My sister-in-law and I are from the same village, she is two years older than me, and we have known each other since childhood. She married my brother, I married her brother, and we became relatives. We are both very happy in our marriage, but when it comes to children, we are a little different.
My husband is a gentle and considerate person, he doesn't care about the sex of the child, as long as he is healthy. Our eldest daughter is a beautiful and smart little girl, and we love her very much. We also want to have another child and give her a companion, whether it's a brother or a sister, we will welcome it.
The sister-in-law doesn't think so, she thinks it's useless to have a daughter, only having a son is a serious matter. Her eldest son is her pride, and she always compares him to my daughter, saying that boys are smarter than girls, have talents, and can support their families in the future. Her second child is also a boy, and she is even more proud, saying that her family has two gold, and our family only has mud.
I know she said this on purpose to provoke me and make me angry, but I didn't bother with her, I think she just said it in her mouth, not necessarily in her heart. After all, she is also a woman, and she should be able to understand a woman's feelings. I don't want this to affect our relationship, after all, we are a family, and we have to get along for the rest of our lives.
I am pregnant with my second child, my husband and I are very happy and we are looking forward to the arrival of a new life. We didn't go to check the gender, we wanted to surprise ourselves. My sister-in-law always inquired, and she said that she hoped that I could have a son, give my daughter a younger brother, and add some blessings to my family. When she said this, I could always feel her disdain and ridicule, as if she was saying, even if you have a son, you can't compare to my two sons.
My husband and I are very happy that my second child is also a daughter, and we feel that she is another treasure given to us by God. We named her Little Flower because her eyes were as beautiful as petals. Our eldest daughter also liked her and she said that she would be a good sister, protect her and take care of her.
My sister-in-law didn't see it that way, she heard that I had given birth to a daughter, so she laughed at me and said, "You are really unlucky, you have given birth to two daughters in a row, what will your family do in the future?" Aren't you afraid that they will all get married and leave when they grow up, and there will be no one to take care of you when you are old? You might as well give up early, have another one, and maybe you can meet a son. ”
I listened to her and felt very uncomfortable, I felt that she was too much, how could she say that about me and my daughter? They are my heart and my life, so how could I give them up? I don't think it's bad luck to have daughters, I think they are my blessing and my pride. I wanted to contradict her, but I held back, I didn't want to quarrel with her, I didn't want to make it difficult for my brother and my husband. I just said lightly: "I am very satisfied, I don't want to have any more, I will raise my two daughters well and let them grow up healthy and happy." ”
When my sister-in-law saw that I ignored her, she became even more arrogant, she said: "You just pretend, you just pretend to be satisfied, you must be unwilling in your heart, you must be jealous of my two sons, you must regret that you did not check your gender and did not choose to have a son." Do you think your daughter will be good to you in the future? Do you think they will be filial to you? You are so naïve, they will forget you when they grow up, they will follow others, and you will regret it when the time comes. ”
I listened to her words and was very angry in my heart, I felt that she was so unreasonable, how could she curse me and my daughter like this? They are my hope, my future, how can I regret it? I don't think that having a son will necessarily be good to my parents, and I will definitely be filial to my parents. I wanted to scold her, but I held back, I didn't want to fall out with her, I didn't want my parents and my in-laws to be sad. I just said coldly: "I won't take what you say to heart, I believe that my daughters will be good to me, and I believe that they will be filial to me." I won't regret it, I'll be happy, you don't have to worry about me. ”
In this way, I endured her ridicule and stimulation for ten years, I didn't bother with her, I didn't quarrel with her, I just silently did my own thing, raised my daughters well, and let them grow up happily. I am not jealous of her two sons, and I have not regretted my choice, I just wish her family happiness and hope that she can change her concept, stop looking down on girls, and stop hurting me and my daughter.
