Title After seven years of obsessive watching, happiness finally called for happiness on the occasion of demolition
Li Fengying's self-report: I am Li Fengying, my husband's name is Zhang Shunfa, and we are ordinary workers in a small local county in Jiangsu.
Working hard in a small food factory, his monthly salary is barely enough to make ends meet, and he doesn't have much savings.
Zhang Shunfa is a native of the county, and his family was good when he was a child, but due to the early death of his parents, the family situation deteriorated, so he had to help his family do odd jobs to make money since he was a child.
I met him on the assembly line of a food factory.
At that time, female workers were very popular, and I was tall and strong, and my strength was not inferior to that of male workers, so the boss took a fancy to me and gave me a good wage.
It didn't take long for us to fall in love and decide to get married.
The wedding day was the happiest moment of my life.
Although Zhang Shunfa is not rich, he treats me sincerely.
On that day, firecrackers were set off in front of the door, couplets were pasted, and lanterns were hung in the living room, a festive scene.
Zhang Shunfa took my hand and said, "Fengying, I will care for and love you for the rest of my life." ”
After we got married, we moved into a small apartment in the county, although it was only more than 20 square meters, but it was enough to meet our needs.
At night, I cook, do laundry, and clean, and Zhang Shunfa will also do his part to keep me busy alone.
Despite the simplicity of life, I feel very fulfilled and happy.
In this way, we lived peacefully in this small county for a few years.
After my daughter was admitted to university and my son dropped out of school a few years later, we welcomed two children
The eldest son's name is Zhang Xiaodong, and the youngest daughter's name is Zhang Xiaoqi.
Their personalities and academic performance vary greatly.
Xiaoqi has been well-behaved and obedient since she was a child, and she is very diligent and studious.
She always does her own homework and reads extracurricular books in her spare time to enrich herself.
As parents, we are so proud of her.
In her third year of high school, Xiaoqi insisted on studying day and night, and her goal was to enter a provincial key university.
One day when I came home from school, Xiaoqi held my hand and said hopefully, "Mom, I will definitely be admitted to university, and then you and Dad will be able to live a good life." ”
I kissed my daughter's forehead: "Mom believes that you will be able to do it, you have put in so much effort, and the result will be very good." ”
In this way, Xiaoqi finally broke out of the encirclement in the college entrance examination and successfully entered the provincial key university she longed for.
Xiaoqi's dream came true, and she became the pride of the whole family.
But Xiaodong's situation is completely different.
He has been obsessed with games since he was a child, does not like to study, and his grades have always been at the bottom of his class.
In the third year of junior high school, Xiaodong's grades were already very bad, and in the end he didn't even barely graduate.
Son, how can you waste time so casually! Think about it, if you are so lazy and delay your studies all day long, how will you survive in the future? "I bitterly rebuked him.
Xiaodong replied indifferently: "Forget it, Mom, children from poor families like us, even if they study, what can they do?"
It's better to go to society early than to waste time at school. ”
When her daughter got married, she deducted 100,000 dowry
A few years later, my daughter graduated from college, found a job in Shanghai, and found a partner to marry.
The prospective son-in-law is a local and falls in love with Xiaoqi at first sight.
One day, the prospective son-in-law came to our house in a luxury car and personally handed over a thick stack of gift money to me: "Uncle and aunt, this is Xiaoqi's bride price, a total of 180,000, please accept it." ”
It stands to reason that all this money should go to my daughter, but I still think about my son Xiaodong in my heart and feel that I should compensate him for his education expenses.
Therefore, at the wedding, I only brought 80,000 to my daughter.
I remember that my son-in-law looked surprised at the time: "Mom, why did you only give 80,000?" I obviously gave 180,008? I smiled and said, "Hey, we have a custom here, when you get married, you can't give all the bride price to the woman, you have to keep some for the family." ”
The son-in-law didn't dig deeper, but I knew that this would definitely become a knot in Xiaoqi's in-law's house.
Her status may be damaged, and if there is nothing to do in the future, her in-laws will talk about this.
Looking back now, I'm really sorry for my daughter.
I think maybe when my son gets married, he can take out the 100,000 yuan as his marriage** to make up for the mistake of treating the two children unfairly.
But now it seems that it was clearly his son's own choice.
Doing so only keeps me away from my daughter, and I really feel very guilty.
After our son got married, we gave him all our savings
A few years later, the son also ushered in his own wedding.
In order to give him a good start, we decided to put all our life savings out.
In addition, we deducted our daughter's 100,000 dowry, which happened to be enough, and we bought a house for him in his hometown.
The son's spouse is named Li Li, who was introduced by a distant relative in the local area.
Lili's family background is ordinary, but she is beautiful and gentle.
On the day of the wedding, I looked at my son with a smile on his face and felt that it was all worth it.
Mom, don't worry, I will definitely run our little family well, make more money, take you and Dad over, and let you live a good life. ”
My son said excitedly holding my hand.
I patted his hand gently and nodded, "Mom believes in you, son."
As long as you love each other, we will be satisfied. ”
After our son got married, we didn't have much savings to cope with our later years.
But for the sake of our son, we didn't think much about it.
However, I was still a little uneasy at the time.
I said to my wife in private: "If this continues, we will have no money, what will we do in our old age?" My wife comforted me and said, "My son will do his best to be filial to us, don't think too much." ”
I didn't think too much about it, I just hoped that my son could have a good life and then come to support us in his old age.
went to his son's house to care for the elderly, and was called as a nanny for another year
My wife passed away in an accident, and although I was compensated a lot of money, I was the only one left in the end.
