The "wave of layoffs" has never passed, and you may be the next one to be optimized. When people reach middle age, there are fewer and fewer retreats in the workplace, how to be smooth sailing before the age of 35, and how to be embarrassed after the age of 35. Can't roll young people, can't adapt to the new environment, can't keep up with social trends. In order to take out a mortgage and a car loan and support his family, he had no choice but to compromise his work expectations and salary, and he dropped again and again. In fact, 35 years old is the year of life, and I can't resist the butterflies on the other side of the Atlantic to stir up their wings. Here are 9 tips for you in middle age01
Exercise your body well, and your physical condition after middle age is definitely worse day by day, and you are not in the state of being in your 20s. The result of your hard work may be riddled with illness and pain in your back and legs. Your lifestyle of forgetting to sleep and eating, and fighting at night may result in a serious illness. Once you go to the hospital, you may empty your wallet, and at that time you will really have no body and empty purse. The body of middle-aged people really can't be overstated. Lao Zhao is a friend of mine, 32 years old this year, who has been working in a game company, and the normal work is "996". Once when I had dinner with him, I noticed that he had puffy cheeks and poor spirits after not seeing him for half a year. The weather in October was blowing the air conditioner to eat, my cheeks were sweating, I couldn't stop it, and my body was too weak. Later, after I said it, I started exercising, and the two of us ate less takeout, and they would rest early at night if they had nothing to do. Recently, when we met again, I was radiant, and I was a bit back to my 20s. ** All said"The body is the capital of the revolution", not to mention us who are middle-aged and carry our families. Only with good health can we take better care of the family, and only with good health can we have a better state to meet the work.
Take care of the family.
There has always been an old saying, "Behind a successful man there is a woman who pays silently".
Behind every middle-aged man is a family that pays silently.
Every frustrated middle-aged person looks back and realizes that only family is their final destination. Family is the harbor of the soul, the starting point of our struggle, and the end point of our return. Working hard outside, suffering setbacks and difficulties, a hug from a partner when we go home, and a kiss from a child can become the confidence to resolve our distress and exhaustion. If you open the door after work and there is only an empty room, the darkness will swallow you like an abyss, and in an instant your lonely boat will sink to the bottom of the sea. Family is a place where we don't need to care about returns, and the warmth and touching it can bring to you far exceed expectations. Time is pushing us forward, children are growing up, parents are getting old, and the youth of our partners is passing away. What we have to do is to grasp the moment and love them and love the family now.
Only when we can manage wealth can we manage our wealth well. The planning of wealth and living expenses is the foundation of our life. During the Chinese New Year, 60% of the wealth of most Chinese households was allocated to real estate and 20% to savings, and the fluctuations in the real estate market in the past two years have shrunk the wealth of most families. confirms the old saying "investment needs to be cautious", especially the family wealth after middle age, he carries too much meaning. One commonly used theory in household asset allocation is the Standard & Poor's "1234" rule of household asset allocation, which divides assets into four parts:
10% of the money to be spent is used for short-term consumption of the family's daily expenses.
20% of the money is used to protect the health of the family**.
30% of the money is used for venture capital management.
40% of the capital is used for stable savings such as banks.
The fluctuations of the economic cycle will affect every ordinary family, and managing family wealth well can survive the crisis.
Wait until the economy improves and opportunities come before capital strikes.
Reduce ineffective social in 2016 There is a little story in social ** is very popular: you are chopping wood, met a sheep herder on a mountain, chatting about the day and feeling like-minded, see each other late, after a morning, his sheep are full, your firewood has not been cut. The adult world is very realistic, and most of the social interaction is a personal exchange of interests. The wine and dinner are the business I negotiated with you, and the contract you signed with him. Cognitive asymmetry, unequal status, and lack of interest in socializing are unhelpful and time-consuming. When you are not strong enough, no matter how hard you try to integrate into the circle and climb across classes, it will be in vain. When you are a bird, your ambition can be known by many people and can be recognized. When you are a phoenix, there are naturally sycamores willing to let you inhabit. The strength of adults lies in the self, and when you reduce ineffective socialization, you will have enough time and energy to be able to strengthen yourself.
Improvement of cognition Luo Yonghao Everyone knows that New Oriental lecturer has successively founded Niubo.com and English training school. In 2012, he established Hammer Technology, and then left Hammer Technology in 2019 due to poor management, and owed 600 million yuan.
entered the Douyin live broadcast industry in 2020, and has successfully paid off a huge debt of 600 million yuan in recent years.
