Among this year's Spring Festival movies, the movie "Hot and Hot" directed by Jia Ling was released for only four days, and the box office exceeded 1.5 billion, ranking first on the list.
Before, many people said that the biggest gimmick of this movie was that Jia Ling lost more than 100 pounds, but in fact, Jia Ling's thinness is only part of the movie.
As the host Lu Yu said: "This movie is not about **, nor is it about boxing, it is about how ordinary people care for themselves, how to reach the bottom**, and find their own stories." ”
In the course of this movie, I, like many viewers, couldn't help but cry and laugh, moved by the warm plot, and inspired by the brave spirit.
This is not only a shocking work, but also teaches us all a lesson: know how to care for yourself.
The heroine in the film, Le Ying, once fell into the predicament of family affection and the fantasy of love because she didn't know how to love herself.
Because she was so eager to be loved, she fell into one abyss after another, tormenting herself all over her body.
Later, after being reborn, she finally understood that only by learning to love herself could she break the cage of fate and live the way she wanted.
Everyone only has one life, no matter how embarrassed and bad they were.
As long as you learn to love yourself well from now on and face the challenges of life bravely, you will definitely be able to bloom your own wonderful.
The heroine Le Ying played by Jia Ling in the film is an obese and introverted older leftover girl.
After graduating from university, she worked for a while, but because she was introverted and didn't know how to communicate with people, she quit her job soon and went home.
For the next ten years, she has been staying at home, sleeping every day except eating, because of long-term self-isolation and overeating, she has become a big fat man weighing more than 200 pounds.
Her younger sister Le Dan is tricky and mean, she often laughs at her sister Le Ying for being lazy and unproductive, she only knows how to gnaw at home and does not contribute anything to the family.
In order to let her daughter go to school, she didn't care about Le Ying's feelings and forcibly asked Le Ying to transfer the house to her name.
Later, during a meal, she began to sarcastically sarcastic Le Ying again, and Le Ying replied, she got up and smashed the plate, lifted the table, and even rode on Le Ying's body and beat Le Ying.
Le Ying is completely like a superfluous person at home, not only does she not get warmth and understanding, but she also has to endure scolding and beating.
Heartbroken, after being beaten by her sister, she chose to run away from home and fend for herself.
She rented a small house in an old town and got a job as a waitress.
Although the work is hard and the room is simple, for Le Ying, being able to be self-reliant, away from abuse and consumption, makes her feel relieved and comfortable in this life.
In life, many of us are also inferior and introverted like Le Ying, and are often ridiculed?
We also wanted to go out and work hard, but we were always despised by others for no reason, and our hearts were hit;
We also want to live seriously, but we will always be consumed by the sarcasm and indifference of others.
In the end, we are besieged by the consumption around us, and fall into a depressed loneliness, and life seems to have fallen into a dark abyss, with no light in sight.
The ancients said: "Living with good people is like entering the room of Zhilan, and if you don't smell its fragrance for a long time, you will melt with it;
and ungood people, such as into the abalone, for a long time without smelling its smell, but also with it. ”
People, once they are troubled by negative consumption, it is difficult not to be affected by it.
The greater the negative consumption, the greater the damage to the heart.
Only by staying away from consumption can we find our own energy.
In this dire world, there is nothing more painful than negative consumption, but similarly, there is nothing more liberating than staying away from consumption.
As long as there is persistence in our hearts, as long as we can still be self-reliant, we must love ourselves more and save ourselves from harm.
Venerable Hongyi once said, "If you are too accommodating to others, others will make it even more difficult for you." ”
In life, blindly accommodating others and wronging oneself will only make oneself change from active to passive, and eventually sting oneself.
Le Ying is not beautiful in appearance, she is only willing to make promises, but she is kind-hearted.
But it is precisely because she is too kind that she is always used to treating others with condescension.
Faced with the double betrayal of her best friend and her boyfriend, she wronged herself to agree to her best friend's request and went to be a wedding bridesmaid for her best friend, so that everyone saw her embarrassment;
She regarded her new boyfriend's dream of being a boxing champion as her dream, and she did not hesitate to overdraft her salary to fight for her boyfriend's competition spot, but in the end she was abused by her boyfriend in public and was not recognized.
