The French writer Victor Hugo once said:
"A person who knows how to control himself at the right time is a truly smart person. ”
Many times, an outrageous joke can destroy a relationship, and an act that crosses the line can ruin one's chances.
The more experience I have, the more I understand that what can really protect us is not the act of doing as we please, but the self-discipline of self-discipline.
A person's top self-discipline is nothing more than: fear, caution, and action.
Fearful
The story of Ye Cunren, the governor of Henan, is very moving.
He has always been honest and honest when he was an official, never took any bribes, and when he left office, his subordinates asked him to say goodbye by the river.
Ye Cunren wanted to refuse, but he couldn't bear the repeated insistence of his subordinates, so he agreed.
On the appointed day, he waited by the lake early, but he never saw the figure of his subordinates.
It wasn't until it was dark that he saw his subordinates slowly rowing towards him in a small boat with a box of gold and silver jewelry.
It turned out that the subordinates wanted to give Ye Cunren gold and silver property when they were leaving, and they were worried about being discovered, so they deliberately chose to come here late at night.
His subordinates sent the treasure to him, and persuaded him one after another: Please accept this gift, I came late at night, and no one will know.
Unexpectedly, Ye Cunren waved his hand to refuse, and chanted leisurely:
In the middle of the night when the moon is white and windy, the flat boat is late.
Feel the gentleman's affection and return the gentleman's gift, not afraid of others and afraid of oneself.
Meaning: On such a moonlit and breezy night, it turns out that you are late for the sake of giving away;
I appreciate your farewell, but I still can't accept it, it doesn't matter if others know about it, the main thing is that I am afraid and cannot be transferred.
It is precisely because of Ye Cunren's awe in his heart that even when no one knows, he will not cross his bottom line.
Awe is never a shackle for us to limit ourselves, but a step towards excellence.
As Zeng Guofan said: "Reverence is the way to happiness." ”
In the bizarre life, reverence is the best talisman.
When you are in a high position, you can still restrain your edge and restrain your desires, so that you can reap the blessings of a long stream;
In prison, if you are willing to abide by your principles and not cross the minefield, you will eventually get out of the predicament of fate.
There may be no warning signs in life, but we can put alarms in our hearts.
Retain a sense of reverence for relationships, so that you can pay attention to proportions when getting along, and will not easily cross the line;
Have a sense of reverence for the rules, frolic and do more than enough, in order to leave room for yourself.
When a person is fearful, he can not be tempted by fame and fortune, not burdened by desires, and live a smooth life.
Be warned
Aesop, a fabler, worked as a chef in his youth.
Once, the master asked him to cook with the best and the worst in the world.
When Aesop agreed, she made two tongue feasts.
Looking at the owner's puzzled look, he explained with a smile:
The tongue can speak wise words, and it is naturally the best thing; But sometimes trouble comes from the mouth, and it is also the most hurtful weapon.
Indeed, words seem to be invisible, but they can directly hit people's hearts, and knowing how to restrain one's tongue is the deepest cultivation.
* In "One Sentence Top 10,000 Sentences", Niu Aiguo and Feng Wenxiu have known each other since childhood and have always been very close to each other.
Although one of them lives in the county seat and the other lives in Niujiazhuang, they are far apart, but they often get together to chat and have a very close relationship.
By chance, Niu Aiguo found that his wife was unfaithful to him, and the family of her cheating partner kept instigating him to kill his wife to vent his hatred.
Niu Aiguo, who was full of depression, found his friend Feng Wenxiu and told him about the scandals and grievances at home.
A few days later, the two had a misunderstanding because of the sale of beef, and Feng Wenxiu was angry and made Niu Aiguo's privacy public.
All of a sudden, rumors poured in, and Niu Aiguo, who was pointed at by everyone, almost collapsed, and his friendship with Feng Wenxiu was gone.
In any occasion and relationship, there are untouchable red lines.
Not every topic can become an after-dinner conversation, and not all stories can be ridiculed.
The writer Ernest Hemingway once said:
It takes two years to learn to speak, but it takes a lifetime to learn to shut up. ”
Echoing the truth without thinking before knowing the truth will not show wisdom and will only cause greater misunderstanding;
When you are angry, you will attack the other party without words, not only will not solve the problem, but will make the atmosphere tense.
The truly clever way of speaking is not to express endlessly, but to have a ruler under the mouth and a measure of words and deeds.
Speak more slowly, leaving time for reflection, so that the words are more appropriate and appropriate;
Be warm in your words and take care of the other party's feelings, so that communication can be harmonious and warm.
Behind the prudent words and deeds, there is not only wisdom and planning, but also thoughtfulness and kindness.
There is a stop
Charlie Munger once said, "Knowing what not to do is more important than knowing what to do." ”
In the materialistic life, we often face ** and tests, if we don't know how to converge, we will be dragged into the abyss by desire.
Only sober and restrained can we achieve steady and far-reaching results.
Some time ago, the news of "Guiyang woman paid more than 40,000 yuan for the cafeteria" appeared on the hot search.
When this Ms. Ye comes to the restaurant to eat, she often orders more than a dozen portions of arctic shellfish, French foie gras and other ingredients in one go, and nearly four or five people's ingredients, but it only takes dozens of minutes to "eat" and leave.
After a long time, the boss felt tired.
After checking the surveillance, I learned that the lady would bring many plastic bags and paper towels each time, pack them while eating, and secretly take most of the ingredients out.
Due to the fixed fee for the buffet, this lady uses a meal replacement coupon every time, and only pays 218 yuan to order tens of thousands of yuan of ingredients.
When she found out that this method was feasible, she was even more out of control, coming to the cafeteria five times in a month, taking away more than 40,000 yuan of ingredients.
With the surveillance footage, the restaurant owner also took her to court, and she had to pay for the full cost of the meal at her own expense.
There is a saying in "Wonderful Sayings" that says it very well:
"Those choices that are the most important for you are not God-given opportunities, but the devil's exam questions. ”
Seemingly low-hanging fruit, if you take risks to seek it, you will often fall into the trap;
It seems that the shortcut is easy to take, but if you give up the bottom line to pursue, you will often take more detours.
Life is like a speeding train, and what is more important than stepping on the accelerator is learning to brake in time.
When desire exceeds the boundary of ability, it is better to downgrade consumption in time than to overdraft yourself endlessly.
When there is a conflict between ** and principles, instead of falling into the emptiness of drunkenness, it is better to try to look down on fame and fortune and keep the original intention.
Truly wise people know how to restrain their behavior, do something and do nothing, so that our life will not deviate.
Nietzsche stumbled upon a garden when he was passing by and noticed that when gardeners wanted plants to grow more luxuriantly, they often did not give them more fertilizer, but pruned the branches in a big way.
Those pruned trunks will be revitalized by it.
After seeing it, he sighed: We can also use sharp scissors to cut off our unbridled emotions, greedy desires, and vain hearts, so that the tree of life can be evergreen.
Indeed, if you want to make your life look new, you don't need to blindly innovate, you just need to practice day after day.
Be fearful and abandon the luck mentality, which will avoid a greater crisis;
Be cautious and try to be cautious in saying less in order to reduce the impact of friction;
Stop and restrain your behavior before you can get out of the **.
Click[Like].For the rest of our lives, I hope we can continue to carve ourselves, cultivate self-discipline in prosperity, maintain self-motivation in low times, and live a stable and safe life in a bumpy and bumpy life.
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