Have you noticed that marriage is actually a game?
Looking for a partner, paying attention to the right person, is the comparison of the original families of the two sides; After getting married, it is the husband and wife who are evenly matched, and who never raises whom.
As the philosopher Hegel said, "Marriage is essentially an ethical relationship, a relationship that is not confined to two people, but to two families." ”As a parent, when a daughter gets married, not only must she always stare at the bride price and see how big her son-in-law's house is, but also take a long-term view and continue to support her daughter, so as not to let her daughter be bullied in her mother-in-law's house, and she can't hold her head up.
Tell your daughter that no matter who you marry, in addition to your husband, you must have the following backers.
The first backer: the brothers and sisters of the mother's family live in harmony, and there is someone to support them in life.
Many daughters, after getting married, are in a state of severance with their mother's family. Or after marrying far away, he will never return to his parents' home.
Perhaps because of the bride price issue, the parents and daughter fell out.
As a parent, you should think about it, your daughter is married, not "betrayed".
In the new era, the difference between a daughter and a son, is getting smaller and smaller. Especially in single-daughter families, when the parents are old, the daughter also has to take on the task of supporting. It doesn't do anyone any good to ruin the relationship.
In the long run, parents will get older and go firstIt is the siblings who spend the longest time with the daughter.
Create a harmonious mother's family, and when the daughter gets married, there will continue to be attention. Even if the daughter is fifty or sixty years old, she can still return to her brothers and sisters' house like a big girl and feel the fireworks of her mother's house.
What's more, her daughter is continuously concerned by her mother's family, so she will not be bullied when she arrives at her in-law's house.
On the "People's Livelihood Vision" platform, it tells the story of an elder brother who drove thousands of miles to a place in Sichuan to help his sister who married far away.
My sister was bullied by my brother-in-law, and my brother-in-law kicked my sister and daughter out of the house.
Some netizens commented"My mother's home will always be your safe haven. ”
Every small family has troubles, and small couples also have conflicts, but women can't always wronged themselves, but need to understand each other. Only with a decent mother's family can a woman have confidence.
As long as the mother's family is harmonious, then whoever the daughter marries will not be like wandering. Every once in a while, there are brothers and sisters to contact, call a **, mail a little souvenir, life will be full of confidence, and the in-laws will also see it in their eyes and remember it in their hearts.
The second backer: the mother's family will leave a room, and the daughter will never wander.
After a daughter gets married, is it necessary for the parents to leave a room for her?
This problem may be bothering many families. After all, the number of times a daughter returns to her parents' house in the future may not be very large. The room was empty and seemed to be wasted.
For people in the city, leaving their daughter's room may have an opinion on the son, after all, after the son gets married, he needs at least two rooms.
Of course, there are also some rich and powerful families with many rooms, but there are no daughters' rooms. Because they treat their daughters like water that has been spilled.
The most terrible thing is that when the mother's family built a house and bought a house, the daughter paid for it, but after the daughter got married, everything had nothing to do with her.
My friend Koyanagi once told a sad thing.
A few months after she got married, she returned to her parents' house to get her things. When I walked to the room where I lived, I found that it had become my brother's study and had been renovated.
The mother said, "As for you, when you come back occasionally, you will lie down on the sofa." ”
When Xiaoliu heard this, he didn't eat anything, so he left in a hurry, and his feelings for his mother's family plummeted.
Too many parents drive their daughters out while saying that their daughters are useless. As everyone knows, daughters are useless because their parents drove them away.
Visionary parents will leave a room for their daughter, perhaps not a large room, and little time to stay. But this favor is there, and her daughter's heart is warm.
There is also a possibility that if the daughter is divorced, she will not live on the streets, and she can still have an eaves to shelter herself from the wind and rain.
It's just that the little couple is awkward, and the daughter returns to her parents' house and stays for a few days, which can also breathe a sigh of relief and have a buffering effect. The husband ran to his mother's house to pick him up, which is also quite a face-saving thing.
The third backer: develop the habit of being industrious and thrifty, and never be afraid of being looked down upon.
Relying on the sky and the earth, relying on the mountains and relying on the water, it is better to rely on yourself. This is a truth that women should keep in mind for the rest of their lives.
When a man keeps saying "I raise you", you can be moved, but don't get carried away.
In the movie "True Love, False Love", he said: "I don't love money, but I know that money can bring independence and freedom, and what I like is an independent and free life." ”A woman's ability to make money may not be great, but if she has a job, she will not be out of touch with society, and she can better help her husband and support the family.
When a daughter gets married, she will soon become a mother. Therefore, it is necessary to have the ability to be a mother and be strong.
You must know that a small family that can accumulate wealth has such characteristics: the father has a high-allocation pattern, the mother has a low-allocation life, and the children are equipped with goals.
Mother's task is mostly to manage the expenses of life. When the mother makes the family more than ever, the father is more motivated to work.
When the mother educates her children well and can often receive awards, the family will have more laughter. All the hard work is worth it in that moment.
If my mother is lazy and plays mahjong and dances all day long, my father is tired all day and doesn't have a hot meal when he comes home. Then I'm sorry, the father won't support the mother.
The role is changing, the way of life is also changing, don't always think that a woman is born loved, but become a person worthy of love.
It is a happy thing to get married, but real happiness is to live a good life.
From the day I got married, I actively responded to what might happen in the next few decades, so that I could rely on it at any time, so that I would never be miserable.
Parents, don't favor sons over daughters anymore, but also throw away the feudal bad habits, treat their daughters as the nobles of the family, and their daughters will be the little padded jackets of their parents.
Of course, as a woman, you must also control your own destiny, learn to communicate with your parents, and don't blame your parents all at once.
I hope that women all over the world can enjoy the dual care of their in-laws and their mothers' families, and warm their lives.
Author: Cloth Clothes Coarse Food.
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