Have you ever thought about living comfortably through love or marriage?
Do you think your partner should trust you, understand your feelings, and tolerate your behavior?
Do you think you should because you're young? Have fun and enjoy life.
I've seen things like this on the internet: "The world is not so kind to girls, life is not as good as fairy tales, only beauty and independence can solve everything. ”
Live beautifully, independently, beautifully. Girls in a world full of prejudices and complexities powerfully guarantees your status.
If you want to live beautifully and independently, you need to give up some ideas.
Love and security come from others.
I've seen girls who always repeatedly ask "Do you still love me?" when arguing with their partners? ”。
I always don't think this question makes much sense. It can be answered with "love", but the reality is not always like this.
When your upper and lower lips touch, it doesn't matter what you say, and you don't have to take responsibility.
Some girls euphemistically say that if their lovers don't reply to their messages for a while, they feel as if they have lost their souls and are "insecure."
Even if the other person is by your side and doesn't do anything, it's hard for you to feel at ease because you're still curious about what good things he's thinking.
You are well aware that you can control his actions, but you cannot control his thoughts.
Love and security cannot be given to you by others, only to yourself.
Learn to love yourself first, and then find someone who loves you. Even if there is no one to protect you, make yourself strong so that no one can hurt you easily.
The other half is up to you.
Two days ago, I heard a friend talking about a colleague. When a girl is in love, she has to rely on her boyfriend for everything.
In the morning, she didn't want to wake up early, so she asked her boyfriend to bring her breakfast. At noon, she didn't want to wait in line in the canteen of the unit, so she asked her boyfriend to prepare a meal and deliver it to the office.
The boss asked her to send the papers. After working for more than a year, she actually called her boyfriend ** and asked about the specific location of xx's office.
At the end of the year, there is a project, and the leader promises that whoever adopts the plan will be rewarded with an additional 1,000 yuan.
After the girl got the relevant information, she said to her boyfriend: "It's up to you whether you take 1,000 yuan or not." ”
At first, her boyfriend had no intention of helping her and wanted her to complete the work independently, but in the end, he couldn't withstand her persuasion and worked overtime to complete the plan.
As a result, this plan was not adopted, and the girl actually vented her anger to her boyfriend in public.
She has a short temper that not only makes her embarrassed in front of her colleagues, but also angers her boyfriend.
No one in this world can rely on you forever. Even your own parents may not always be there for you and rely on you.
No one is obligated to take care of your food, clothing, shelter, transportation, or make your dreams come true.
Only when you learn the real skills and cultivate the ability of self-management can you not be at a loss when you encounter unexpected situations.
Others are to blame for your emotions.
Understanding and tolerance are interrelated to each other.
However, there are always people who one-sidedly believe that just because they are girls, the other party should understand their feelings and accept their actions.
Yesterday afternoon, I was eating at a food stall when the couple next to me got into an argument.
The girl said she didn't eat green onions, but the boy ordered fried green onions. The boy said he liked to eat and did not force the girl to eat.
But the girl refused, saying that she felt uncomfortable watching the boy eat green onions in front of her.
So, the boy picked up a green onion, turned around and ate it. The girl was still dissatisfied and continued to complain, saying that the boy did not take into account her feelings.
Everyone has different likes and dislikes. If you don't like it, you can't stop others from liking it. No one is obligated to empathize with your feelings.
Some people can feel the rain, while others are just drenched. ”
Only you can feel your emotions. Other than that, no one but yourself can be held accountable for your feelings. You are the only one responsible.
You should play more when you're young.
I've heard a lot of people say this. "I'm only in my 20s, and if I don't play now, when I'm old and I can't play, I'll lose. ”
My grandmother is in her 60s. I said the same thing at the time. "If you don't eat more delicious food when you can chew, your teeth will all fall out and you won't be able to eat. "There's a lot going on. It's a pity. ”
But before she could chew, she fell and developed diabetes and coronary heart disease.
Play while you're young and play when it's time to play. There's nothing wrong with that. But if you just want to play, you may regret it when you have to face the problem of survival.
There is time for work and time for play. ”
Work hard, have fun, and make time to study, even if it means reviewing your current work.
As long as you don't stop growing, you can enjoy a colorful life to the fullest.
Woolf said
People are energetic, especially in their 20s. If you have a certain amount of knowledge and are enterprising, you need to hone your skills and improve your ability to be independent of the world.
When we try to get love and security from others, we always fail. If you rely only on others, you will lose the opportunity to grow.
Take others accountable for their emotions. Eventually, it will be wasted. Go play. You're not enjoying life excessively, you're just making excuses for your own indulgence.
May we all learn to love ourselves and give ourselves enough security to see more beautiful scenery for the rest of our lives.