Ten years have passed quickly, and my sister-in-law's family and I have also undergone great changes. My eldest daughter was admitted to Tsinghua University and became an excellent student, she studied hard and had high moral character, and was respected and loved by her teachers and classmates. She was also very filial to us, would come home to see us every holiday and brought us a lot of gifts and good food. She also often called us ** and cared about our body and life. My husband and I are very proud of her, and we feel that she is our lucky star and our sweet baby.
My youngest daughter is also very good, she is a natural artist, she loves to draw, sing, dance, and her works and performances always win everyone's praise and affection. She is also very filial to us, she always paints for us, sings, dances, and brings us a lot of joy and warmth. She also often helped us with housework, cooked for us, gave us massages and told us stories. My husband and I are very proud of her, we feel that she is our little angel, our little cutie.
The two sons of the sister-in-law's family are not as good as our daughters, they are all gangsters who don't learn and don't know how to learn, they don't like to work, they know how to play games, go to Internet cafes, fight, and cause trouble all day long. They are also not filial to my sister-in-law and my brother, they always ask them for money, make trouble if they don't give it, and sometimes beat them. They also often get them into trouble, such as debts, fights, and even getting caught by the police. My sister-in-law and my brother suffered a lot and spent a lot of money for them, but they couldn't change their nature.
One day ten years later, my sister-in-law and my brother came to visit my house, their faces were full of haggard and exhaustion, and their eyes were full of helplessness and despair. They told me that their eldest son was being chased by a group of *** people because he owed a huge gambling debt, and in order to avoid debt collection, he ran abroad and has not been heard from since. Their second son was arrested by the police and sentenced to ten years in prison for fighting with a gang of thugs, and when they went to see him, he called them useless old stuff and told them to get out.
My sister-in-law and my brother said, "We have no sons now, and our two sons are a thorn in our hearts, our sorrows, and our retribution. We regret that we didn't educate their sons well, didn't set them the right values, and didn't teach them respect and gratitude. We envy your two daughters, and we feel that they are the happiness of your family, the glory of your family, and the blessing of your family. ”
I listened to their words and felt very sad in my heart, I felt very pitiful for them, and their two sons really disappointed them and made them sad. I also feel that what happened to them is their retribution, and their ridicule and prejudice against me and my daughter at the beginning have finally paid them a terrible price. I wanted to comfort them, but I didn't know what to say, I just silently poured them a cup of tea and asked them to sit down and rest.
My two daughters came back, and when they saw my sister-in-law and my brother, they politely greeted them and called them sister-in-law and uncle. They also brought them some fruit and snacks for them to taste. My sister-in-law and my brother were very touched when they saw them, they said: "You are really two good children, you are really two good daughters, we envy your mother very much, we admire your mother very much, we are wrong, our previous words are all nonsense, we apologize to you and your mother, we hope you can forgive us." ”
When I see them like this, I have mixed feelings, I think they are very pitiful, I think they are very pathetic, I also think they are very sincere, and I also think they are ridiculous. I wanted to say something, but I didn't want to say it, I just smiled slightly and said, "It's okay, we are all a family, don't worry about the past, just cherish the present life, I hope you can cheer up and start over." ”
My two daughters also said: "It's okay, sister-in-law and uncle, we won't mind what you said before, and we won't hold a grudge against you, we just hope that you can be happy, happy, and get along with us." When they said this, their eyes glistened with tears, their voices were gentle, and their expressions were sincere.
When my sister-in-law and my brother heard their words, they were even more moved, and they said: "You are really two generous children, really two kind children, we are very grateful to you, we admire you very much, we will treat you well in the future, we will love you well, we will treat you as our own daughters in the future, we will treat you as our own relatives in the future." ”
In this way, the relationship between me and my sister-in-law, because of this incident, has changed a lot, we have changed from laughing and hostile to each other, to understanding and respecting each other, we have changed from hurting and indifferent to each other, to caring for and warming each other, and we have changed from being estranged and estranged from each other to being close and harmonious with each other. Our two families have become more harmonious and happy because of this incident, and our two pairs of parents have become happier and more satisfied because of this incident.