The matter of cheating is like a candy box full of temptations being opened and placed in front of the child, and if the child does not finish eating, the child will definitely not let go easily.
Therefore, once you touch an extramarital affair and experience the joy that this relationship brings, I am afraid that you will not be able to stop at any time!
When will a middle-aged woman stop after cheating?
Let's listen to the truth from these three married women.
First lady: My surname is Du and I am 45 years old this year.
To tell you the truth, I once had an extramarital affair with that man for almost 3 years, and it didn't end until last year.
Then I didn't have the idea of finding a man to continue this life, and I really returned to marriage and family. Even if the relationship between husband and wife has long since broken down and the two parties are left to make do, I don't bother to get involved in that kind of thing anymore.
I didn't understand it, but in getting along with that extramarital affair, I completely saw through the true face of the cheating man and was not worth mentioning, so I felt disheartened about it.
In the final analysis, people just want to get the qualification to maintain an improper relationship with an extramarital woman without paying too much money and material price, and those sweet words are just a means, in fact, they are just a kind of pretense.
I saw it clearly, I was hurt, and in the end I felt worthless, and I would rather let it go.
In this way, naturally they are no longer willing to repeat this behavior because they are afraid of getting hurt again and being deceived!
Second Lady: You can call me Sister Hong, I'm 42 now.
I've cheated on me before, and I've found more than one lover. At that time, I lived a very superficial life.
I always think that the value of a woman's existence is that she must be adored and loved by men. The more men are willing to worship me, the more satisfied I become.
But then I found out that ** is what great charm you have, but that some men are like flies and bees, whether it is stinky meat or flowers, they will be on the occasion when they have the opportunity!
Therefore, the more I found out later that there is no real love in extramarital affairs, only mutual use, and I gradually lost interest in it.
In turn, this relationship has had a big impact on my marriage, family and career, and if I am not careful, my world may collapse because of it.
After thinking about these things clearly, I said goodbye to this life and returned to tranquility.
After no longer engaging in these messy things, in order to kill time and fill the emptiness in my heart, I began to learn yoga, guqin, and painting. With more advanced hobbies, my self-confidence has also increased.
Now, there is no need to get someone's love to prove your worth, and you live a peaceful life.
Third lady: My surname is Sang, and I am 41 years old.
I have a lover with whom I have been for almost three years and have always been very close.
If it can continue, I will never be willing to let go, so everyone will know from my attitude and description that our separation is a last resort.
Mainly, my husband found out and gave me an ultimatum to choose between extramarital affairs and marriage.
Although I have a good relationship with my lover, there is not much conflict between me and my husband, but when I am middle-aged, my relationship has long been dull and I can't feel passion and love.
Later, by chance, I met a very feeling lover outside of marriage, and I couldn't control myself and cheated.
If I had to choose between two men and two relationships, I would have to choose between husband and marriage.
After all, if you give up, you will lose too much and pay too much price, and you are not willing to let the family fall apart.
Moreover, lovers also have families, and I am afraid that even if we divorce, we will not end well.
Under what circumstances are middle-aged women willing to give up extramarital affairs and return to marriage and family?
There are probably two main situations: passive abandonment and active abandonment. If you passively give up, you are nothing more than recognizing the true face of extramarital love, feeling disappointed, thinking that it is too far from your fantasy, and your expectations are very different.
In addition, it is possible that the husband discovers that at the critical moment when she is really facing the critical moment of giving up her marriage, the woman cannot bear the huge loss caused by this loss, and has to give up the extramarital affair that is insecure for her, even if she is very close to her lover.
Taking the initiative to give up is actually one kind: not only seeing the falsehood of extramarital love, feeling bored, but also finding more interests and hobbies in life that can bring you growth and rich connotation.
Let your self-confidence come more solid and strong, so that things like relying on the love and approval of the opposite sex are completely free from desire, and quit this psychological dependence.
Extramarital love is such a thing, it is really difficult to have a good ending, the happiness brought to the men and women involved is not real, but it will destroy or even ruin their lives, I don't want to face the destruction of everything, I advise men and men to be careful in this kind of thing!