How great can a mother's love be? That is, even if you sacrifice your own life, you must let your own flesh and blood come to this wonderful world to take a look.
Zhang Lijun is such a great mother, although her behavior of sacrificing herself to give birth to a child has caused some criticism, but it is undeniable that her love for her children and her love for her husband is very deep.
Zhang Lijun was diagnosed with advanced pancreatic cancer in October 2015, when she was only 26 years old, and her five-month-old child was full of expectations for the future with her husband.
However, the happiness came to an abrupt end due to cancer, and the doctor advised to give up the child to save his life.
Should I have surgery as soon as possible to prevent the condition from getting worse, or should I give birth to my baby first? It became a very real problem in front of Zhang Lijun at that time, and she was still full of confidence in **, and she chose to have a child with her husband.
Unfortunately, Zhang Lijun finally passed away due to illness, which once made netizens feel a lot of emotion, and her husband's "ruthless" move of remarrying after 4 years annoyed them even more.
He is simply the contemporary Chen Shimei! ”
That's right, not long after his wife died, he turned around and married someone else, hehe, sure enough, men are unreliable. ”
It was too much, and I heard that he didn't want his own children anymore and gave him to his cousin to raise. ”
Similar to the above remarks occurred four years after Zhang Lijun's death, and for a while, netizens pushed Zhang Lijun's husband Han Shijun to the hot search, and everyone accused him of being a wolf-hearted scumbag.
Even Zhang Lijun's deeds are used by some eyeball-seeking people who don't know the truth to drain traffic, as a warning to unmarried women, so that they can keep their eyes open to avoid encountering the same pathetic feelings.
Seeing that things were getting bigger and bigger, Han Shijun, who was bent on stability, couldn't sit still anymore, and his life was seriously disturbed by this, and he asked his cousin and ** lawyer to speak out, so far, the truth has floated in front of people little by little.
It turned out that Han Shijun and his current wife only got married in June 2020, and there is no so-called "wife immediately turned around to find a new love after her death"; Moreover, he himself did not have any cousins, let alone passed on his children to her.
At present, the child is taken care of by himself and Zhang Lijun's parents, and even he and his current wife take wedding photos with the child, and they have not ignored this statement at all.
The gossip was shattered in the face of conclusive evidence, those "keyboard warriors" instantly became "dumb", and the lives of Han Shijun and his family also returned to peace.
They didn't want to occupy public resources again to render their lives, but when the "keyboard warriors" rose to the problem of Han Shijun's morality, the latter naturally couldn't bear it.
Because it is not only an insult to himself, but also a disrespect to the deceased Zhang Lijun, in other words, isn't the "keyboard man" questioning Zhang Lijun's vision and choice.
Speaking of which, let's take a look at the state of mind in which this brave mother is willing to risk her life to give birth to the man she loves.
In 2014, Han Shijun and Zhang Lijun, who have been in love for many years, are about to face one of the important moments in their lives: they ended their long-distance love run and were fortunate to enter the marriage hall hand in hand.
We can still see Zhang Lijun, who was only 25 years old at the time, in a holy white wedding dress on the Internet; And the husband standing next to her is also a talent, quite a match.
In Shanghai, where land is at a premium, the young couple as locals have a geographical advantage, especially after they move into a new home, which makes their future life full of hope.
Zhang Lijun, who was in a good mood, also ushered in her cherished relatives at that time.
When the whole family learned that Zhang Lijun was pregnant, they were overjoyed, and Zhang Lijun was also full of expectations for her role as a "novice mother".
In the early stages of pregnancy, she strictly controlled her diet and paid more attention to nutrition, and did not miss every necessary prenatal check-up.
Whew, finally enough time to prepare the child's little clothes. Seeing that the fetal image is stable, Zhang Lijun can start exercising during pregnancy more relaxed.
In addition, like all mothers who are excited to wait for the birth of their little doll, she is keen to choose all kinds of baby products, from small bottles and bibs to large cribs.
But the accident caught her off guard, and Zhang Lijun would never have thought that her beautiful dream would be ruthlessly crushed before the child's accident.
In October 2015, Zhang Lijun, accompanied by her husband Han Shijun, came to the hospital again for prenatal checkups.
The fetus is normal. The doctor said this, and when he looked at Zhang Lijun's smile that was about to become a mother, he hesitated to tell her the truth again.
