Misfortune and blessing are relied upon, and blessing and misfortune are lurking.
Fortune and misfortune always go hand in hand, but everyone wants to be happy in their lives.
According to common sense, a person's life should be bitter first and then sweet, and the older he gets, the more blessed he is.
But some old people are still suffering, no matter how hard they try in the first half of their lives, it is useless.
Zeng Shiqiang, a master of Chinese studies, put forward a point of view: "A person's voice is likely to be able to influence and even determine their fate." ”
It is true that the blessings and misfortunes of the elderly are in the "voice".
"Sick voice", body suffering.
When you get older, getting sick is inevitable.
Typhoid fever and colds and the like, endure it and get past, and I am used to it.
If a person is sick for a long time, it is not optimistic, and the mentality will collapse. From then on, "moaning" and complaining.
If the elderly are sick, the wife can't take care of themselves, and the children don't care about you, then it is inevitable to complain about it. will even start the mode of complaining in the midst of illness, thinking that the children are not filial and the family is not warm.
There is a proverb that says, "When a person is sick, he is not feeling well; The seedlings are sick and do not grow grains. ”
The voice of sickness came, and the whole body was uncomfortable. If you want to change, you have to exercise more physically, and you have to change your mentality, so as not to lose hope in life.
"Scolding", family sorrow.
On the "Beijing Evening News" online platform, there is an example.
The elderly Mr. Tao, when he was riding the elevator, fell and then couldn't move.
After careful treatment in the hospital, the old gentleman was still paralyzed and his body had lost control.
For the first two years, the son took good care of the old gentleman.
Later, I got bored. After all, there is no filial son in front of the bed of a long-term illness.
The son and daughter consulted many times, but there was no good solution. So he decided to send the old gentleman to a nursing home to reduce his burden. But the old gentleman was reluctant to go to a nursing home.
After another period of time, the people of my son's generation were scolding"If we catch up with our old man and get sick again, will our little family collapse?" ”
After all, there is not just one old man in the family, there are other elderly people. If a few more elderly people get sick, will it still be there? The scolding came, and it seemed reasonable.
In any case, when you hear the scolding, it is the beginning of the loss of family harmony and the beginning of people's difficulties.
What's even more terrifying is that the elderly have to be taken care of, but the children are quarreling and fighting, and no one is willing to take responsibility. The old man was finally left to dry, the sorrow came, and filial piety was completely lost.
"Cry", great calamity.
Think about it, under what circumstances do you cry out loud? Can't help but cry?
From the perspective of the elderly, the white-haired person sending the black-haired person is the thing that cries the most. Although he is old, he still cares about his children and hopes that they will be well. Even if their children are not filial, the old parents love their children without hesitation.
Also, the old man is terminally ill, although he verbally says: "Don't be afraid, birth, old age, sickness and death are the laws of people." "But it is still difficult to do it in the heart, there is no fear of life and death, and tears are inevitable.
If both husband and wife are alive, and one party reaches a life-and-death situation, the other party will cry non-stop. It's half the way my life has collapsed.
From the perspective of children, crying out to the sky and grabbing the ground means that the parents have passed away, or the parents have reached the point of life and death.
Seeing his parents leave, he couldn't do anything about it. All the love of parents is gone at a certain moment, and children become orphans, which will be unacceptable for a while.
In addition, the development of the family business has encountered great difficulties, and it is also necessary to shed tears when it returns to poverty overnight; When the feelings of young couples change, and there is a divorce, there are always people who are reluctant and hurt.
Crying, there are also tears of joy, but there are very few cases, most of them are sad and crying. This is not a blessing, it is a curse.
"Harmony", get rich.
Su Xun of the Northern Song Dynasty has liked to play since he was a child and does not care much about his family.
After he got married, he often saw his wife Cheng, shook his head and sighed. After some thought, he knew that his wife disliked him for not learning and not knowing, so he began to study hard.
Later, they had two sons, and they were even more motivated to study.
Su Xun and his wife often put a certain book mysteriously somewhere. The son was very curious, so he picked up the book and read it secretly, thus growing wisdom.
Both sons were admitted to the Jinshi, and the family changed dramatically.
Since ancient times, husband and wife have been concentric, and their profits have been broken; Home and everything is prosperous.
For a family to be blessed, it must have money and the wisdom to make money. As long as everyone thinks in one place and works hard in one place, there will always be peaks and loops.
Hearing the voice of harmony means that everyone can discuss everything and reach a consensus, which is the process of gathering strength.
"Laughter", family portrait.
When people are old, rich or not, they can live a small life of "two people in one house, three meals and four seasons", which can be regarded as happiness.
Husband and wife sit opposite each other, can eat with a smile, and although they don't speak, their hearts are also warm.
Seeing that the children are promising, or have found a partner, get married, and have grandchildren, the laughter is even clearer.
The old man can laugh out loud, which also means that "the sound is like a bell", which is a sign of physical and mental health.
Remember the saying, "Whatever happens, be quiet and happy!" It's life. We are to accept life as it is, bravely, boldly, and forever smiling. ”
When you laugh, the haze of life will go away, and people will become younger.
The whole family laughed, indicating that their health was getting better and they had no worries.
Just like eating a reunion dinner in the Chinese New Year's Eve, while eating and drinking, while calculating the family's savings, looking forward to next year's harvest.
In addition to the above voices, we will also hear "the frolicking of the people around us, the sound of quarrels, greetings, shouts", etc., but everything that makes people feel good is a blessing, and what makes people feel bad is a disaster.
Selectively remembering certain sounds and forgetting certain sounds is a way to retain your blessings.
As the wise lawyer said, "Happiness cannot be attained, only happiness can be brought by living happily." Disasters cannot be avoided, and they can only be avoided with a harmless heart. ”
May you and I open our mouths to say blessings, and close our mouths to cherish blessings.