People with depression usually show a depressed mood, many people think that adjusting their emotions can change their negative state, and some family members will take them to some happy places and lively atmospheres, but most of the time it is in vain.
In fact, for people with depression, poor thinking patterns, or cognitive impairment, are the main causes of depression. So, from a psychological point of view, what are the main ways of thinking that tend to cause depression?
1.Self-denial
The manifestation of this thinking pattern is that depressed people are good at denying their positive emotions and positive behaviors, on the contrary, they are particularly "tolerant" of their negative emotions and negative behaviors, and subconsciously let their negative emotions grow.
In other words, children with depression are subconsciously good at cultivating their own frustration and hitting their sense of achievement. Therefore, if you want to get out of depression completely, you must completely rebuild your thinking mode.
2.Blame for the crime
This bad perception is the mother of guilt. This manifests itself in the fact that any negative event that happens in your life, even if it has nothing to do with you, you will think that it is your fault that it happened or that it proves your incompetence. The concepts of "influencing others" and "controlling others" are confused.
It is important to recognize here that no matter who you are, you will influence others to some extent. But in the end, you have no control over what others do.
3.Either/or
The worst effect of this bad way is that you tend to be absolutist when you look at people or things.
For example, if you fail an exam, you think, I'm a failure, I'm a piece of waste. But in reality, you're just failing an exam, and no one is going to get a hundred points every time.
So, this either/or thinking is, in essence, a manifestation of perfectionism. It will make you afraid of any mistakes or imperfections.
And this way of thinking is unrealistic, because there are very few such polarizing extremes in life, and no one is absolutely smart or stupid, and no one is absolutely beautiful or ugly. There is not only black and white in life, but also gray areas.
4.Selective filtering
There has been an experiment in psychology that presents two faces to depressed patients at the same time, one joyful and the other fearful and sad. The first thing people with depression notice is a sad face, and rarely pay attention to a happy face, even a neutral face.
In general, depressed patients will have such a tendency to psychological processing: they will spend more time paying attention to negative emotions or events in life, and will often recall some unpleasant and bad things.
This way of thinking will allow you to pick out negative information from any situation in your life, revisit it over and over again, and then you will feel that the world is negative.
So, when you're depressed, it's like you're wearing a pair of tinted glasses that filter out any positive content.
5.Attribution bias
This is an even more outrageous psychological delusion, in which people who have a clear idea that something is going in a good direction or have some neutral signals tend to attribute or interpret them as precursors of danger, turning these positive experiences into negative ones.
Some people will have a tendency to blame themselves, thinking that the good things are done by others, and the bad things are done by themselves. However, most mental health people tend to attribute positive events within and negative events outside of them. This attribution bias can be summed up as external attribution of positive events and internal attribution of negative events.
Therefore, people who have this way of thinking can turn happiness into trouble and positive experiences into negative experiences in a very short period of time. However, you may not even know what you're doing.
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