I like this sentence very much: "Don't think that if you get married, you can do whatever you want with each other, if you don't know how to manage, love will eventually die in the dull years." "It profoundly reveals the true meaning of marriage. Marriage is not the end of love, but a new beginning. Every couple has a longing for marriage, eager to hold the hand of the son with the beloved and grow old with the son. However, the reality is often not as good as it could be. 
Many people get married only to find that life is not as perfect as they imagined. I was expecting to find a partner who could shelter from the wind and rain, but in the end I found that all the wind and rain came from the person who had given me warmth and dependence. This kind of gap and disappointment exists in many marriages, and how to overcome these problems and keep love fresh in the ordinary years has become an important topic that we need to think about and practice. 
In search of answers to the question of managing a happy marriage, I looked through a lot of books and materials. These five books have become the focus of my research, providing not only theoretical knowledge, but also practical advice and guidance through real cases and practical methods. These 5 books are undoubtedly a valuable asset for those who aspire to have a happy marriage. 
Through reading these books, I not only learned how to maintain the emotional bond between husband and wife, but also how to face and solve various problems in marriage together. This knowledge has made me more aware that running a happy marriage does not depend on luck or chance, but requires the joint efforts and wisdom of both parties. Only when we truly know how to cherish, tolerate, understand and support each other, can our love become stronger and better over the years. Therefore, I would advise every couple to take marriage seriously as a project that needs to be managed and managed for a long time. In the journey of marriage, we must learn to listen, understand and support each other, and face the ups and downs of life together. When we encounter problems in our marriage, we should not give up or complain easily, but should actively seek solutions and use wisdom and patience to resolve the conflicts. Only in this way can our marriage be truly happy, just like that beautiful blessing: "Hold the hand of the son, grow old with the son." "In 2019, my husband and I were married for a year and a half, and we welcomed the long-awaited baby pig. However, the arrival of this new life did not bring happiness and joy as expected, but instead became the beginning of our quarrels and complaints. After giving birth, I became extremely emotionally unstable, dissatisfied with everything in my life, and deeply regretted my decision to get married and have children so quickly. My heart was full of grievances, and all my grievances were vented on my husband, making his originally silent character even more silent. The quality of our marriage has plummeted, as if plunged into endless darkness. 
In the midst of depression and anxiety, I received a book from a friend - "Meet the Unknown Self". Written by Chinese bestselling author Zhang Defen, this book tells the story of how Ruoling, a modern urban woman, turns the tables after falling into trouble in her workplace and marriage. Not only does the book have a compelling storyline, but more importantly, it provides readers with a practical set of ways to grow themselves. Among them, the idea of "the truth is the greatest, surrender and accept what has happened" touched me deeply. I began to realize that there were many things in marriage that made me angry and helpless, but I couldn't change them. When I was in a state of turmoil, I stopped being as angry and sad as I used to be, and instead began to look inward to find a way to live that was comfortable for me. 
If you also feel blocked by something in your marriage and don't know how to face difficulties and challenges, "Meet the Unknown Self" may bring you unexpected revelations. Happiness will only come knocking when you are ready for it. This book not only changed my perspective on marriage, but also taught me how to deal with life's difficulties. As time went on, I began to try to apply the ideas in the book to my life. Whenever I have a problem, I remind myself to take a deep breath and think calmly instead of getting angry or frustrated right away. I found that when I did this, my emotions were less volatile and I was more rational in dealing with problems. 
At the same time, I also started to work on improving my relationship with my husband. I learned to listen to his feelings and thoughts instead of blindly expressing my own dissatisfaction. I found that when he felt my care and understanding, he became more willing to communicate with me, and our relationship slowly warmed up. 
In the process of self-growth, I also began to re-examine my values and life goals. I realized that marriage wasn't the whole of my life, but part of my life's journey. I started to pursue my interests and career, which not only made me more independent and confident, but also allowed me to find more joy in life. 
As time went on, I found myself getting happier and more passionate about life. My mindset and behavior are also unconsciously affecting my husband, and he is slowly changing. We began to cherish each other more, and we knew how to be grateful and tolerant. We began to plan for the future together, working hard together for our family and our cause. 
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Now, looking back on those challenging and confusing days, I feel extremely happy. It was that experience that taught me to grow and face difficulties, and it also made me appreciate everything I have now. The book "Meet My Unknown Self" not only gave me strength and courage when I was in trouble, but also became an indispensable guide in my life journey.