Lin Huiyin said: "Don't be too modest when you love someone, because love is not wishful thinking, but mutual happiness. ”
I have seen many women who unconsciously put themselves in a very low position when they are in love or married. 。
They believe that everything they do for the other person is out of love, but the other person's inaction is a manifestation of their dependence on themselves.
But love is not the reduction of spiritual poverty by one partner for the other, but the mutual devotion and attachment of both parties.
Recently, my friend Huizhi and I broke up. Hearing the news, her friends exclaimed in unison: "She finally got it!" ”
Hezi himself is also in good shape. She must be good-looking, well-educated, and have a high ability to work.
However, after falling in love, her career began to decline. She puts most of her mind on her boyfriend.
In the morning, she was worried that her boyfriend would wake up late and skip breakfast. On a rainy day, I'm worried that my boyfriend will get wet without an umbrella. When shopping, she wants to buy clothes, and only clothes. Bag for my boyfriend.
Hye-ji lives her life completely like her boyfriend's other mother, and her boyfriend also enjoys her efforts and never has to worry about anything.
We've been together for five or six years. Every time we talk about getting married, my boyfriend always says that his career is not stable enough and that we have to work harder for our future.
Hye-ji is 30 years old, and seeing that her boyfriend doesn't care about work, Hye-ji finally sobers up.
True love does not allow you to be treated unfairly.
A beautiful love is to hold each other's hands and move in the same direction side by side.
Love is a matter between two people. You can't force it, and you can't force it. If you don't love, don't intervene, and if you don't feel it, let it go in time.
There are a lot of people around me, and I know in my heart that the other person is not someone I love, but they are still awkward together.
Some people do it for the sake of the wound, while others don't want to endure loneliness. There are also people who do it purely for the sake of the so-called face.
The relationship between these people has nothing to do with love. It seems that both sides are gaining, but in fact both sides are losing.
If you're with someone you don't love, you're not going to be happy. Because your partner's small shortcomings will be endlessly magnified, and so will your anger.
And, with someone who doesn't love you, you won't be happy either. Because no matter how much you give, you will never feel the love of the other person.
Four. Learn to love yourself before you love others.
A person who does not know how to love himself and pays little attention to himself does not understand what love is.
Only those who know how to love themselves and pay attention to themselves can know what kind of people are worthy of love and how to love each other.
Life is full of couples and couples who shamelessly expose each other's shortcomings in front of outsiders and enjoy them.
I don't see how much love there is between them, but hurt each other.
People who love each other know how to appreciate each other's strengths, accept and tolerate each other's shortcomings, and help each other grow.
In the end, it says: Haruki Murakami said, "For people who love each other, the heart of the other party is the best destination." ”
True love is not a one-sided giving, but a mutual dependence.
Two people who love each other, no matter what hardships they go through, will spend the rest of their lives together and find the meaning of life together.
I hope we can all join hands, trust each other, and meet people who can move in the same direction together.