I never thought that the latter would take the initiative to ask: "Doctor, I always feel that my stomach hurts these days, could it be that I have a cold?" Or maybe I've got a bad stomach? ”
The doctor was silent for a moment, his face was solemn and said slowly: "I hope you are mentally prepared, although the fetus is fine, there is a big shadow on the mother's pancreas, and it cannot be ruled out that it is 'cancer'." I suggest you go to the pancreatic surgery department for another detailed examination. ”
Carcinoma, cancer. Zhang Lijun's face instantly darkened, and she forgot how to answer for a while.
Han Shijun, who was standing next to him, patted his wife on the back and comforted: "It's okay wife, if you are pregnant, you should always check it carefully, and we will go to hang the number of pancreatic surgery now." ”
At that time, Han Shijun also felt that it might be a syndrome caused by pregnancy.
Zhang Lijun's thoughts are the same as her husband's, because she feels that there is no special discomfort in her body at the moment, but fate still played a cruel "joke" on this loving young couple.
The examination report came out soon, and Zhang Lijun was suffering from advanced "pancreatic cancer"!
The terrible thing is that this disease is extremely serious in the history of human cancer, and it is known as the "king of cancer", with a very low rate and a very high mortality rate.
This kind of cancer, which has a long incubation period and dies slowly, is detected at an advanced stage, and once a person is diagnosed with pancreatic cancer, it almost announces its future outcome.
This is undoubtedly a fatal blow to Zhang Lijun's family, Zhang Lijun almost fainted when she looked at the report, and the doctor hurriedly suggested that they should have surgery as soon as possible, otherwise they may not be able to save their lives if they miss the best ** period.
"So, doctor, what about my child? Zhang Lijun asked tremblingly, and when she heard the doctor say that she might have to give up the child in her womb in order to protect the safety of adults, she was even more devastated.
Zhang Lijun cried out "wow", a happy event turned into a tragedy in an instant, and the reality of ups and downs made the young mother fall into darkness and despair for the rest of her time.
Han Shijun's state was not much better, hearing that he grabbed his hair, looked at the sky with a haggard face, and his heart was full of lamentation: God, why are you torturing my wife and child? gave us a little sweetness and let us fall into the abyss!
The grief-stricken couple returned to their new wedding room, feeling more and more sad about what had been added to their children, and they were also sad about the road ahead.
As the saying goes, "paper can't hold fire", the bad news that Zhang Lijun suffered from pancreatic cancer soon spread in the family, and the parents of both sides once persuaded Zhang Lijun to "protect the child" and give up the soon-to-be-born child.
Especially for Zhang Lijun's parents, one is the long-awaited grandson and the other is the beloved daughter, no matter who "chooses to live" is a painful and indisputable fact.
Han Shijun also kept comforting his wife at that moment: "Let's kill the child, your treatment is important, and the child will understand your hardship." ”
It's okay not to say it, but these words made Zhang Lijun cry again. How much she is looking forward to the arrival of this child, even if she is pregnant with another one in the future, she will not be the "boss".
Later, Han Shijun also fell into a huge tangled contradiction, but in order not to let his sick wife see the abnormality, he still pretended to take care of her easily and tried his best to make her laugh.
And in the dead of night, Han Shijun will also turn his back to his wife and burst into tears, he is reluctant to have children and a partner who will give his life for this, if life can be repeated, he will definitely delay their pregnancy time. However, there are no assumptions.
But Zhang Lijun's family had already hurriedly arranged relevant labor induction operations for her, and Zhang Lijun said that she didn't want to go to the hospital after learning about it:
I don't want to kill this child, I've been looking at the world for 26 years, but my child hasn't seen it at all! ”
His parents talked about this and explained to Zhang Lijun the dangers of pancreatic cancer after being delayed, and they didn't want to experience the pain of sending white-haired people to black-haired people.
But Zhang Lijun repeatedly said, "Even if I kill the child, I will regret it for the rest of my life", and she did not change her determination at all.
The two sides had a fierce dispute over this, and Zhang Lijun even wanted to use the way of "jumping off the building" to show her determination!
As a result, it is natural to "pity the parents of the world".
