I've seen this phrase before. "When you have a book in your stomach, an idea in your head, and a pattern in your chest, that's the greatest sense of security we can give ourselves. ”
A person's insecurity actually stems from this person and his identity. Her own perceptions are limited, and she must respond to them in a panic.
Many people crave the peace of mind of others, but they do not realize that peace of mind does not come from others, but from the improvement of their own abilities.
The key to improving one's abilities is the ability to think independently. In order to fill in the missing sense of security, it is first necessary to develop the ability to think independently.
Drawing on the experience of many successful people, we've put together the following steps to develop your independent thinking skills. I've done it myself and found it useful, so I hope it's useful for you as well.
1.Know your thoughts.
When you have an idea, first understand how it came about. Is it an inherent view instilled in you by the outside world, or is it something that you have discovered and recognized on your own initiative?
Our understanding of many things is imposed on us, and we form our own understanding based on what we call "it was the way it was" and "it should be the way".
Albert Einstein said: "What people say is true, it's just the consensus of the majority, and they can't really believe it. The most important thing is to learn to think for yourself. ”
Not everyone thinks so, these concepts are correct and apply to everyone.
2.Look for evidence to support this view.
We often say "lay out the facts and be reasonable".
If you want to say whether this view is right or wrong, applicable or inapplicable, you need evidence to convince others.
And this evidence must be objective and able to prove the reliability of the opinion. If you only have one piece of information provided by someone else, you need to consider its reliability.
3.Ask yourself who would benefit from this perspective?
If this view is good for you, is it good for the majority? Does it have a negative impact on other people? How big is the impact? Is it controllable?
If this view is good for others, is it good for the few or good for the many?
4.Come up with reasons for disagreeing with this point of view.
Of course, your point of view is not accepted by everyone, and there should be room for improvement. Look at the other side of the argument and find out why you don't accept it.
By questioning the other person's point of view, it becomes more complete, more persuasive, and accepted by more people.
5.Carefully understand how you feel about this view.
To what extent do you accept this view, and what do you still have doubts?
If you are ambivalent about this view, look for evidence to prove its worth.
Think about it. If you don't think so, what do you think?
Romain Rolland said: "The abandonment of independent thinking is the root of all misfortune. ”
It's easy to listen to others, but when you lose the ability to think for yourself, you're left at their mercy. Others lose autonomy and how to talk about security.
Marionettes don't require any effort, but they can't make their own life choices and end up being thrown away as garbage.
Independent thinking is a right given to us by fate. It's the confidence that we can take charge of our lives and give ourselves a sense of security.
I hope that you and I can cultivate the ability to think independently, constantly improve, give people a sense of security, become carefree, and not afraid of trouble.