their old age as much as possible, and relax physically and mentally.
Because it is a great gift for us that they can be with us for a few more years.
03: Stop talking about traveling in a hurry
Young people want to travel and relax, and that's understandable.
However, it is not necessarily appropriate to talk about traveling with gustoof in front of your parents.
Parents are old and can no longer bear the hardships of traveling, and if you can't take them there, you should try to say as little as possible so as not to make them sad in their hearts.
Moreover, the old people who came in the difficult times did not understand the importance of relaxation, they would think very much about money, and they would feel distressed when we said it was spent.
If you can't bring your parents, you can't even travel.
Because it will send a signal to the elderly that they are a burden, and we have managed to get rid of them.
In fact, as children, we will not think like this, if the parents are not the elderly, they will not think like this, the reason for thinking this way is that they feel useless, and they can't do anything for society, for the family, and for their children, so they will have such negative and extreme thoughts.
This kind of thinking cannot be changed overnight, we need to be careful, not reasonable.
Even if you are traveling, make it clear that it is for the children to relax, not to avoid the responsibility of caring for the elderly, so that they will be more receptive.
In short, the elderly should be patient, warm enough, and warm enough, otherwise they are vulnerable and easily fall into the whirlpool of emotions, which has a very serious impact on the body and mind.
The so-called filial piety, in fact, is filial piety, speak to cater to their hearts, do things to make them easy to accept, and make decisions that include them, so that they will feel that they are important, not useless people, they will feel good, and they will get along more harmoniously and comfortably.
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