Zhang Lijun's parents later thought that taking on the role of their daughter Zhang Lijun, isn't she also a good mother who loves her children like them? "We don't want our daughter to die, and we don't want her doll to die! ”
After a fierce ideological struggle, Zhang Lijun's family could only tearfully support her difficult decision.
As for her husband Han Shijun, he wanted to respect any decision made by his wife, but he was both sad and moved when he knew that Zhang Lijun was going to risk his life to give birth, he hugged his wife tightly and said: "No matter what kind of predicament we have to face in the future, I will be by your side." ”
Zhang Lijun hugged and cried.
After ordering the child, Zhang Lijun's next thing to do was to raise the fetus with peace of mind, which also meant that she could not take medical chemotherapy at the same time, because stimulant drugs would undoubtedly cause great damage to the child.
In this way, the Zhang family and the Han family are anxiously waiting for the moment when the child is born at term.
In the blink of an eye, it has reached the period of seven months of pregnancy, and the doctor suggested that Zhang Lijun can give birth to the child first, after all, the sooner you accept **, there is more hope for success.
After Zhang Lijun repeatedly confirmed to the doctor that the baby was born prematurely, she agreed to have a caesarean section.
When the crisp cry resounded in the production room, Zhang Lijun and Han Shijun's hanging hearts fell, and their family of three hugged each other, and the warm, sweet and somewhat sad picture moved the doctors present.
The two of us are a dragon and a snake, a dragon and a dragon, and the child is 'Dragon Bao', so let's just call it 'Xiaolongbao'! Zhang Lijun smiled at her husband.
Okay, okay, whatever you say, this name has meaning and sounds good! Han Shijun nodded like pounding garlic, showing his doting feelings for his wife.
The child was successfully born, and Zhang Lijun's unknown long road of chemotherapy has just begun.
I thought that I could have cancer surgery now, but the doctor's words made Han Shijun fall to the bottom, it turned out that Zhang Lijun's condition had deteriorated to "pancreatic signet ring cell carcinoma" because she missed the best opportunity, which means that she may go away at any time, and there is no need for useless surgery.
Zhang Lijun became very calm after learning about this, and she decided to go home and spend the rest of her time with her relatives.
Because of chemotherapy, she lost her proud hair, although it is still very heartbreaking as a girl who loves beauty, Zhang Lijun always has a way to "find herself happy".
She bought a beautiful hat to wear, and also recorded 18 birthday wishes for her son "Xiaolongbao"**, although the future is no longer there, the voice and voice and smile that accompany the child to adulthood will always remain in his heart.
After Xiaolongbao, my mother will celebrate your birthday every year. "You have to grow up and love your dad well, don't miss me too much, I have always loved you." ”.Not to mention that my son will be teary-eyed when he sees these ** in the future, even our strangers are very moved and emotional.
**, although Zhang Lijun is sick, she is ridiculous and beautiful like a flower, conveying positive and optimistic emotions to her son.
The mother's love in her heart was brilliant and great at that moment, and her respect for life was also deeply admired by others!
In the last days, Han Shijun also tried his best to meet his wife's wishes, in addition to selling his house to raise chemotherapy expenses, he even exhausted his savings and scraped together money to get travel expenses, and took Zhang Lijun to travel abroad after the Spring Festival in 2016; In August of the same year, they arrived home safely.
In November 2016, when "Xiaolongbao" was less than one year old, Zhang Lijun finally passed away due to the aggravation of her condition.
Their story attracted widespread attention after a documentary program was broadcast, and many people were quite impressed by Zhang Lijun's deep maternal love, and they were also very sympathetic to her ups and downs.
But with the deep digging of some people, Han Shijun's current situation was "slandered" by people without knowing the truth, which really made people feel the horror of keyboard warriors, but fortunately, in the end, there were relatives to clarify for him.
Han Shijun's various loving behaviors during his wife's lifetime show that he is a man with deep affection and righteousness, but we can't use our own morality to kidnap others indefinitely.
In some extreme views, it seems that he is the only one who is "worthy" of his wife if he is in constant pain—this is nothing more than satisfying the selfish desires of those people.
People have the right to say goodbye to the old environment and start a new life, Zhang Lijun must also be pleased to meet her former lover who came out of the shadows and met a new partner, and from the fact that "Xiaolongbao" was well taken care of by Han Shijun and his family, you can know what kind of character Han Shijun is.