Lao Luo's cognition is constantly improving, and he is always the first to enter every new industry, and he has recently entered the AI industry. Different cognitions have different perspectives on things. An apple that falls is a fruit in our hands, and gravity in Newton's hands. Cognitive enhancement requires us to break down old stereotypes and rebuild our thinking from the ruins.
When faced with a crisis, high-dimensional cognition always allows us to find another way. Only by increasing our awareness can we harness the ever-increasing wealth.
Haruki Murakami said, "No matter who or when, people always have to look for a romantic glimmer around the dark clouds to live." "A career crisis doesn't leave us with nothing, but an emotional crisis can make us ruin ourselves. Middle-aged people's emotional regulation ability should have matured, and they should no longer be as reckless as a young person, and they often hurt themselves in the end.
Han Xin was able to swallow his anger when he was humiliated by his crotch because Han Xin understood that he was alone and the situation was unfavorable to him. Not because of cowardice, but because of the wisdom of seeing the situation clearly. When encountering problems, we should "look ahead and look backward", think long-term, and think seriously.
You must know that many times it is not crises and setbacks that break us, but our own unease. Failure is not terrible, what is terrible is not the courage to start again.
Only by facing your own heart can you face the hardships of life.
Improving his ability Lao Zhang is an accounting employee of a company, and at the end of each month, the company's accounts are busy, and he can't be busy at all.
There is only overtime and hard work, but fortunately, there are only a few days a month, and Lao Zhang is happy.
Recently, the company came to a few zeros, and the company's work was busy one day, and there were still a bunch of reports that could not be processed. The supervisor called a few post-zeros to help, and Lao Zhang thought that these young people would definitely not be able to do it very well if they were inexperienced. I didn't expect a few people to open an AI interface, enter a bunch of parameters, and the messy numbers were immediately neat. Lao Zhang humbly asked for advice, and he also mastered this tool every month.
One of the most important skills in the workplace is to be able to iterate quickly and adapt to new technologies. You must know that no matter how AI develops, it will always need to be controlled by humans.
Therefore, people are the core, ability is the core, and whoever can quickly learn new abilities will be able to quickly adapt to the future era.
We must continue to polish ourselves, have the ability to learn quickly, and always be able to keep up with the times.
The popular word "slash youth" on the Internet before being a "slash middle-aged" refers to young people who are no longer satisfied with the lifestyle of "single-minded occupation", but choose to have multiple occupations and identities. In fact, everyone in modern society can have a "slash life". The slash is that when our main business is in crisis and a single income is unstable, there is one more way to protect our lives and resist the ups and downs. In the same way that eggs cannot be put in the same basket, we need to develop our own dimensions and open up our own quadrants.
When our professional ability cannot be the first in the industry, we can do the second in two industries and the second in three industries, so that our competitiveness will be infinite.
And learning a hobby and doing a side hustle is a simple thing in the Internet age. You are good at writing and can write articles: you have a cheerful personality and can appear on camera to do self**: you like to buy things, you can share your hobbies on Xiaohongshu.
Remember, when a single capability is insufficient, we have to "attack it in groups."
Breaking away from learning to give up Eiko Yamashita's "Breaking Away" says:
What you can't do is decided. Those who have no fate in life should be given up. The heart is troubled and obsessed, and it should be left. As far as the eye can see, there are memories. All that I think is the past. Let go of attachments, and the heart can be at peace.The middle-aged person's renunciation is not only the old things at home, trivial matters, but also the abandonment of their own hearts.
The good things of the past will make us obsessed with memories, and the painful things of the past will keep us awake at night.
Learn to give up, learn to leave behind the inherent attitude and way of life.
Stop being stubborn about what you want but can't get.
It is a philosophy of life to meet every day with a new attitude.
Hayao Miyazaki's "Spirited Away" has a line: Hot Spot Engine Project "No matter how hard the road ahead is, as long as you go in the right direction, no matter how bumpy, you are closer to happiness than standing still." ”
Life always inadvertently hits us and always makes us miserable. But isn't that what life is all about?
Time is pushing us forward, and life is passing faster and faster, getting shorter and shorter.
In any case, we still have to move forward, because after the night must be the time when the morning sun rises.