Illustrated. My name is Xie Jie, I am 31 years old, I am a mother of two children, and I have a happy family. During the Spring Festival just past, there was one thing that made my heart blocked, and my family went to my husband's rural hometown to accompany my in-laws for the New Year, but my elderly in-laws favored sons over daughters and asked me to have three children and continue the incense for my husband's family
I grew up in a provincial capital, the only child of my parents, and I was pampered by my parents since I was a child. After graduating from college and working, I met my current husband He Gang. He Gang came from a rural area and his family was poor, and his parents didn't agree at first, but I decided that he was the person I could trust for life, and my parents finally couldn't resist me and agreed to our relationship. After more than a year of love, the two of us got the certificate and entered the palace of marriage.
Illustrated. After marriage, my husband was considerate to me, and I am glad that I did not miss this rare happiness. In the following years, with the birth of two daughters one after another, the life of a family of four was happy and sweet.
Because we have to repay more than 3,000 mortgages every month, I can't take my daughter at home, my mother in order to help me take care of the baby, go through the retirement procedures in advance, help me take care of my two daughters, so that I can devote myself to work, in recent years there has been a lot of progress in the work, become a middle-level cadre of the unit.
My parents were well-informed, and in the years after we got married, they offered to let us go to my husband's hometown to accompany my in-laws for the New Year. For this, my husband is very grateful and privately promised me that he will honor my parents well in the future. I know that my parents actually want us to spend the Chinese New Year with them, but they don't want my family to have conflict. In their words, we live in a city and can often meet, while our in-laws live in the countryside and can only meet on holidays.
Illustrated. On the afternoon of February 9 this year, my husband and I got off work and drove with our two daughters to a small mountain village 300 miles away to spend the New Year with our elderly in-laws. That night, after the Chinese New Year's Eve dinner, the family gathered around the TV **CCTV Spring Festival Gala, talking and laughing.
But I didn't expect that maybe seeing that I was in a good mood, my mother-in-law actually offered to let me have three children and continue the incense for the He family. "Mom, look at what you said, aren't the two children from your He family? I said with a smile, trying to hide the unhappiness in my heart.
Girls will get married when they grow up, how can they continue the incense! The mother-in-law said. The father-in-law also echoed on the side, saying that the policy does not allow it, there is no way, now you can have three children, just have another one, if you give birth to a boy, the incense of the He family will not be broken!
The boss in my heart is not happy, but it is not easy to get angry, after all, it is my elder. Fortunately, my husband saw that I was embarrassed, and I solved the siege in time, saying that having a child is not a trivial matter, and that many aspects should be considered comprehensively, and the topic was transferred to other aspects in time. But after my in-laws gave birth to three children, my good mood for the New Year has long been gone.
Illustrated. When I returned after the year, my in-laws repeatedly reminded my husband and I to think about it as soon as possible so that they could hold their grandchildren as soon as possible. Alas, the pressure is big enough now, I really don't want to have another life, one is not good in recent years, and now the job is really okay, but when was Leng Buding laid off, how to raise three children, and now the pressure of raising two daughters is big enough, and I have to pay the mortgage every month!
What should I do about my in-laws' birth of a third child?