In this noisy world, we are becoming more and more sensitive to each other. We often look for people who really care about us, but we never find people who seem to be warm but are actually indifferent. How to discern who is sincere and who is perfunctory? The person who says something like this to you is usually the one who doesn't take you seriously.
01 Sorry, I really don't have time.
Time is a precious resource in our lives. Someone who really cares about you will always find time to be there for you. Not only will they be happy to listen to you in their free time, but they will also be happy to take time out of their busy schedules to spend valuable time with you.
Conversely, people who are indifferent to you will decline your invitation with a euphemistic "I'm not available." It's not just a denial of time, it's a disregard for your place in their minds. You need to know not to force associating with such people at this time. Because in their eyes you are no longer important, not even necessary.
02 What happened again?
What if you contact someone enthusiastically and they answer, "What are you doing?" There is a certain impatience behind this. This is an obvious rejection, and the other party not only does not like your presence, but also has a very limited interest in you. From their point of view, your presence will only add to the annoyances of their lives and offend them.
This attitude should not make us sad, but should calmly remind us that this is not the place for us to stay. Cherish your dignity and stop opening up to those who won't really listen and leave them behind.
03 Really busy.
In relationships and friendships, people who genuinely care about you are willing to invest time and energy into you. You will never be a problem with them. But people who don't like you will always complain that you have too many things to do and are full of resistance to your requirements.
They don't care about your emotional state and don't think your problems are relevant to them. In their eyes, you are just a source of trouble and not worth their time and attention. Therefore, when we meet such people, we need to keep our distance and learn not to hurt ourselves because of their attitude.
04Attitude is everything.
A person's attitude towards you doesn't really need to be explained in many words. When you ask for help, people who really care about you don't get angry, but people who don't like you will always show disgust for you. Say "I don't have time", "I'm really busy", or "Why are you so busy?" Something like that actually indicates that he is annoyed with you and wants to end the conversation with you as soon as possible.
Life is too short to choose everyone you meet, but you can choose who you spend time with. When we meet someone on WeChat who only responds perfunctorily and tries to end the conversation as soon as possible, we should not be sad because they are not interested, but we should cherish those who treat us sincerely, and we should be grateful for such an opportunity.