What is Pattern?
When playing chess, take one step and look at ten moves; When doing things, think of the ending at the beginning; Take success as a new starting point. It's all pattern.
I like this quote very much: "No matter how big the pancake is, it can't be bigger than the pan of the pan." ”
The size of the pan determines the largest pancake. Such logic can be applied to many aspects of life. For example, if you enter a unit, if you don't change jobs, the position of the number one is the biggest pattern you are chasing, no matter how much you toss and how much ability you have, there is no way to break through.
Therefore, when we understand the "pattern", we should grasp the "scale". The fundamental purpose of enlarging the pattern is to do our best within the limited "scale". Don't be too ambitious and do things that are outside of your knowledge.
The person who really has a big pattern is the person who has a "degree".
First, be diligent and measured, and combine work and rest.
I have seen such a story: Xu Guangqi, an agricultural expert in the Ming Dynasty, studied very hard when he was young.
His father often said, "Son, don't try so hard, worry about your body not being able to bear it." ”
Xu Guangqi patted his chest and said, "I'm in good health, I'm fine." ”
Not long after, he really fell ill. The doctor advised him to get plenty of rest.
After resting for a few days, he regained his spirits and suddenly said to his father: "The cotton field at home is not high, so it should be that the cotton has not rested well." I've got a solution. ”
The next day, he ran to the field and pinched the "top core" on the cotton seedlings. There is no doubt that his parents punished him.
In the autumn, cotton production really increased. Because there is no top core, the branches are multiplied; The saplings are no longer desperately competing for nutrients from the buds.
If a person rests, he will be more energetic in the coming days; Flowers and trees need to rest, and the next day they can flourish. If you stay up late and work overtime, the night is the same as the day, you will overdraw your body, your life will be out of balance, and you will "return in vain".
Come on, work hard, fight", you need to say it often, but you also have to stop according to your own situation. Eating when you are hungry, resting when you are tired, sleeping when you are sleepy, and drinking water when you are thirsty, are also happy lives.
No matter how hard you try, you can't read the whole world. Since this is the case, then take your time, read the book in a targeted manner, and your knowledge has been growing, and you have met your expectations.
Second, it is more real and moderate, and it should be released.
There is such a story in "Yu Ion": A farmer who raises horses, and adds a powerful pony to his family, and everyone thinks that this is a thousand miles of horses.
The horse keeper sent the pony to the palace in the hope that the pony would have great success. However, the emperor is not sure whether the pony can become a maxima; The royal horse breeder, also can't be sure.
The pony was returned, and the horse breeder was frustrated.
A friend said, "There is a bird that stands out in the flock. The surrounding birds were jealous of it, hurt it, and drove it away. It seems that it is a good thing that there is no Maxima at home and will not be jealous. ”
There is a way, take a step back and open the sky, so that you and I are safe.Many things have no fixed result, and if you have to compete, you will fall into a dead end of thinking. If you have the mentality that "success or failure is acceptable", you won't be so tired.
The pattern of life is inherently able to advance and retreat. In the bustling **, some people go east, some people go west, and there are people in the north and south, but the direction is different, which does not mean that the pattern is very small.
Being a person is elastic, just like a soft light, which can reach every corner, and the pattern is truly "full".
Third, the rules should be moderate and flexible in a timely manner.
A friend of mine has a house and a car, and both parents have stable jobs. When he was in his twenties, he set the criteria for finding a girlfriend: 1.7 meters tall, delicate facial features, and a bachelor's degree.
He insisted on following the map, and after more than ten years, he was now almost forty years old, and he was still alone.
Last month, when a friend was sick and hospitalized, and his parents were not around, he suddenly felt very lonely, and he was especially envious of the patients around him, who had a partner to take care of. So he stopped talking about the criteria for choosing a mate.
We often say that a ruler should be used to measure people, and a bowl of water should be level. Realistically speaking, it can't be done, there is no absolutely fair thing in the world, and there are no rules that can never be broken.
Many truths are the "standards" of a certain stage, which should change with the changes of the times.
The scale should be strict, but not overly strict. At some point, a single inch of relaxation reflects the pattern of "humility and low-key".
It's best not to use your own ruler to measure everyone, but to stand in each other's shoes to see the problem. Only by insisting on the interaction between people and between people and society can you adjust the rules to the most appropriate position.
Fourth, have a degree of ability and pay attention to single-mindedness.
There are always some people who can do everything, but they are not good.
If a person who learns martial arts knows all kinds of martial arts, then many of his moves are all fists and embroidered legs; If he is holding a shield, a spear, a bow and arrows, an axe, a hammer, and riding a horse, he will probably not be able to defeat anyone, but will be too busy to take care of himself.
Be single-minded in doing things, and be able to stand out in one aspect, even if you are a master. Managers pay attention to management skills and do not necessarily learn agricultural skills; Scientists should concentrate on research, not on management skills.
Just like Cheng Biting Jin, with the ability of the three-plate axe, he became the founder of the Tang Dynasty.
Within a certain range, it is remarkable to improve your skills to the extreme, and then go to find new breakthroughs.
To be a man, we must not only have the world in mind, but also take care of our small family and care for ourselves; It is necessary not only to be ambitious, but also to be down-to-earth.Zeng Guofan said: "If you are ambitious, you can't do it, but you have to ask for it." ”
The pattern that can really be infinitely magnified is a person's mind, and in addition, there is a limit to everything. There are no limits to being a person, but you must do things in moderation.
No matter what position you are in, the first time to figure it out, the way out of the position is in**, the maximum limit is in**. Don't be too ambitious and do things that are beyond the scope of your knowledge.
People's hearts have rulers, and rulers are round.