People who are obsessed with love tend to be easily deceived. You can't be sure if the other person is genuine about you, or if the other person's promise will be kept. Still, you can't help but immerse yourself in it.
It is two people who enter into marriage, but marriage involves much more than just husband and wife. We need to think more deeply than just the surface of the problem.
When marrying someone, you can't just look at the happiness in front of you, and you can't make decisions based on feelings. Don't give yourself over easily until you really get to know each other, and don't trust the other person's promises.
My moral standards may not be up to par because I cheated on my husband behind my back during my marriage. At the time, I didn't think there was anything wrong with cheating, firstly, because my friends and neighbors around me also cheated on me, and secondly, my relationship with my husband was not very good.
Of course, when I say bad feelings, it's not that we hate each other, it's not that he betrayed me or did something sorry for me, it's just that I don't have the same passion as before. We still communicate in our daily lives and get along with each other, but we are more like ordinary friends of the opposite sex when we get along.
I was in my thirties, in the best of my life as a woman, and I couldn't stand this blandness and loneliness. So it wasn't long before I found the right man and quickly developed a lover relationship. During that time, he was very nice to me, willing to spend money, and had a lot of sweet words.
It can be said that the feeling I lost with my husband has been regained in him. At first, I didn't want to develop a relationship with him that went beyond a lover, but after a few months of dating him, I actually started to think about marrying him.
After this thought, I didn't want to continue living with my husband. Just like a person who has tasted the sweetness, he will never think about the hard life of the past again. That's how I was then.
After making sure that he was willing to marry me, I decisively divorced my husband. In order to end this marriage as soon as possible, I had almost nothing. Most of the marital property belonged to him, and the children lived with him. Although many of my friends and neighbors thought I was stupid and didn't know how to cherish it, I didn't agree with them at the time and didn't care what they thought.
After the divorce, I quickly moved into my lover's house to live with him. About two months later, we started preparing to get married. The wedding wasn't big, but I didn't care. After all, I'm remarried, even if I don't have a wedding, I just get a license. Moreover, this was his first marriage, and I felt that I had taken advantage of it.
However, after actually marrying him, I realized that I didn't take advantage of it. He didn't really like me at all, he just used me as a tool.
Less than two years after I married him, I had the idea of divorcing again and living alone. I'd rather work on my own and save money, be independent, or find someone else. In short, it's stronger than it is now, anyway.
After living in their family for two years, I have come to understand that I am just a tool for their family to carry on the lineage. During my pregnancy, my in-laws and husband treated me very well, cooking nutritious meals that met my tastes every day, I didn't need to do housework, they would accompany me when I went for a walk, and they also bought me all kinds of supplements, and cared for me like a treasure.
At that time, I thought what a happy thing it was to marry him. But when I had a baby, their attitude changed. My in-laws and husband became cold to me, and the children completely ignored me after weaning. They only have children in their eyes, and they don't even give me a look.
I basically have no say in raising my children, they are responsible for the powder, diapers, food, etc. But I couldn't be happy.
My in-laws usually ignore me at all, and my husband only touches me when he needs me. I was already able to foresee that when they raised the children and I was old, I would definitely be kicked out of the house.
In order to avoid such an ending, and to get out of the current predicament, I filed for divorce.
People who really like their lover will not want to live their old life again. However, it is not a wise decision to divorce in a hurry in order to marry a lover. Marrying your lover before knowing his true face is destined to end in vain.
Love is deceptive because it is easy to get lost, lack sobriety, and sanity when falling in love with the other person. Moreover, marriage is not just a matter for two people. Marriage involves all aspects of the children and the family as a whole. If these are not clear, it will inevitably end in tragedy!