Blood relationship is a more special bond than acquaintance, which naturally connects two people together and is difficult to separate.
Therefore, in our cognition, parents, siblings and children are our own family members and the soft places in our lives.
Among them, the relationship between siblings is particularly special, and they are both relatives and playmates on the way to their own growth, making their lives colorful.
But after a certain point, the exchanges between each other will become alienated, and it is not easy to maintain them as they were at the beginning.
There are even countless brothers and sisters who hate each other because of grudges, and the relationship is very stiff, so that they will not get along with each other for the rest of their lives.
In fact, the best relationship between brothers and sisters is not to get together or borrow money, but to do the following two points.
Trouble each other and maintain family ties
I believe that many people have had similar feelings, when they were children, the relationship between them and siblings was very close, and they were close friends who almost talked about everything.
But as time passed, they chose different development directions, and gradually became unfamiliar under the catalytic effect of time and distance.
Especially after starting a family with each other, because they have all started their own families, they are often busy with life and careers, and rarely have contacts.
If the parents are still alive, they may still tacitly gather around their parents during the harvest year and reunite for a short time.
But after the death of the parents, it seems that the part that connects with each other is lost instantly, and there is no reason to contact each other.
Even if you have troubles and problems, you don't want to find the other party to solve them, you don't want to ask for help and bother the other party, you just want to be okay.
As everyone knows, it is precisely because of the fear of disturbing and owing each other that they finally made each other not see each other, and slowly changed from relatives to strangers.
In the TV series "The World", after Zhou Bingkun was released from prison, he wanted to buy a car to do the business of moving and pulling goods, but he didn't have enough money.
He didn't want to borrow money from his brother and sister, but chose to bow his head and ask his best friend Qiao Chunyan for help.
But many years have passed, Qiao Chunyan has no feelings for Zhou Bingkun for a long time, and after several prevarications, Zhou Bingkun still returned empty-handed.
After Zhou Bingyi and Zhou Rong found out, they scraped together a sum of money to Zhou Bingkun without saying a word, and comforted and encouraged him to regain his strength.
At this time, Zhou Bingkun suddenly woke up to the fact that it was really a critical moment, and the relationship between siblings was more reliable.
As Keppel said:"The better the relationship, the less afraid of trouble, because the establishment of a relationship starts with trouble. ”
Between brothers and sisters, what they are most afraid of is not to communicate with each other, only when there is trouble can they have contact, and only with contact can feelings last.
Be grateful to each other and nourish people's hearts
In reality, we have seen too many brothers falling behind the wall, and brothers and sisters who were originally close to each other have a grudge because of something.
Either because of the uneven distribution of interests, or because there have been contradictions, and finally the emotions of both parties are exhausted.
And one of the most chilling things is that one party takes the trouble to give, and the other party enjoys peace of mind, and never knows how to be grateful.
The latter regards the good that the other party gives him as a matter of course, and he doesn't know that he is the biggest beneficiary.
No matter how good the brothers and sisters are, they are not parents, and they should not pay unconditionally for themselves, and blindly asking for them will only make them sad.
On the other hand, if siblings can support each other and thank each other for their contributions, the relationship between the two parties will always remain close.
In the middle of the Tang Dynasty, when the Anshi Rebellion broke out, the famous poet Wang Wei was also implicated, convicted of a serious crime, and sent to prison to await beheading.
After his younger brother Wang Jin heard about this, he repeatedly wrote to the court to ask for a performance, willing to remove him from all official positions and leave his brother alive.
In order to make meritorious contributions for his elder brother, he actively participated in the pacification of the Anshi Rebellion, and finally made a lot of contributions, which also moved the emperor.
After Wang Wei was released from prison, Wang Jin was framed again and demoted to Shudi.
He also said that he was willing to resign and return to his hometown in exchange for his younger brother Wang Jinneng to return to the court as an official, which shows the deep brotherhood between the two.
As the saying goes:"A friend is always dear, but a brother is born for affliction. ”
In life, if you can have a sibling who can help you wholeheartedly, it is a blessing and good luck that can not be cultivated in several lifetimes.
It is precisely because of the preciousness of this friendship that we should cherish the love of brotherhood, learn to repay the favor, and help each other.
As the old saying goes:"Half a lifetime of parents' kindness, a lifetime of brotherhood. ”
The fate between brothers and sisters is only once in a lifetime.
Having the honor of being a sibling and a family member is the fate of the previous life, and no matter how busy you are, you have to maintain this relationship.
Sincerity for sincerity, cherish and cherish, in order to maintain this hard-won fate.
The deep relationship between siblings is not only a part of life, but also an irreplaceable treasure in our life journey.
I hope you and I can protect this precious brotherhood, in the long river of years, let this family relationship light up our future.