When was the last time you felt truly happy?
In retrospect, it seems that the older I get, the less I feel true happiness. There are so many people and events in our lives that affect us, and we spend energy dealing with them in the way we think is perfect.
But often the more you think about it, the more confused your thoughts become, and your emotions are affected as a result. We pretend to be happy more and more, and real happiness becomes less and less.
However, some people have happier experiences than most. It's not that they encounter fewer bad things, it's that they are very capable and have a strong sense of control over their emotions.
People with strong emotional control listen to their anxiety and pain.
Everyone has different types of emotions, both positive and negative, and it is normal to experience any type of emotion. However, for many people, negative emotions may appear more frequently.
People with strong emotional control do not force themselves to fight negative emotions when faced with them. We know that the appearance of negative emotions is a signal.
So they will accept it, listen to their concerns and pain, and find solutions.
People with strong emotional control are more likely to enjoy being alone.
A girl I used to know told me that she loved to be busy and couldn't stand being alone. She would attend various parties every day, but after the parties she would go home alone and cry alone.
In order to escape loneliness, she fell in love, met a scumbag, broke up, and started dating again. She doesn't understand why it's so hard to find true love, but she keeps loving so she won't be alone anymore.
People who don't like to be alone don't have the opportunity to figure out what they want. How can I find the right person to go with me?
Loneliness is not a bad thing. Instead, loneliness is there to help you. Only when you are alone will you have time to interact with yourself, understand your needs, and strive to get what you want.
People with strong emotional control are not obsessed with pursuing "good" or "right" outcomes.
A lot of things aren't as good as you think, and there's nothing bad about them. Most of the time, we have more than one outcome, good or bad, depending on the situation you are facing.
People with strong emotional control are not obsessed with whether the outcome is good or bad, so they can accept any reasonable outcome and don't care about the factors that led to the outcome or whether the outcome was right or wrong.
People with strong emotional control are able to understand the value and meaning of each experience.
People will experience many things in their lives, and these things have a certain value and significance, especially bad experiences.
Many people are chronically unable to shake off painful experiences because they perceive them as oppressive and an obstacle to healthy living.
People with strong emotional control will recognize their inadequacies from these painful experiences, summarize their experiences, see them as a test, and hone their abilities, just like a game.
Emotions are inevitable, and some people resist while being guided by them, while others calmly accept objective analysis.
People who are able to control their emotions will naturally experience more happiness when they are able to turn obstacles in the eyes of others into a helping person to move forward, and gain experience in overcoming obstacles.