In order to maintain a so-called good relationship, we often force ourselves to follow other people's ideas, say things against our will, or do things we don't like.
But what we often get is that while others are demanding more and more, we have wronged ourselves again and again.
A lot of people say they're always tired. In fact, it is not the work or life itself that makes us feel tired, but the discomfort caused by the injustice of our own making.
We can live more comfortably if we don't help others bully us or allow ourselves to be treated unfairly.
Learn how to say no.
In life and work, we are often unable to reject others because of the so-called emotions, and reluctantly accept what we don't like.
For example, when someone asks you for help, you don't want to ask for help, but you can't say no.
So all I could do was struggle alone, think through every word, smile and ask for help.
You appreciate it when things are going well, but the person who asks you for help may not remember your kindness. Even when things aren't going well, the person who asks you for help may question you or even spread the negativity. About your words.
Do not please others, nor please yourself. Learn to reject others and respect others' rejections. ”
Everyone has their own responsibilities, and you don't have to take on the responsibilities of others.
Know how to evaluate yourself.
There are always people who like to criticize others, from their dress habits to their life plans.
The ladies at work told me about my body shape, clothes, diet, and life events.
Luckily, I'm a narcissist. Even if you weigh 150 pounds, you don't have to worry about your body. I just love it because I grew it myself.
Clothes and food are also personal preferences. I am free to wear clothes that I feel comfortable and eat the food I like. We also know that there are some foods that should not be eaten too much, so there are restrictions.
Never give up loving yourself. "Even if someone denies you, you don't have to agree with them. You'll find that there are actually a lot of highlights.
Instead of helping others devalue themselves, take responsibility for yourself and make yourself better and better.
Give yourself the greatest support.
There are always people around us who do things that hurt us, intentionally or unintentionally.
Two years ago, I attended a friend's mother's birthday party. During the meal, a few of our friends went to toast my aunt.
Unexpectedly, one of the young women said to her aunt without hesitation: "Xiao Zhou, this little fool is really stupid and stupid, I didn't expect my mother to be so beautiful and talented, I am so jealous. ”
The atmosphere was a little awkward for a while, although it was embarrassing, but seeing that the faces of Xiao Zhou and his parents had changed a little. Thankfully, another friend quickly solved the problem.
Some people speak casually regardless of the occasion. As a result, people were embarrassed to stand up.
What we have to do is to give ourselves the greatest support, instead of rushing to wipe our faces with the mud thrown by others.
Self-confidence comes only from yourself, be your biggest supporter, and bravely overcome obstacles.
As Lin Huiyin said:
We do have shortcomings, but that's not why others can take advantage of us or attack us.
There is no reason for us to help others embarrass us, deny or hurt ourselves.
Everyone has their own pace. Only you know if this rhythm is right for you, and by adjusting it to suit your needs, you will feel more comfortable.
May we all learn to reject others, cherish ourselves, give ourselves the greatest support, and live comfortably for the rest of our lives.