In order to help her relative Doudou become a regular worker, she wronged herself and went to record a talk show that she didn't want to record, but she was deliberately edited into an image of a wicked person who was unfilial and gnawed at the old by the program team, and was accused and abused by the public.
Le Ying's blind accommodation and compromise forced herself into a desperate situation step by step.
That night, Le Ying, who walked home alone in the heavy rain, felt the resentment and grievances in her heart to the extreme.
Facing the pitiful and helpless self in the mirror, Le Ying cried heartbreakingly.
In the end, she chose to commit suicide by jumping off the building, she felt that only when she died, she would not feel the pain.
Maybe it was the favor of God, Le Ying was still alive after jumping downstairs.
When the bright morning sun shone on her face, she finally came to her senses and decided not to wronged herself again and live well.
Many times, the reason why a person is humble and accommodating to others is because he cannot see his own light.
Some people, in the coercion of human warmth, ignore their own feelings, and gradually become low-voiced and compromised;
Some people, deceived by the lies of others, forget their own principles and begin to follow the crowd and meet their will.
In the end, those who compromise, in the humiliation again and again, are in pain; And those who are happy to meet the song are exhausted in countless deliberate flattery.
There is a saying on the Internet that I particularly agree: "Don't always wronged yourself because you are accommodating others, in this world, there are few people worthy of you to bend over." ”
When we listen to our hearts and no longer go against our hearts, our soul begins to be full.
When we face everything about ourselves and live without humility or arrogance, the growth of life begins.
After experiencing multiple injuries of family, friendship, and love, Le Ying decided to fight back for her life.
She is not willing to be just a cowardly loser forever, she wants to be a boxer and win for herself once.
At first, the gym owners and coaches were not optimistic about her, thinking that she was too old and obese to meet the requirements of a boxer.
In the face of doubts and slander, Le Ying did not have internal friction and retreat, but insisted on skipping rope every day, running rain or shine, practicing weightlifting a lot, and training boxing movements every day until late at night.
After a year of unremitting devil training, Le Ying successfully lost more than 100 pounds and developed superior muscle lines.
She can finally stand on the stage of boxing matches in the image of a standard boxer.
In the course of the game, in the face of professional boxers with absolute advantages, Le Ying was beaten down again and again, but she stood up again and again, and the corners of her mouth were bleeding and did not give up.
Her amazing perseverance allowed her to finally fight back once in a round, earning herself the cheers of the audience.
In the end, Le Ying insisted on finishing the match despite the pain, and she proved that she could also be a good boxer with practical actions.
The people once said: "When your ability is big enough and your ability is strong enough, the success you want will come as promised." ”
In the face of a treacherous fate, everyone will go through many hardships.
If you have been mired in the quagmire of internal friction, it is tantamount to being cocooned and bound to yourself.
It's better to be brave once:
See if you can break through this difficulty, and try to see if you can break this barrier.
When you abandon internal friction, self-esteem, and focus on fighting for yourself, you will see a new and attractive version of yourself.
In the easter egg at the end of the movie, Jia Ling announced the changes she had brought about **:
The first time you can stilt your legs, ** you can find the blood vessels with a needle; Wearing M-size clothes, long hair, and big waves, how happy and how to come in the future."
Jia Ling in reality, like Le Ying in the movie, won a chance for herself and made herself reborn.
As she said in the movie: "Everything is in time, remember to love yourself, you only live once, right?" ”
Yes, each of us only has one life, so why not have a hearty life?
If you like to travel, you will boldly go to see the outside world; If you like food, you try your best to satisfy your taste buds;
If you like to read, you focus on the world of books; If you like something, you will strive to pursue it and devote yourself to it.
Love life well, stay away from negative consumption, be self-reliant, and be the helmsman of your own life.
Not being aggrieved and seeking perfection, not being depressed by internal friction, is the most sober way for every adult to live in 2024.
I hope we can all learn to love ourselves well and live our own hot and hot life like Jia Ling.
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