The Quality Author List has many voices saying that we should be grateful for the past, even unpleasant ones and experiences, because they allow us to learn a lot of valuable lessons and experiences, help us grow and progress, and help us better understand ourselves and others.
While the past may have been disappointing and frustrating, it ultimately pushes us to grow and become stronger.
What I'm trying to say is, whether the past is right or wrong, don't spend time being grateful for it, don't let the past affect the present.
If we realize that what we have done in the past and the people we have contacted are wrong, we should stop the loss in time and not mix in too many emotions.
Always look forward and never look back.
For example, Mark Zuckerberg, the founder of Facebook. During his college years, he started Facebook and was very successful in its early days. However, he was faced with a choice: return to Harvard to finish his studies, or give up his studies to devote himself to Facebook.
Eventually, Mark Zuckerberg decided to drop out of Harvard University and devote himself to the development of Facebook and focus his efforts on the growth of the company. This decision proved to be the right one, and Facebook went on to become a huge success and become one of the world's largest social platforms.
Similarly, after graduating from university, I successfully entered a state-owned enterprise with a monthly salary of more than 6,000 yuan, but after working for a year, I saw the end of my life and felt that this job was a waste of my time. So, I chose to resign, even if I needed to pay tens of thousands of yuan in liquidated damages, I didn't hesitate to pay and leave immediately.
It was a job that many people envied at the time, but I don't think it's a shame.
I know that at that time, many colleagues had the idea of resigning, but they were afraid that they would not find a better job when they went out, and they were not willing to pay tens of thousands of yuan in liquidated damages, after all, for us who had just graduated, 10,000 yuan was a large amount.
Many people say to stick to it first, and then decide to go or stay when the five-year contract period is up. I can see their minds at a glance, and after 5 years, they will still be hesitant. More people, because they have started a family and started a business, because they provide for houses and cars, have become frogs in warm water, and they no longer dare to act rashly.
In the next five years, their wages did not increase much, but I achieved my goal of earning more than one million a year early.
During this time, I did not reach out to them at all.
What kind of friendship of colleagues, with the years and the baptism of the rivers and lakes, all gradually drifted apart. Why don't I contact them anymore, because once they come to me, they either complain about the company's unfairness, or they say that they admire my courage back then, and then borrow money from me.
Friends should be eliminated with the change of income, which is very heart-wrenching. Ordinary people dare not speak, afraid of being scolded, afraid of offending others, afraid of others saying that they are ruthless and unjust.
But dare I say that if you and your friend have an income difference of more than 5 times, you can't be friends. People can only be friends with people of the same level.
Therefore, I will also be very interested in staying away from people who earn more than me, and I know that I can't be friends with them.
After resigning, I went back and forth between Beijing, Shanghai and Guangzhou, and changed jobs a lot during this period. Because I am very concerned about my salary, I change jobs frequently in order to get a higher salary and better career development opportunities.
Many companies will withhold a month's salary from employees in order to retain them, but it doesn't work for me at all.
As soon as I find a better job, I will apply for resignation, and if I don't agree, I will leave.
It didn't matter to me the month of pay that I didn't pay, and I didn't want to waste my time because of it. That money should be used as the labor fee for the platform provided to me by the previous company.
Of course, I changed jobs on a principle: the new company had to pay more than twice as much as the previous job. In this way, even if the previous company withheld my deposit, not only did I not suffer a loss, but my income still increased.
In the process of quitting my job, I met bosses who wanted to keep me, and they told me that I was very promising and asked me to consider it. I also met a manager with a very bad attitude, but I was determined that no one could stop me.
Every time I think differently, my actions change, and I decide to quit right away. After I changed my mindset, I felt like I had risen to a higher level and started to realize that my current job was very bad and meaningless for me, and that I deserved a better path.
Of course, money is a very real factor, and I wouldn't hesitate to leave if there were better salary opportunities.
How to tell if a person has grown and improved their abilities, I think income is the only criterion to measure. Who doesn't care about promotions and raises?
However, many mainstream values teach us to do our current job well, let the leader make our colleagues happy with us, and establish a good social image, and then we can pursue the next job with dignity.
I will say that this is pure nonsense.
In society and work, we should focus only on ourselves and not consider others, including bosses and colleagues, because they have nothing to do with us in fact. When it's time to go, we should leave without hesitation and never think about their feelings.
The friendship you think is deep, and it will soon be worn out.
If people do not do it for themselves, the heavens and the earth will be destroyed.
I don't like to make friends with migrant workers, not because I look down on them.
The reason is because their thinking is too poor: they think that the boss needs them now, so they can't change jobs; They want to be responsible for the company and consider resigning after doing a good job; They believe that people should act according to their conscience, behave according to morality, and should not resign at will. They worry about how others will perceive them in the future.
However, I think these ideas are naïve. In the eyes of the boss, employees are just spinning screws, with a monthly salary of 8,000 yuan, and there are many substitutes in recruitment.
It doesn't matter what others think of us, the most important thing is that your income has increased. With more income, you'll be able to take better care of yourself and your family.
However, if it is an entrepreneurial team, everyone supports each other and works together, and that kind of relationship is different.
The relationship between the employee and the boss is purely an employment relationship. Why bother adding something to yourself?
We should put our own interests first, then our family and a few close friends. Others, in fact, don't really deserve much of our attention.
If they bring us negative emotions, we should exclude them from our lives as soon as possible and let them disappear into their own world.
There was once a customer who cooperated with our company, and later when the settlement was made, there was a balance of tens of thousands of yuan that had not been settled, I did not ask him to pay the money, and after the scheduled time passed, I asked the company to directly terminate all business dealings with him.
I never complained about this matter, and I didn't even bother to sue him, although there was a contract to protect my interests, I just wanted to get things over quickly.
You know why? It's not because I don't care about those tens of thousands of dollars, but because he's a garbage person, and working with such an unreliable person will cost him even more in the future.
I don't want to waste another minute on him. My time is precious. I don't let these things affect my mood or take up my time.
When I realize that the other person is negative energy, I will turn away and no longer care about my loss. Because continuing to dwell on such people will only cause greater losses.
People with negative energies, such as defaulting on debts or cheating others, know what the end result will be.
The sign of a person's growth is the kind that says goodbye to the past and never looks back.