Song Siming in "Snail House" is regarded by many women as the ideal lover in their hearts, and there is even a saying: "Every woman longs for a Song Siming". However, is this really the case? Song Siming's maturity and stability are behind another woman's long-term dedication; His boldness and wealth, as well as the wealth and status he gave to Seaweed, reveal more about the abundant resources and squandering capital he possessed. In-depth study of the original work of "Snail House", we can find that Song Siming's feelings for seaweed are not true love.
From the beginning of the story, Song Siming had no intention of entering the palace of marriage with seaweed. There is such a description in the original book of "Snail House": "A man should have a good car, some confidants, and ...... in his life."How a failure in this life otherwise? Song Siming's "and" in this sentence actually refers to a "lover". This shows that from the very beginning, Song Siming positioned Seaweed as a "lover".
In Song Siming's heart, the wife at home is eternal, and seaweed is just an embellishment in his life. Imagine how hypocritical and heartless it is for a man to never intend to marry the woman he loves from the beginning and not be able to give her an identity to openly love in the sun, but still talk about love. This shows that Song Siming is extremely selfish. Unfortunately, many young women are moved by Song Siming's generosity to seaweed, and even regard him as an idol, but they don't know that Song Siming's generosity is only because he has enough money, and what he lacks is an uninhibited love.
There is also a passage in "Snail House", which exposes Song Siming's true thoughts in his heart: "The capital market was not originally played by ordinary people. But the common people can't escape the role of sparring. You can only work slowly! Seaweed, maybe you can change your way of life and not follow your sister's path. Originally, this world is a pluralistic world, and all kinds of people can find their place. This passage is Song Siming's hint to seaweed, suggesting that she achieve financial freedom by becoming a "little three". If Song Siming really loves Seaweed, he should respect her choice, handle the relationship with his wife, and marry Seaweed. However, Song Siming never had such an idea.
In Song Siming's eyes, what exactly is seaweed? She is not the lover who supports him and accompanies him until he grows old, nor is she the wife who shares blessings and misfortunes with him. So, what is his motivation for loving seaweed? This can't help but make people think deeply. As Haiping's mother said, there is no such thing as a free lunch. Behind Song Siming's generosity, there is actually a transaction between body and mind, which satisfies Song Siming's deeply lonely heart. However, Song Siming's love is selfish, and he doesn't really think about seaweed, but thinks more about himself.
Even if he later asked Mark to take Seaweed and children to live abroad, it was mainly because they were his children. Giving seaweed and children a comfortable life is easy for Song Siming. However, when it came to his wife, Song Siming drew a clear line. Although he no longer loves her, he resolutely refuses to divorce for the sake of his influence in officialdom. It was Song Siming's selfishness and cowardice that plunged the two women into tragedy.
For Song Siming, seaweed is just a continuation of the feelings that he couldn't ask for in college. During Song's college days, he had a crush on the daughter of a university teacher. As written in the original book: "The moment she bows her head and smiles at Seaweed, she takes him back to his college days." That poor boy had a crush on the daughter of a university teacher, but he didn't dare to confess it, and he survived his youth.
At that time, he vowed that if God gave him another chance one day, he would have enough courage and ability to never miss it again. "It is true that seaweed is exactly what God has made up for him, and he has been waiting for 20 years for this. In Song Siming's heart, Seaweed is a stand-in for the daughter of a university professor, because her voice and smile are very similar to that woman.
As Eileen Chang said, "Every man has had two women, at least two. married a red rose, and over time, the red one became the mosquito blood on the wall, and the white one was still the moonlight in front of the bed; When you marry a white rose, the white one is the rice grains on your clothes, but the red one is the cinnabar mole on your heart. For Song Siming, the daughter of a university professor is the white rose in his heart and the eternal white moonlight. And the seaweed became a cinnabar mole, filling the void in his heart.
Song Siming saw the mysterious charm in the eyes of the seaweed. At that moment, he seemed to have returned to his college days, and saw the professor's daughter again, and the excitement and ecstasy in his heart were like a spring. This passion for reliving is like an old love song echoing again, making him feel like he has gone back in time. However, his feelings for seaweed, is it true love? Is there only enthusiasm and nostalgia in it?
's wife is still Song Siming's most trusted person in the world. A man's sanity sometimes seems terrifying, but in Song Siming's mind, wife and lover are two completely different definitions. His wife is the companion with whom he has lived through thick and thin, while his lover is more like a pet hidden in a golden house. In the original work of "Snail House", he once said: "I want to come and go, the only person I can trust and entrust in this life is you." This sentence is full of trust in his wife. And when it comes to seaweed, he doesn't give that kind of trust.
What exactly is true love? It is to bear the ups and downs of life together, and it is a beautiful moment to share life. Love isn't just about where you are, it's about the ground you tread underfoot. It stems from a deep trust, the peace of mind that entrusts oneself to the other person. When Song Siming faced scrutiny from the public security organs and could not protect himself, he thought more about his family than seaweed. His indifference and alienation from seaweed makes people ask, what position does seaweed occupy in Song Siming's heart?
In the original book, when Song Siming was dying in a car accident, he said to Seaweed: "Seaweed, I don't go to see you because I don't want to affect your ......."It seems to be affectionate, but in the TV series "Snail House", when Song Siming was dying, his heart was not full of seaweed. It can even be said that he has some regrets about this relationship. So, what kind of existence does seaweed exist in Song Siming's heart? Is it a lover, a third party, or just a passerby?
For a woman, a man's greatest sincerity is to marry her. However, Song Siming did not do this. If Song Siming had nothing, would he still be so attractive to seaweed? Was his wealth and status the only gift he gave to seaweed? If he didn't have these, would he still be the idol of many girls?
Finally, it is the same sentence: a man is generous because he has more than he squanders. It's a pity that Song Siming's wealth and status really make him qualified enough to love seaweed? This is a question worth pondering. Song Siming's feelings for seaweed have never reached the depth of true love. He may be interested in her and have desires, but the kind of love that goes deep into the bone marrow has never appeared.