For the sake of my future retirement, I moved to my son's house to live with him.
At first, I felt that my daughter-in-law Li Li was very good to me, so I took on all the housework.
Responsible for cooking, laundry, cleaning, and serving them before and after.
Li Li went to work every day, so I became a full-time nanny at home.
Wake up early and return late to do housework, then accompany your grandson to eat, play and study.
I'm nearly 70 years old, and I'm half dead tired.
Daughter-in-law Li Li has an eccentric temperament and often makes trouble unreasonably.
Today I think my food is too salty, and tomorrow I say that my laundry is not clean enough, and I am picky.
Mom, you eat and drink for nothing in our house, and you don't save some money, you always waste ingredients, it's really useless! "Once, Li Li was furious because I cut too many vegetables.
Holding back tears, I said in a trembling voice, "Lili, I've really been careful.
Don't talk about me, I'm very uncomfortable. ”
My son Xiaodong obviously saw all this, but he still let Li Li make trouble unreasonably and turned a blind eye to my harm.
What hurts me the most is that my previous savings have been used up by my son, and I hint at the need for living expenses.
My son still complained that I spent money too quickly, and how could I spend the compensation money in less than a year.
Obviously, I gave all the money to my son, but he still said that.
My life seemed to have come to the end of hopelessness, and there was no hope everywhere.
My son-in-law was taken to Shanghai and cared for, and living in my son's house was painful for me
At this moment, my daughter called ** and said that she wanted to take me to live with her in Shanghai.
Mom, I heard you talk about the situation at my brother's house, and my husband and I both think it's inappropriate! We decided to pick you up this weekend and live with us in Shanghai in the future. ”
I should not have disturbed you with the water spilled by my married daughter. ”
Mom, what are you talking about! You are my own mother, how can I watch you being wronged! Come with us and I'll take care of you. ”
That's how I arrived at my daughter's home in Shanghai.
My son-in-law Li Feng took meticulous care of me and didn't treat me as an outsider at all.
This is in stark contrast to the situation when he was angry at his son's house.
Mom, your old man has worked hard all his life, and he should enjoy his old age in peace.
Whatever you want to buy, just tell me, and don't put up with those grievances anymore! "My son-in-law often said to me.
At first, I was embarrassed and thought it would cause them trouble.
But my daughter and son-in-law never bother me as long as I am happy.
I am grateful to God for giving me this belonging in my old age.
When I think back to the suffering I suffered at my son's house, I cherish the present day even more.
I finally realized that the most precious thing in the world is sincerity.
I am grateful to my daughter for giving me warmth and making up for the wounds in my heart.
My son came to the door again to cheat money, and my days when I thought I could spend the rest of my life peacefully at my daughter's house were shattered
My son, who hadn't been in touch for years, suddenly came back to see me.
Mom, I really miss you, you are my biological mother, I realized my mistake, don't be angry anymore, come home with me! As soon as my son entered the door, he pulled me and pretended to be concerned.
I smiled coldly: "I know very well the behavior of your husband and wife, and it must not be good for you to please me now."
Tell me, what are you going to plot? Daughter-in-law Li Li hurriedly said: "Mom, you see how good I am to you now, we are sincerely here to pick you up." ”
I looked at them carefully and asked, "What is it that is so urgent to take me back?" The son hesitated for a while before telling the truth: "Mom, our hometown is going to be demolished, you have to go back to sign and receive the money, this is a pie that fell from the sky!" "I see! I sneered: "I knew that it was absolutely no good for you to look for me, but you just wanted to get the money from me for the demolition!" Seeing that he couldn't tell me, my son began to play tricks: "Mom, you know in your heart that the money for demolition can't be taken by outsiders, and you should put our family first!" As he spoke, the son looked at his son-in-law, "This money can only be used for our family until it is handed over to me, Mom, you say yes?" The son said with a hippie smile.
I was so angry that I kicked them out the door, and I would not be deceived.
I saw through them for what they really were, and I would never give them another chance to hurt me.
This incident made me fully realize the true purpose of my son's family.
Since then, I have lived a stable life at my daughter's house.
My son would come to see me as if nothing had happened, but I knew that it was just hypocrisy, and I was left with nothing but indifference to them.
This warmth soothes all my wounds and finds happiness in the last days of my life.
Leave regrets, but no regrets in this life
I've had a lot of ups and downs in my life, and I've left some regrets.
For example, you shouldn't be partial to your son at the beginning, you shouldn't have deducted your daughter's bride price without permission, and so on.
I would like to thank God for giving me my daughter, and although I owed her a debt back then, she still gave me warmer love.
My daughter often hugged me and said, "Mom, let it pass."
Your old man has worked hard all his life, and the last thing I can bear is to see you wronged. ”
I nodded, a warm current welling up in my heart.
I know that with my daughter's temperament, she doesn't mean to complain about me in the slightest.
She will only tolerate my faults and give me warmth.
There are many confusions and stumbles in life, but with the family affection of my daughter, I already feel fulfilled and satisfied.
I believe that I will spend my old age happily with her.
I often ask myself what I can leave behind in the end of a person's life.
I think that even if my nephew doesn't pass on my surname, my flesh and blood will live well.
I have no regrets, because I have the most precious thing in my life - the sincere treatment from my daughter's family.
I will be grateful for everything my daughter has given me and walk the last road of my life peacefully.
Although sometimes I think of my son, I think about whether to give the money to my son and maintain our mother-son relationship.
Do you think I should maintain this mother-son relationship?