In reality, a person suffers in marriage, and many times, it comes from the sloppiness of choosing someone.
If you choose the wrong person, even if you work hard after marriage, you won't be able to live a good life.
Many parents have personally experienced the pain in this kind of marriage.
In this case, don't let your children repeat the mistakes of the past. Some wrong people should be eliminated as soon as possible.
In reality, as a parent, you must be responsible. Remind your children that no matter who you marry, you must find out these 3 details.
01 Whether this person has the ability to support his family or not, will he pay for the family.
In reality, talking about money seems to be very cheesy, as if it tarnishes love. But actually, not entirely.
We human beings cannot exist apart from matter. And marriage cannot run without money.
A solid marriage must be very solid on an economic basis.
Therefore, when falling in love and getting married, whether the other party has the ability to support the family and whether he is willing to pay money to the family are the focus of the investigation.
For example, there are people who earn more, but are not willing to pay for their families. So how much does he earn, and what does it have to do with his partner?
There are also some people who earn very little, and they all rely on their parents to make up for it. That state can only last for a while.
The follow-up will inevitably lead to all kinds of conflicts in the family, isn't it?
When getting married, don't blindly believe in the pie drawn by the other party. What a house, what a material level.
The income level of ordinary people cannot make such a leap. If you can't provide it before marriage, you probably can't provide it after marriage.
In addition, it is also important that a person earns money and is reluctant to spend it on his family.
02 The value provided by the other party's parents in marriage.
In reality, the ideal situation is, of course, the other party's parents, who can provide all kinds of support, but do not need their children to bear any pension.
This is ideal.
But in reality, the reality is complicated.
If a marriage partner, his parents at home can't provide any property value or labor value, but they still need a lot of old-age security.
That marriage, even if it is established, most of them will have an unbalanced mentality and frequent contradictions.
For example, some families can't provide much money when their children get married. If you get married and have children, you can't help with taking care of your children.
Then when he was old and needed the support and care of his juniors, he spoke.
This must be a frequent contradiction, there is no doubt about it.
In reality, when considering marriage, it is important to consider these.
These things, if not carefully planned, may become a catastrophe for marriage.
03 Whether there is a significant financial burden.
In reality, one of the biggest hurdles in marriage is that one party has too heavy a financial burden, which crushes the marriage.
Even a loving couple may not be able to withstand this test and break up.
Therefore, before marriage, it is important to examine this kind of thing clearly. Be clear and thorough.
For example, after some people get married, they find that the other party's family has a lot of financial burden.
All the brothers and sisters in the family have to pay to help.
There are still a lot of debts to be paid.
Do you say this pressure is too big?
All in all, it's better to think about and observe before marriage than to know after marriage.
There are some things that I found out after marriage, so I can only endure them. When the time comes, it will be useless to be angry with yourself.
Therefore, don't be carried away by feelings before marriage, and really don't be hasty.