"Some people like to be alone, but they just don't make friends casually. That will only lead to disappointment. ”
I remember when I was in school, when I talked about myself, the teacher would always tell my mother. School situation: "This child can do everything, but he is too withdrawn and unfriendly. ”
At that time, "loneliness" and "secrecy" were defined as bad things, which also made me feel inferior.
It wasn't until I became an adult that I realized that there was nothing bad about these two words. I just didn't try to force myself to be friends with someone who wasn't the right fit for me.
My only elementary school friend went to a different junior high school, so we started communicating by writing letters.
When she heard about my good grades from a friend, she was excited and wrote me a letter telling me how proud she was of me.
After the confession was rejected, Huaichun, an adolescent girl, wrote to me with tears in her eyes, saying that she was jealous that I still had a childlike innocence and lived a simple and happy life. I told him.
When we went to college, we lived in the same city, but we were much less connected.
She was busy growing up, and I was busy studying professional classes.
After graduating and returning to my hometown to work, I found that she was no longer the same person she used to be, and we gradually lost contact.
It's hard for friends to stay together for a lifetime. As they grow, they eventually become estranged.
Some people do not lack friends in their lives, and some people do not lack friends until they die.
People who are surrounded by friends are not necessarily happy, and people who do not have friends are not necessarily lonely.
Making friends should not be for the sake of the so-called face, but for the unity of the heart.
People with bad lifestyle habits should not socialize.
Some people are dressed ostentatiously and smell of strong perfume. In fact, their home can be chaotic.
They spend money, effort, and time on cosmetic packaging while neglecting the all-important quality of life.
In particular, some people drink heavily, smoke cigarettes, go to bars until the early hours of the morning, and have an irregular lifestyle.
The impact between people is enormous. Something that looks good on the surface is always attractive. It's hard for a person to develop good habits, but it takes minutes to develop bad habits.
Don't be friends with people who use you as a tool.
Some people say that friends take advantage of each other. However, there are a few things you can and can't do about their use.
Some time ago, my cousin Jaya accepted the favor of her best friend and went on a blind date with a boy introduced by her best friend.
But in reality, the boy proposes to his best friend. The so-called blind date is a test of a boy's best friend to a boy.
Later, Jiajia chose to end their long-standing friendship with dignity, but was scolded by her best friend for being stingy.
Friends may comfort you when you're feeling down or cook you a bowl of porridge when you're tired, but they're never a tool for self-satisfaction.
People who use you as a tool don't respect you in the first place, so don't do it.
Don't be friends with dishonest people.
Mr. Lu Xun said: "Friendship is not one heart beating each other, but two hearts treating each other sincerely. ”
Some of my friends think so too. For example, they may be grumpy with you, they don't have to keep their promises, and they don't have to maintain a good image.
Thinking of the past, my friend Xiaoyu felt embarrassed, so he called a few friends to come to us for comfort.
Xiao Yu warned many times not to tell anyone, but he didn't expect another friend to jokingly tell others.
Because the two were in the same unit, Xiao Yu's troubles quickly spread all over the unit, and some even added fuel to the fire, which made Xiao Yu very embarrassed.
No one wants to accept the negative aspects of others, especially their behavior that makes them feel uncomfortable.
Dishonest people often do not hesitate to do things to us that hurt us under the guise of being friends.
Yu Hua said: Just because you have a lot of friends doesn't mean you have face. If you have a lot of friends who don't care about your face, it's better to stay alone.
There is nothing to be ashamed of being lonely. Only by learning to grow in solitude will you know what kind of friends are worth making.
As you get better and better, you will also get noticed by talented people, among whom you will surely find good friends who think the same way.
When the flowers bloom, the butterflies come naturally. May we all grow in solitude, associate with great people, and make like-minded friends.