In Gorongosa Park in Africa, there are many elephants that used to live freely.
From 1977 to 1992, a civil war broke out in the country where the park is located. Poachers took the opportunity to enter the park and take the ivory.
Elephants that lose their tusks not only leave a scar, but also threaten their lives.
For the sake of the continuation of the race, elephants evolved rapidly - throwing away their tusks.
According to statistics, before the Civil War, 185% of females do not have tusks, and in 2000 this proportion rose to 509%。
Without the tusks, the elephant is no longer a favorite animal for poachers, and thus is free from the danger.
The evolution of elephants is like a famous sayingChanging others is a nerve, and changing oneself is a god.
The forest is big, and there are all kinds of birds; The city is big, and everyone has it. You can't avoid all the damage, you can't please everyone, and you can't find even one who understands you.
Therefore, we must understand that others can be their own ladder, but not all the time. On the contrary, living in the shadow of others is the greatest tragedy in life.
Living in someone else's ideals: confused.
Writer Pengshan wrote about such a growth experience.
When he was in college, he watched the TV series "No. 1 Imperial Court" and was deeply attracted by the judges in it. He decisively decided to change his major and study law.
After some twists and turns, he entered the legal profession as he wished. When he got the law book, he was excited. But the next moment, he was almost crying - boring reading, reciting without pleasure.
You must understand that the grapes that cannot be eaten are sour, sweet, and bland. But no matter what the taste, you don't want to be envious, it belongs to someone else.
This mountain looks at the mountain and the mountain is high" people abound. They don't know that their ideals are also the objects that others look up to.
If you always live in someone else's ideals, then you will be like the monkey who "breaks corn". When you see corn, you like it very much, you lose the watermelon in your hand, and you walk into the cornfield; Seeing sesame seeds, you lose the corn and go to the sesame fields; In the end, you find that you don't have what you want.
You have to have faith in yourself and don't think too low of yourself. Even if your ideal is just to plant one acre and three points of land, it is worth sticking to. Among the people who farm, there are also celebrities and many rich people.
Ideals, each has its own merits, don't be presumptuous.
Living in someone else's mouth: noise.
The mouth grows on someone else, you can't control it, you can't block it. What you can do is to take care of your mouth and ears, and don't take all your words to heart.
In the early eighties of the last century, Francois Mitterrand decided to renovate the Louvre.
Design master I.M. Pei submitted the design plan, and it was recognized by more than a dozen industry insiders. He was to build a glass pyramid in the Napoleonic courtyard of the Louvre.
When people learned of Pei's idea, they came out against it. A large number of people believe that this is a "lose-lose situation".
When the proposal was submitted to the Supreme Council of Historical Monuments, the answer was that the huge broken thing was just a fake diamond.
There were too many voices of opposition, which led to the delay of the project, which lasted for more than two years, and was in the midst of a war of words.
I.M. Pei built a similar model and asked more than 60,000 Parisians to visit and then make suggestions. Surprisingly, people began to approve of his proposal.
Now, this glass pyramid has become "a huge gem" that people talk about.
Isn't it that you have such a time:I was going to do something, but because someone objected, I gave up; Originally, you were sure about something, but because someone made a suggestion, you wavered; Originally, you thought about what to do, but when someone interrupted you, you forgot about it.
Isn't it that you still have such a time:If someone makes a suggestion, you have to refute it and explain it desperately; Someone gives you advice that causes you to tremble for days; When someone scolds you, it's very uncomfortable.
Writer Mo Yan said: "It is difficult for outsiders to evaluate you inside, they just measure you according to their own standards." The one who really evaluates yourself most accurately is yourself. ”A good life is not to judge others at will, nor to accept the evaluation of others at will. If you hear a lot of noise, learn to be silent and quiet.
Living in someone else's habits: uncomfortable.
Can you "follow suit" with others? If you do, it's going to be hard.
I have a friend born in the 90s who went to work in a company in Guangdong and left after a month. He said that the company doesn't work much overtime, and things are relatively easy, but the company is very small, and the boss always asks everyone to accompany him to drink tea and chat, eat snacks, and drink beer after work.
Friends like sports, surfing the Internet, reading books. How can the life after work be unconditionally possessed by the boss when it is fully arranged?
There is also a very familiar girl who is very unhappy after finding a boyfriend. Because her boyfriend's mother is so good, she cooks a lot of food every day, causing her to lose her mouth and eat fat.
As a last resort, the girl told her boyfriend's mother: "It's better to eat light and less." After that, the problem of eating at home was very casual. If she wants to eat something special, do it herself.
There is a local saying among the Kyrgyz people: "A dog that is used to being leashed cannot be taken to hunting." ”Use other people's habits to dictate your own time, and you will find that you have lost your freedom, even as if you were in a cage.
The law of fleas tells us that if life is limited by something for a long time, then there is a high probability that you will not exceed that height.
Other people's habits are the "limitations" of life, which should be broken from the beginning, especially some bad habits, which should be dared to be broken, rather than allowing the other party to influence themselves.
Everyone has their own shadow and is also the best friend. If you stand in the shadow of someone else, your partner will disappear.
When you cherish your shadow, you will find that you have been standing in the sun, warm and comfortable.
In the vast sea of people, everyone is a passerby of time, and everyone is their own protagonist.
Be yourself, although not perfect, but the possibilities are endless.